LOSINGenthusiasm?
By ingrid
@ridingbet (66854)
Philippines
July 26, 2018 11:33pm CST
I noticed one mylotter: the user was so enthusiastic to comment on my discussions before to which I respond with much zest. As many of you might be aware of, I respond with 2 or more sentences, because I want to keep the thread going.
But lately the user is losing enthusiasm in commenting back on me. I still respond and interact actively, but if the user’s comment is what I read (and it is just one word), I reply with an emoji or a single word of approval.
Have you interacted with a user who just responds without enthusiasm? Maybe there is a reason behind it, but must we always understand how the user feels? How about our own feelings?
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24 responses
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
i get you. your presence is good, hija because you interact still.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
@JustBhem though sometimes you cannot because you feel weak. it would be nice to suggest that when you feel weak, you leave the site for some time and when you get better, you can always interact again
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
27 Jul 18
@ridingbet
And as much as possible I want to interact more.
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
My excuse is probably I couldn't read them all, too lazy and in a hurry. Some people just spam but that usually don't work on me.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
did you have an experience with this, hijo? i have known you to be frank in responding to comments, and that is good.
@brokenbee (11937)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
Maybe you have to observe first Ate before you get affected... maybe that user is just going through some thing... or maybe you can ask them why... hmmmmm
I hope that is not me... most of the time I visit myLot just to read your discussions...
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
no hija, definitely it is not you. i know you well now, since bubblews time yet. and what i like in you is your very magnetic 'hihihihih'. 
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
@brokenbee yes, like the 'manananggal' (vampire)? hahaha. like your avatar on FB.
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@brokenbee (11937)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
@ridingbet i didn't realize then that it will become my signature laugh.. hihihi
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@amitkokiladitya (171988)
• Agra, India
27 Jul 18
Yes..there are many like this. They don't know how to keep the discussion going on
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
for me, i like to know more about the discussion that is why i ask pertinent questions.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
@amitkokiladitya that is why our wit should come alive.
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@amitkokiladitya (171988)
• Agra, India
27 Jul 18
@ridingbet yes...the same is with me.
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@Friendlypink (3805)
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27 Jul 18
I also notice some who have the same comments at the previous comment and just add something to it. Like they did not read the entire post. Instead just read a comment and try to say the same comment by adding some or removing some words. Or just changing it a bit.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
actually, i caught one user who copy-pasted a comment of a dear fellow mylotter (she always comments in my discussions) and when i called this user's attention, she immediately deleted her copypasted comment.
@simplfred (20641)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
Hopefully, it is not me. haha. Well, I just welcome every comment shorty or lengthy.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
no, not you. i know you to be an artistic user and member of this site, and you give out some of your artistry through poetry.
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@simplfred (20641)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
@ridingbet I have a moody type of character too. Maybe he/she have that kind of character too.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
@simplfred there are other reasons. do you read all the other comments here? have you noticed one who is somewhat antagonistic with my discussion, and the user is considered a newbie? i dislike users who comment so irrational about the posted discussion.
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@AKRao24 (27422)
• India
27 Jul 18
Sometimes beacuse of some busy schedules or because of some other reasons people may act so! I am also getting some responses from members who were very enthusisatic previously and today they are giving a short response or just emojis! May be they are too preoccupied?
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@AKRao24 (27422)
• India
27 Jul 18
@ridingbet , Yes, I agree with you and I think these people also must be knowing about this, that interaction is very important factor on this site to make some earnings! Despite that if they are not responding enthusiastically means there has to be some reason for that!
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
@AKRao24 some though just comment with an emoji and responded by another emoji, or the never-ending 'thank you' thingy, which i find not good, but better to gain pennies.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
they may be preoccupied, but should they always be preoccupied? i understand you and i make very long comments, right? it is because we try to expand our conversations appropriately.
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
27 Jul 18
Is it a new user or an old user? Some people are active for a while and then they lose their enthusiam, or maybe they have less energy to interact because of things that are going on offline.
I have noticed that people have very different ways of interacting. Some people continue the conversation for a long time and some people usually stop after a few comments. Sometimes I try to continue the conversation, but it is hard because I get really short replies.
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
28 Jul 18
@ridingbet I think that some people want to write many responses. Maybe they prefer to move on the next discussion instead of continuing the discussion with the same person. In the old myLot I had a discussion that only received one response, but the conversation between that person and me continued for a really long time. If we only get one response or a few responses we can still have a conversation 
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
29 Jul 18
@Porcospino that is wonderful. i also have some discussions with long threads but they are all pertinent to the discussions.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
28 Jul 18
it could be their way of gaining more comments from others by simply cutting off the thread, but for me, even if i have a few likes and comments , i compensate it with making threads out of one comment.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
@LadyDuck and I believe someone copy-pasted your response that I commented about it and the user deleted the copied response. This is bad.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
hahah. maybe. or maybe the user is not knowledgeable about the discussed topic and can just go with the flow?
