Nov 21- Siblings using parents as threats
By peachpurple
@peachpurple (13961)
Malaysia
November 20, 2017 11:00pm CST
What do you do when your sibling "used" one or both of your parents as a threat against you?
This is a common practice in my family and my parent-in-law which I find siblings are ungrateful and horrible with misusing parents. We all should take care of old parents as they had taken care of us since young until adulthood. However when our parents had decided to live under one roof with one of our sibling, that person "takes over" the power and misused the authority over parent's mobility.
A good example is when my mother-in-law was not allowed to contact us because of a misunderstanding between my sibling-in-law and us , which had nothing to do with the old folks. It was the sibling -in-law had threatened the mother not to contact us OR ELSE..... ( you can guess what happens next ).
Isn't it ungrateful using "dirty hands" threats?
Does it happens to you too?
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11 responses
@LadyDuck (502571)
• Italy
24 Nov 17
@peachpurple Yes, it is a very unpleasant situation, this makes feel us very bad.
@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 17
@LadyDuck oh you did too? Felt bad sin't it?
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 17
@dodoazo good to hear that your family isn't acting that way
@misunderstood_zombie (8765)
• United States
21 Nov 17
I'm so sorry this happens to you. We try hard not to fight, though it was much harder when my kids were teenagers.
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 17
yes, it is best that siblings not to fight with each other using parents as the golden card.
@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 17
@dodoazo I know that too, but they don't think that way. Cannot understand them either and the worst part is they taught their children to do that too.
@Ithink (10106)
• United States
28 Nov 17
@peachpurple Not fair to the parents either. 
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 17
@Ithink yes, I regard them as children, childish act
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@yanzalong (19091)
• Indonesia
21 Nov 17
It is very ungrateful to have done such things.
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 17
@yanzalong I agree with you but siblings do not think that way. They use parents as the bait or the golden card in their hands to obtain something
@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 17
@just4him yes, she was abused and yet she didn't realized that !
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 17
@TheInvisibleMan whack their bums for me, will ya?
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
1 Jan 18
Yeah but it is common in my 8n law family
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 17
@prashu228 when the parents did not teach the children well, that is what happens when they are grown up.
@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
21 Nov 17
No nothing like that in our family. My inlaws are both deceased but we all treated them with love and my mother is still alive but my brothers and I get along well and all love her.
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 17
@BelleStarr that is well brought up family, Kudos to your parents !
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 17
@jstory07 yes, children do that because they are childish but what about grown ups? Jealousy or childish too? We call it "Power in their hands"
@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 17
@dodoazo yeah, bad example, teaching kids the wrong concept
@cahaya1983 (11116)
• Malaysia
22 Nov 17
That is sad. It's downright mean and immature for them to do such a thing because of a dispute between siblings.
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@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 17
@cahaya1983 yes, I just don't understand why both sides of my sibling and sibling in-laws do that either. Get attention?
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