So what if the bridge washes away?
By bonnie
@bunnybon7 (50970)
Holiday, Florida
June 7, 2018 5:03pm CST
My daughter unfortunately likes to leave things go too long and if I say something about it and she is not ready to deal with it, she will say " we'll cross that bridge when we come to it ." 
Well I have never been like that. I like to get things done before it is too late. so, yes I worry and don't like leaving some things up to her. What if the bridge is washed out or broken and you can't get to the other side for something you need ? 
It has always been my problem.
Funny thing is, she must not use that attitude with work cause she is always manager or assistant manager! 
this is something I can't figure out and they always never have wanted to let her go. they like her work.
If I had that attitude, I assure you that bridge would be burnt down, washed away and forgot about and I would be starving for food on the other side. 
Do you wait to cross the bridge?
Well I have never been like that. I like to get things done before it is too late. so, yes I worry and don't like leaving some things up to her. What if the bridge is washed out or broken and you can't get to the other side for something you need ? It has always been my problem.
Funny thing is, she must not use that attitude with work cause she is always manager or assistant manager! this is something I can't figure out and they always never have wanted to let her go. they like her work.
If I had that attitude, I assure you that bridge would be burnt down, washed away and forgot about and I would be starving for food on the other side.
Do you wait to cross the bridge?14 people like this
16 responses
@GardenGerty (169449)
• United States
7 Jun 18
I am a planner, a list maker, a doer. Your daughter may have a plan, in her mind, and not want to share it with you for some reason. Like she thinks it is something you will not like, or she does not want to worry you. She does not realize it worries you even more.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
8 Jun 18
that is very true. sometimes it is to keep me from worrying but often it is because she don't want me to know she messed something up and i will be mad about it . she thinks she can fix it before i find out. usually its about money and i have to figure a way for us
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@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
8 Jun 18
No, No, No, I am very proactive. I like to anticipate anything that might be around the next bend.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
8 Jun 18
yes i just wish my daughter would be that way.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
8 Jun 18
Sometimes I will wait a while and see what happens with different things but then I will cross bridges if I need to yes indeed.
Don´t worry so if you can help it and maybe your Daughter has already thought of whatever it is and forgets to tell you.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
9 Jun 18
she has done that before then chastized me for thinking it's not done. problem is she forgets how many times we have been up the wall for things very hard to get through. at my age i don't like having to be deprived of comfort when she could have avoided a mess
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
9 Jun 18
@lovinangelsinstead21 you too sweetie
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36847)
• Pamplona, Spain
9 Jun 18
@bunnybon7
You are so right to stand up for yourself Bun and you have to do it even if you might not want to and I am having to do this also at this time.
Have a great weekend ahead and big hugs going your way.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
9 Jun 18
but you see i have to do penence too for some of her mistakes and it is things i have already learned about not to put off etc. makes me mad that she won't listen when i too have to suffer consequences 
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@akalinus (44366)
• United States
9 Jun 18
@bunnybon7 If it affects you, then that is different. I don't know how to encourage her to take care of things at the right time.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
9 Jun 18
@akalinus me either. tried for years and it has only caught on a bit. maybe soon she will get it before we are total bust. i hope
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@lookatdesktop (27156)
• Dallas, Texas
7 Jun 18
I figure people like to procrastinate sometimes and the term is like putting things off until never. I have burned bridges with people to the point of no turning back. It's sad but it is part of life for me, that is.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
10 Jun 18
sorry. you must put things off like my daughter then? doesn't work out well does it?
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
10 Jun 18
@lookatdesktop but myself, i have not enough money and time to cover what my daughter does not do for us.
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@lookatdesktop (27156)
• Dallas, Texas
10 Jun 18
@bunnybon7 , No. It really doesn't. I have to be patient. One day some people I know might try to build a new bridge with me. I have nothing but time.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
10 Jun 18
i just hope hers is not much longer to learn a lesson. too many times we have been up against the wall with problems over her letting things go that was way too important to all our well being
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@nela13 (59367)
• Portugal
10 Jun 18
@bunnybon7 there are things that we can't procrastinate, sometimes I delay house chores or other minor things, never important ones.
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@Shellyann36 (11383)
• United States
10 Jun 18
I like to plan and make lists and such but then I slack off on getting those plans and lists done. I blame it on being tired all of the time. When I have energy, I can get many things done.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
11 Jun 18
@Shellyann36 not really. everyone including ones in his own family has said things to her about his being useless
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
10 Jun 18
that is probably my daughters problem too but she is doing too much work to keep up with her mans needs and wants. he needs to go before we are all sunk but she don't see it. 
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@Shellyann36 (11383)
• United States
11 Jun 18
@bunnybon7 She probably won't until it ends and then she will want to know why someone didn't say something to her.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
9 Jun 18
that is me exactly. i don't like the idea of finding out the roof over my head will be gone nor i have no means to provide what i need
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@LadyDuck (502345)
• Italy
10 Jun 18
@bunnybon7 I worry a lot for everything, it's in my nature.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
9 Jun 18
exactly. i keep telling my daughter its a sign of maturity when you get ahead of bills and essentials.
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@Deepizzaguy (122133)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
8 Jun 18
I try to tackle my important work first before it gets too late.
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@Hannihar (130150)
• Israel
12 Jun 18
@bunnybon7
Maybe because she has to make decisions on her job and maybe she because she has so much pressure there than she does not want to make decisions in normal life.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
14 Jun 18
you are probably right. worst of all is i am in even harder times if thats possible now. have to make oncologist appointment again
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
9 Jun 18
that is the same reason for me. i don't want to forget and end up with a mess i can't get out of. problem is that daughter forgets sometimes, then we are both stuck with the mess and if i remind her, she gets irate and tells me i am complaining.
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@sw8sincere (6032)
• Philippines
8 Jun 18
same as you, i hate procrastination my friend. I like that what we can do today, should be done today. Today and tomorrow is just the same.
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@Starmaiden (9308)
• Canada
7 Jun 18
I think your daughter knows herself quite well as is willing to deal with whatever when the urgency presents itself. If she doesn't, you as a mother get to say "I told you so" with an attitude of your own.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
10 Jun 18
it really does no good to say it. just seems to roll off her back
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
11 Jun 18
but sometimes you have to plan ahead. like save money for rent etc.
@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
18 Jun 18
I would say I do, and I don't.. if that makes sense. lol.
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
19 Jun 18
i can see where waiting for some things works but if a bill is coming up, like the roof over your head, its best to plan ahead so you can cross when you come to it.i know you understand that
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@Courtlynn (67089)
• United States
19 Jun 18
@bunnybon7 yes. though bills and gas are last to us with rent anf food first.
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