An Unwanted Guest

United States
January 25, 2018 11:59pm CST
My sister was over visiting earlier, and we were in the kitchen making lunch when there was a pounding at my door. Sometimes the mailman bangs on the door like that, so I opened it even though I wasn't expecting anything or anyone, and usually I won't answer the door if I don't know who it is. I was greeted with a big bearded man who was looking for my boyfriend. It was some cousin he has never met. I've been warned about this guy from my boyfriend's older sister, who has been going to court for the last year fighting him over their grandma's estate. The grandma died back in the '90s, and the estate was supposed to be divided up between her four sons, but instead one of them somehow took control of it. Anyway the cousin at my door is trying to get it divided up between everyone equally, or so he claims. Since my boyfriend's adopted dad died 20 years ago, his quarter of the estate is to be divided among his children. The cousin claims that my boyfriend's sister is trying to keep it all secret so that she and her husband will get a bigger cut. But that's the same thing they say about the cousin, so who knows. Anyway I don't know this guy and I wasn't happy that he found us. He was wanting my boyfriend's phone number and I said I didn't think he'd like me giving it out. Then the guy started talking like my boyfriend has an inheritance coming and he just wants to make sure he actually gets it. I was torn on what to do so I finally just gave him my boyfriend's number and said he gets off work after 5. The cousin acted like he didn't want to get him in trouble by calling him at work so he would wait to call once he got off. I texted my boyfriend to let him know what was going on and when he got back to me he said the cousin showed up at his workplace right after he had been over here, and told him the same stuff he told me. But I like that! Acting like he didn't want to call while he was at work and get him in trouble and then just showing up there in person! My boyfriend says he thinks the cousin already had his phone number and was just checking to see if it was the right one. Something about that man seemed shady, but it could be because I've already heard a bunch of bad stuff about him. My boyfriend's sister says bad stuff about other relatives who are good people, though, so I could be off in my judgement. Anyway, so my boyfriend might have an inheritance coming his way. But he says he's not holding his breath. He doesn't care about the grandma's estate and wishes he hadn't been dragged into this mess. But hey, if he gets something from it, cool; if not, he's no worse off than he is now. I just hope that cousin doesn't keep coming around bugging us. Next time I won't answer the door.
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• United States
26 Jan 18
i'll tell you one way people get control over estates-they try to get the others declared incompetant.my uncle tried that and ended up making the lawyer think he was the way he was acting.kinda backfired on him..
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• United States
26 Jan 18
I think that's what this cousin has been trying to do with the uncle who took over the estate. Although one of Shawn's cousins (one I do know) was made executor of the estate and he's been farming the land for years, so...I really don't know what the hell's going on there. I'm not even sure why we got dragged into it.
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@andriaperry (118793)
• Anniston, Alabama
26 Jan 18
Working with estates and yes one went on for 18 years, People have to be notified by mail, from the courts so he probably wanted to make sure he still lived there so the letter can be delivered. I can tell you most estates take a very long time, I have three open now, after the minor children are adults it can be closed. One may never be closed because there is not any money in the estate and never was.
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• United States
27 Jan 18
Hopefully that's all he's doing. My boyfriend's sister keeps making it out like this guy is greedy and just "horrible," but I've also heard her say crap about a relative that I am friends with and love, so I have to take what she says with a grain of salt. Greed turns people into monsters, unfortunately. My boyfriend was unaware that his grandma's estate hadn't already been dealt with until all court stuff started happening.
• United States
27 Jan 18
That is really scary. I'm glad your sister was home with you. The cousin out of the blue coming after him is scary, then shows up at his work. And , they've never spoke before?
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• United States
27 Jan 18
@Srbageldog I would have been really scared ! I would have been intimidated too. I hope he only stood at the door? Or did you invite him in,
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• United States
27 Jan 18
@infatuatedbby Oh no, I didn't invite him in! I stood at the door and held the door so he couldn't even see inside. I never let strange men in my home, unless they are there to repair something or do pest control.
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• United States
27 Jan 18
Nope, they've never spoken before. And the guy is a very big, intimidating man! If my sister hadn't been here with me, I might not have opened the door, or I probably would have panicked if I answered the door and got stuck dealing with that man. I'm glad she was here too.
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@RasmaSandra (98157)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
26 Jan 18
Sounds like that cousin could be trouble. If he comes back or your boyfriend sees him consider maybe getting a restraining order against him. No sense in putting yourselves in danger.
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• United States
26 Jan 18
I think he is likely going to pull something where he gets my boyfriend to sign paperwork for his "inheritance" and swindle him out of his portion of it.
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@RasmaSandra (98157)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
26 Jan 18
@Srbageldog so be very careful and consider asking legal advice.
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
26 Jan 18
I dont think its you, or you hearing things about him from others. Cause it / he does sound strange.
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• United States
26 Jan 18
Yeah, I got a weird vibe from him.
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
26 Jan 18
@Srbageldog stay away
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@Plethos (13718)
• United States
26 Jan 18
Good thing your bf doesnt care. It wont affect anything going on.
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• United States
27 Jan 18
I just hope his cousin doesn't keep pestering us.
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• United States
27 Jan 18
@Plethos I don't think it will come to that, but you never know. Hopefully not.
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@Plethos (13718)
• United States
27 Jan 18
@Srbageldog - start looking into a restraining order, just in case perhaps.
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@GardenGerty (169591)
• United States
3 Feb 18
I think the only thing you could have done differently would have been to ask for the cousin's phone number and say you would pass it on. If he was honest, it would have been no problem. I hate that you are being dragged into all of this.
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• United States
4 Feb 18
That is what I originally did, but I knew my partner would probably just throw it away. Apparently the cousin already had his phone number anyway, as he had tried to call him previously. So he was just being sneaky about verifying it. My partner spoke to his sister recently, who has a lawyer and is more involved in this whole mess. She said there's no reason for the cousin to be going door-to-door visiting relatives about any of it; if the lawyers need anything, they will request it via mail.
@jstory07 (148790)
• Roseburg, Oregon
27 Jan 18
They should just divide everything and move on with their life.
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• United States
27 Jan 18
I agree, I don't understand why they have to keep going to court over it. My boyfriend's sister and husband are supporting the elderly relative who somehow took over the estate, so I'm wondering if they're planning to swindle all of it out of him by getting him to sign it all over to them.
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@sallypup (69255)
• Centralia, Washington
27 Jan 18
So the man actually is a relative?
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• United States
27 Jan 18
Yes, he is my boyfriend's cousin, but they had never met until yesterday. I don't think their fathers got along.
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@BabeSays (8795)
• Mauritius
28 Jan 18
I don't answer the door unless it's my hubby. We live in the same house of my in laws. Sometimes when my mother in law knocks. I do not answer and pretend that I was sleeping. I do not like anyone bugging me.