Public Displays of Affection
@sprite1950 (30453)
Corsham, England
June 23, 2018 3:03am CST
Some people are not comfortable being hugged and kissed in public. As some of you know I look after my granddaughter and at first I thought she would be embarrassed about me meeting her from school and kissing her goodbye when I was so much older than the parents there. I needn't have worried as she is quite happy to hug and kiss me when we say goodbye no matter who is watching.
My partner is very affectionate and is always trying to kiss and touch me in public but to be honest I'm not really comfortable with it at my age.
How do you feel about public displays of affection? Are you comfortable with it or does it depend who it is?
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
Hi Snowdrop. My husband and I kiss in public but just a smack and we do hold hands a lot. Hugging too but not in a way that is too much that it turns people off.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
24 Jun 18
I think it's to do with age. When I was younger I was fine about it but I don't think people like to see people in their 60s all over each other. Holding hands is fine.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
25 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 I think that's exactly right, most people like to keep things more private as they get older.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
24 Jun 18
@sprite1950 I understand. Maybe we change our perspective on things when we grow older. 
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
24 Jun 18
I don't mind if I see young people kissing and hugging but I don't like it if it's me.
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
23 Jun 18
@kepweng of course, we should not do that thing in public..
@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
24 Jun 18
I was ok about it when I was younger, it seems that I have changed with age.
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@LadyDuck (457967)
• Switzerland
24 Jun 18
@sprite1950 I am shy and I do not like to get attention from people. Kissing in public is something I never liked.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
25 Jun 18
@LadyDuck I'm not shy but I think when you reach a certain age it isn't the sort of thing people want to see when they are walking down the street.
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@GopherDanny (814)
• Philippines
23 Jun 18
There are proper places wherein you can show your affection. But there are boundaries to how much of a showing of affections is proper in public. Doing too much could lead to a scandal and might inconvenience people. A short kiss on the cheeks or lips, a goodbye hug, or holding hands are okay to be shown in public. But too much passionate kissing, very long hugs, and touching the privates are definitely out of bounds. I think there are laws about public shows of affections.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
24 Jun 18
I so agree with you. When I was younger I didn't mind a quick kiss but now I am older I do not like public displays although I think holding hands is ok.
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@GopherDanny (814)
• Philippines
24 Jun 18
@sprite1950 It makes me wonder when a public display of affection is good. I think there are instances where they are acceptable such as a grand reunion after so many years with a loved one who went overseas. A war veteran who came home to his family and saw them at the airport. I think it all depends on the circumstances and the atmosphere. (hehe) But generally, I frown upon it.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
25 Jun 18
@GopherDanny You're right.when it's a special occasions it's natural to hug and kiss after not seeing loved ones for a long time.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
24 Jun 18
That's how I feel. I don't think people want to see my partner all over me. It would put them off their food! 
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@nela13 (55698)
• Portugal
25 Jun 18
@sprite1950 eheheheh holding hands is ok, I enjoy seeing old couples holding hands, they look so sweet.
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@morgoodie (2645)
• United States
27 Jun 18
I don't mind when it is my children, but not when it is anyone else. I don't like to see other people in public being all touchy-feely. Some people look like they need to get a room when they are like that. It just makes me uncomfortable.
It just makes me uncomfortable.1 person likes this
@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
28 Jun 18
I've got a bit straight laced since I've got older. I'm all prim and proper now
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
29 Jun 18
@morgoodie Haha yes. My best friend says she can't believe how much I have changed as I used to be a bit wild!
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@morgoodie (2645)
• United States
28 Jun 18
@sprite1950 I have never been comfortable with PDA. I don't like bringing attention to myself so it isn't anything I would ever do. I am glad you have straightened your act up now that you are older. 
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
28 Jul 18
My husband and I have been married for 50 years and we often hug and kiss in public, I have no problem with it at all, I pretty much hug everyone.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
29 Jul 18
You sound like a very affectionate person.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
29 Jul 18
@sprite1950 I guess I am but it is something I learned as an adult, my parents were not overly affectionate.
@JESSY3236 (18923)
• United States
17 Jul 18
I don't mind being hugged in public. I don't like being kissed in public.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
24 Jun 18
I think that's ok but my partner nearly gets me in a headlock sometimes! 
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
24 Jun 18
@JudyEv I guess so. Some of his sisters said they wished their husbands were like him.
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@JudyEv (325696)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 Jun 18
@sprite1950 Be thankful that he is so affectionate and not the other way around.
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@Daljinder (23231)
• Bangalore, India
21 Jul 18
Depends on the person and their partner should respect that if they are not comfortable with it in public. Showing affection to children is fine.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
22 Jul 18
This is how I feel but my partner doesn't listen!
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@anamika161088 (11868)
• India
23 Jun 18
Affection don't see the boundaries.. :)
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
24 Jun 18
You mean you have no boundaries?
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@asswclown (507)
• United Kingdom
23 Jun 18
I am totally uncomfortable with it. Affection, especially to adults, must be confined to the bedroom. I mean, why show the world that you can kiss or hold hands?
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
24 Jun 18
I feel this way too although I don't mind holding hands,
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@simplfred (20608)
• Philippines
23 Jun 18
I'm not comfortable too, no matter who it is.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
24 Jun 18
@kepweng Not really. I just don't like to be kissed intimately in public at my age.
@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
24 Jun 18
I'm ok with children but not with adults kissing me publicly.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
7 Aug 18
I'm a bit like that too. I don't like people all over me where there are lots of people around/
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
8 Aug 18
@stacy31 Yes we are all different and there's nothing wrong in wanting to be private sometimes.
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@stacy31 (157)
• Nairobi, Kenya
7 Aug 18
@sprite1950 and they should understand us. It's not because we are not lovable but not in public.
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@popciclecold (35084)
• United States
28 Jun 18
I think as we get older it brings about a certain embarrassment. In fact come to think of it i don't see that much in anybody now.
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@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
29 Jun 18
No it seems that older people might feel a little silly kissing in public. I really don't like it.
@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
1 Jul 18
I wish I was more like you. I'm ok with kids but don't like my partner kissing me in public.
@sprite1950 (30453)
• Corsham, England
26 Jun 18
Yes it's different with children 
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