WINDOWS OF THE SOUL.

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@Kandae11 (53679)
December 24, 2017 10:55am CST
It is said that the eyes are windows of the soul, but can one really tell the mind of a person by looking deep into his or her eyes? Sometimes it is difficult to know if a person is sincere or speaking the truth. I once dated a guy who swore he was unmarried. One month into the relationship his wife showed up at my workplace and informed me that they had been married for several years and had five children. I suspect she must have followed his car (he gave me a ride to work on a few occasions) - and she also divulged that he had been doing this sort of thing for years. It would really be nice if we could tell what a person is like first off just by looking into the eyes. Some say rapid blinking or avoiding eye contact means that person is not to be trusted. What do you think? How can you tell?
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@Madshadi (8849)
• Brussels, Belgium
24 Dec 17
Some people are just good liars and don't care, so they would barely show any signs of lying. Other's would be tortured by their conscious if they did something terrible like that and would expose themselves easily. It all depends on the person. But just looking into their eyes may not tell you much.
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• Kathmandu, Nepal
24 Dec 17
@Kandae11 Completely agreed! There is no need of further explanation!
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• Preston, England
24 Dec 17
good thing his wife told you what he was doing - I wonder why she didn't leave him
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@Kandae11 (53679)
24 Dec 17
Though shocked, I was glad that she informed me . When I told him about the visit he continued to deny having a wife and kids - but I realized that he was talking without making eye contact - something I hadn't noticed before. She said she was tired of it, but I suspect she will continue with him, because of his good financial position - and her being unemployed.
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• Preston, England
24 Dec 17
@Kandae11 rather sad for her to be trapped like that
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@Kandae11 (53679)
24 Dec 17
@arthurchappell Yes it is.
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• Philippines
26 Dec 17
This is why we should get to know the person. If only we have the ability to read some one's mind.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
26 Dec 17
I would like to have a hint of the person's character without actually reading his or her mind. What I discover might be too disturbing.
@DianneN (246560)
• United States
25 Dec 17
What a creep! Sometimes smooth talkers are difficult to figure out.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
25 Dec 17
Indeed, some make fooling people their special business.
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@just4him (305864)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec 17
The eyes are only part of it. There are other tell tale mannerisms to watch for as well. I don't go along with the eye contact thing or the blinking eyes. I rarely look a person in the eyes when talking to them. I don't know why I don't, but I don't feel comfortable doing so, it's like staring at them, and I don't do that. However, there are plenty of other things that can tell their story.
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@just4him (305864)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec 17
@Kandae11 Yeah, you never know where politeness and boldness cross lines.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
26 Dec 17
Come to think of it - I don't usually stare into the eyes of the person I am talking to either - least not continuously. If the person is a male I won't want to appear bold.
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• Kathmandu, Nepal
24 Dec 17
Well, I don’t believe how someone can read the brain by looking into the eyes! I think this is nonsense! I have found many sober looking girls very clever in disguise! I can't say what a person is like just by looking in the eyes!
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@Kandae11 (53679)
24 Dec 17
Same here, people can hide their feelings, but it is suspicious when they can't look directly at you when speaking - lies or truth.
• Kathmandu, Nepal
24 Dec 17
@Kandae11 But I have seen many people speaking speaking lies being confident as if he is telling the truth! I don’t thinkI can differentiate people in that way! But some people can!
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
25 Dec 17
I find that people who are trying to hide something usually won't look into your eyes and that I find offputting.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
25 Dec 17
Definitely one way of knowing that something is up.
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@jstory07 (134388)
• Roseburg, Oregon
26 Dec 17
Married with five children. That would be a sign to drop that guy. Did you?
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@Kandae11 (53679)
26 Dec 17
Immediately, I also did some checking and found that she was telling the truth - not that I hadn't believed her from the beginning, but he insisted that she was lying when I confronted him.
@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
28 Dec 17
There's no way to tell for sure, but I find that the older I've got the more unlikely I am to be fooled.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
28 Dec 17
Same here, I've become more aware with age.
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@garymarsh6 (23393)
• United Kingdom
26 Dec 17
Eek what a cad! I hope you gave him a swift kick you know where which would have dampened his ardor for good!
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@Kandae11 (53679)
26 Dec 17
I dumped him yes, but he didn't retreat quietly. He kept on insisting that the lady was not his wife.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
26 Dec 17
we can never fool others with our eyes. when i am joking, even with a serious straight face, my eyes can tell it all.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
26 Dec 17
Yes indeed, the eyes tell a lot.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
25 Dec 17
Well, for the past 7 years. I can tell the boyfriend if he is lying to me by looking to his eyes. Lol Like if he's not telling the truth he will not stare at me.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
25 Dec 17
@Kandae11 Yes, that is when I know he is not telling me anything.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
25 Dec 17
No eye contact - something is up.
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@YrNemo (20261)
25 Dec 17
I have found that liars are the ones with most soulful and sincere eyes. The thing is, they believe they were telling you the truth which their twisted logic told them so, so they were really sincere about the whole thing.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
25 Dec 17
I know some eventually begin to believe their own lies. I got the proof that the man was married - but even after I ended the relationship he would call and continue to deny being married.
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@YrNemo (20261)
25 Dec 17
@Kandae11 I have some acquaintances who are like that so I know. Everyone knows very well that those people lie but themselves, quite amusing!
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@saritflor (3914)
• Hungary
26 Dec 17
In the past I used to think "Eyes don't lie" well with time sadly I discovered eyes do lie. Though, sometimes When a person is really good from within it will show up in his or her eyes.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
26 Dec 17
Some people are too good at hiding their true feelings.
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@saritflor (3914)
• Hungary
26 Dec 17
@Kandae11 Oh I bet!
@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
25 Dec 17
This is my weakness that I can't judge people so easily and get bluffed by them easily. I have been cheated by the people in the past whom I beloved to be my friend but they turned out to be not my friends later on.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
25 Dec 17
I had the same problem. However, over the years I became more aware and I am not easily fooled now.
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@cahaya1983 (11121)
• Malaysia
25 Dec 17
Oh how awful. I've also read articles about how we could tell that someone is not honest through their body language, but I can't really say I'm that good at "reading" people that way.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
25 Dec 17
With some it can be easy to tell and with some others you would never dream it is possible.
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@Freelanzer (10745)
• Canada
25 Dec 17
Sometimes it is just intuition but many times we don't trust it
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@Kandae11 (53679)
26 Dec 17
Sometimes we believe what we want to believe.
• Nairobi, Kenya
24 Dec 17
If I have been close to someone for hours,days or weeks, that is enough closeness to help me know when they tell the truth. This is because, people rarely lie when you are getting to know them. They only start lying after they start liking you. I am sensitive enough to notice a change in the tone of the voice, actions, silence and the type of friends hanging around the person. If you are extremely slow to judging people, you can always tell when they lie or tell the truth because they will always feel safe around you.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
24 Dec 17
Well, this guy lied from the beginning, but I learned to be more observant since then.
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@myhuka (207)
25 Dec 17
because we tend to believe people are honest.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
25 Dec 17
We know that all of them are not - but sometimes it is hard to differentiate.
• United States
25 Dec 17
What a terrible man. I've often thought it would be nice to know when someone is lying, but I have also been fooled many a time.
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@Kandae11 (53679)
25 Dec 17
Yes, it can be difficult. Some really act very convincing.
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