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@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
Maybe she had nothing more to say or could not think of a longer comment, or some other issues; she just want to make a simple reply
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
yes that could be one reason. but once you cannot or do not wish to respond anymore, i guess it would be better to skip the comment box and come back once the enthusiasm goes back.
@anamika161088 (11866)
• India
27 Jul 18
I have enthusiastic readers most of the time. And if some day or some post gets less enthusiastic response then I think it's the post of mine which is at fault.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
hahaha. no, i don't think so. if you peruse over my discussions, i rarely get more than 10 likes or comments but i make it a point that one comment creates a thread.
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@anamika161088 (11866)
• India
27 Jul 18
@ridingbet I agree with you.. Sometimes one comment is strong enough to initiate a lot of talks, get thoughts from different people.. Sometimes becomes controversial as well
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
@anamika161088 right on that. somebody here made a comment a while ago and i responded truthfully. now the comment is gone. possibly the user deleted it? maybe.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
28 Jul 18
I love to interact. But there are users and I know a few who just kill it by posting the same response...thanks for sharing or a like. Now I don't feel so excited to respond to them but still I do it.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
28 Jul 18
you also have that interaction? maybe the respondent just needs to comment back because,let us admit it, it adds pennies to our bank
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
30 Jul 18
@arunima25 yes i agree with you. i build friendship especially to those i actively interact with, because they know a part of my life.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
28 Jul 18
@ridingbet Even they know but they chose to respond that way . So it is their choice and I am fine with that. We have many fellows here who love to interact and lets interact with them.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
it may be. that is why after one comment, there are no more follow-up messages or responses after
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@ihasaquestion (8273)
•
27 Jul 18
Maybe the person finds your answers lacklustre and not trying to prolong the discussions any longer.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
That could be. But I explain my comment elaborately but this mylotter might not have the enthusiasm to continue the thread and that makes me wonder if the user also thinks about my emotions or not at all.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
28 Jul 18
@ihasaquestion hahaha. right on that. our ideas just come in in our brain cells.
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@ihasaquestion (8273)
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28 Jul 18
@ridingbet I feel you. Maybe they are not chatterbox like us..
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@Sreekala (34312)
• India
27 Jul 18
@ridingbet When I am free and online I do it quickly.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
27 Jul 18
you have some problems connecting and that is fine, because when you interact, you interact candidly.
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@1hopefulman (45111)
• Canada
27 Jul 18
Maybe he is going through some life challenges? He could be extra busy? Maybe he is depressed and has not much to say? Remember that there is more joy in giving. Have fun!
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
28 Jul 18
yes i agree on that. but i think it should not always in giving but it should be a two-way street. the disadvantage of too much giving may be the receiver will be content of what others give, without any active interaction anymore because "anyway they give me this".
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@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
28 Jul 18
Sometimes I do give shorter responses and other times I do longer. We all of us only have so much time to give to mylot and we want to interact as much as possible so it may not be lack of enthusiasm as much as lack of time.
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@BelleStarr (61463)
• United States
29 Jul 18
@ridingbet I personally don't feel responsible for keeping the conversation going, I just make my comment and if the writer feels it requires more they will respond and then I will respond but that isn't necessary for every post. If I only have 30 minutes I want to get to as many posts as possible so some friends don't feel ignored.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
28 Jul 18
i agree.but your short responses say what is on your mind, right? yes, it could be a lack of time, but then, how if you cut short a thread of comments because you want to interact activle with another user?
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@DianneN (254949)
• United States
31 Jul 18
@ridingbet Emoji responses are awful to receive as a comment.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
1 Aug 18
@DianneN hahaha. that is true. but it can be used in a funny manner too, like the one you posted here in your comment.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
28 Jul 18
it could be, but the idea is always presented even if there are errors in English. there is one user who has many misspelled English words but still the discussions are always read by others. bad thing though, because the responses to comments is always the emoji of approval.
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@Icydoll (36713)
• India
27 Jul 18
Yes ,it happened to me also ,one user always keep telling that thanks for sharing or responding ,when we are here to interact ,why they don't interest in continuing a conversation..why they always say thanks for responding .
Sometimes I would after seeing that comment like a bot chatting with me because they don't change the thanks for sharing word...thanks giving is courtesy but not on a discussion site where we have to talk in conversation by Sharing views
because they don't change the thanks for sharing word...thanks giving is courtesy but not on a discussion site where we have to talk in conversation by Sharing views1 person likes this
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
28 Jul 18
i guess that is their way to earn more. for me, i like to expound my comments as long as the author responds to me too.
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@Jessabuma (31696)
• Baguio, Philippines
28 Jul 18
Yes I have interacted with users like this but it's fine as long as they respond back. I will just comment an emoji if they don't want to expand the discussions.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
29 Jul 18
right, and i have seen you commenting an emoji of approval to one user here, and i think you know who i mean, right?
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