Poetry: The coming death of our own mother is heartbreakingly so hard
By emptychair
@innertalks (23748)
Australia
September 9, 2018 7:33pm CST
Mothers make the world go around, and around,
because their energy of love spins it truly, unbound.
Their sacrificing of themselves is often greatly profound.
One day they will be crowned, not just in the background.
Who could not see their own mother as being beautiful?
Any faults are lost when we see her now on her deathbed.
We cry and cry, trying to keep her alive through our prayers.
In the end, God has his way, and another mother now mothers God.
It is hard to watch our mother, suffering in such great, great pain.
Perhaps it is the hardest moment of our life, and of hers, to sustain.
God allows suffering to suffer in itself in us to our death, unpleasant,
as death is merely a shadow of our new self, being born into heaven.
Photo Credit:
The photo used here belongs to me, the writer of this piece.
My mother and I, in such, such sad times.
Footnote: My mother has terminal cancer, and has been given only a short time to live, but we are all praying, of course, for a miracle. Your prayers might help her too.
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@dgobucks226 (37621)
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11 Sep 18
I am so sorry to hear this news. I lost my mother back in 2006 and still feel her loss. "A mother is someone who can take the place of many, but who no one can replace." May you find strength in God during these difficult times...
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@innertalks (23748)
• Australia
11 Sep 18
Thank-you.
Yes, how very true that is, nobody can replace our mothers.
I visited her again yesterday, and even now, she retains her sense of humour. She tries to hide the pain from us, still wanting to mother us a bit. She's not wanting us to see how bad, it really all is.
She is staying with my sister, but after we left, she was worn out by the visit. She had tried to find a bit of extra energy for me.
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@innertalks (23748)
• Australia
12 Sep 18
@dgobucks226 Thanks again.
As my mother approaches the end of her road, I find myself going back over my own road too, especially when I was a teenager, and when I treated her a bit disrespectfully at times.
It's hard to forgive myself, and to let go of those memories, where I hurt her then, but I am trying to love her even more now to make up for that now.
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@dgobucks226 (37621)
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12 Sep 18
@innertalks A Mother's love knows no equal. I still have a card my Mom gave to me years ago. It reads: Forgive me if I worry too much,
advise to much,
or try to help to much.
It's not that I don't have confidence in you.
I do!
It's just that I can't help myself.
"I'm a Mother."
Mothers stay strong for their children. I lost my mother in 2006. It is a rare occasion when I don't think about her and what she sacrificed for our family.
My prayers for your Mom. Peace to you and your family....
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@athaness (250)
• Philippines
10 Sep 18
The poem is so beautiful that everyone could relate. We just lost our grandfather yesterdy, and it is truly sad. But, I could not imagine the pain of losing my mother. Will pray for your mother and your family. I also would like to grab the opportunity to share with you and your mom this Gospel tract which will give us assurance of heaven. I hope you would take time to read this, and receive God's gift of eternal life.
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@innertalks (23748)
• Australia
10 Sep 18
@athaness Thanks a lot. I read all of your tract.
My mother is saved already. All of her life has been spent in serving others. She is fortunate now, that a retired minister is visiting her regularly, and praying with her, reading the Bible, with her, and also singing for her.
Yes, we can never know when our time will be up, and God will call us home once again.
I am sorry too about your grandfather. May God richly bless you, and your family now too.
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@rsa101 (41135)
• Philippines
16 Sep 18
@innertalks I lost mine too 5 years ago too. Same with you losing to big c too. Was devastating and I could not imagine how she could manage to juggle her way to us but now all her energy seems gone. It took me sometime before I accepted and let her go.
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@innertalks (23748)
• Australia
16 Sep 18
Yes, thanks. I truly feel blessed by having the mother that I had, and I am appreciating her much more now as she approaches her end of the road too.
@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
10 Sep 18
Sorry to hear about your mother. I believe that the love you showed to her as well the rest of the family can be of great help to ease her pain. I hope and pray that God in his mercy give you the miracle you wish for her. I know we all wish our parents to stay longer with us. God's plan is always for the best of us all. Be comforted of this... Take care and God bless.
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@innertalks (23748)
• Australia
10 Sep 18
Thankyou.
Yes, I agree, God's plan is in some ways unchangeable, but we wish for the added faith to accept it, and for my mum to keep her faith, and be helped through the pain, and the transition.
Sometimes, God will change his plan, I think though, too, and modify the timing maybe, so it's all in his hands now, but we will not stop praying for a miracle too.
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@Shiva49 (28413)
• Singapore
10 Sep 18
Very touching Steve, a tribute to all mothers who are the embodiment of love.
Mother's love is unique and children cannot reciprocate that in an adequate measure.
My sincere prayers for her well being.
In fact, I am on my usual trip to India to be with my mother.
I am not in a mood to post new discussions but still respond to others - siva
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@innertalks (23748)
• Australia
10 Sep 18
Thanks siva.
It's strange to me how some people are so giving to others, like my mum was, but when she was in the worst pain of her life, having her biopsy in her spine, she never prayed to God to remove the pain.
No, she just thought of her saviour Jesus, being nailed to the cross, those thousands of years ago, and she thought to herself, well, my pain is not as severe as his would have been, so I can endure this.
She just compared her pain to his, and got her extra strength from that.
She is really truly altruistic, my mum.
I hope your trip with your mother goes well, my friend.
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@Shiva49 (28413)
• Singapore
11 Sep 18
@innertalks Yes Steve, I always think about the sacrifices of past generations that made it possible for us to have more conveniences and comforts. Women, in particular, put up with great hardship so that their families were taken care of.
When I find myself down in the dumps I think of others who manage with nothing and still try to help those in need. I too think of the countless blessings that many take for granted.
Your mother's endurance to pain sets a sterling example for others and I know few who even confront God himself with "why me? Is it how I am rewarded for placing my trust in you?".
It is indeed trying time for your mother and family. I have been going through similar uncertainty for ten years and that made me take early retirement. But that made me realize life is to be lived for others to feel the fullness of it - siva
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@innertalks (23748)
• Australia
11 Sep 18
@Shiva49 Thanks siva. You make some good observations there.
Yes, I think you are right, it's all about living life for others, to live fully ourselves.
Uncertainty for ten years, is a long time, but I would really like just another ten months even for my mother now.
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