A Reason for Everything that Happens

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@CarolDM (203396)
Nashville, Tennessee
September 22, 2018 12:25pm CST
Do you believe there is a reason for everything that happens? I grew up in church and was taught that God has a plan and a reason for everything. I believed this for many years. Then when I lost my child it all went out the window. I am not sure what I believe any more. How can anyone say there is a reason you lost your child... he is in a better place... etc etc etc.? Apparently the ones who say this have never lost a child. Sometimes the less you say is better. Listening and being there for those who grieve is so important. Your thoughts? Do you believe in God's plan? Why would he take a child? My world? If that is correct, I do not want any part of that plan.
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Shiva
@Shiva49 (28394)
• Singapore
22 Sep 18
The only way out is to look ahead with hope but the loss is real - siva
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
22 Sep 18
And I do that every single day. Thanks for your comment.
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Courage7
@Courage7 (19626)
• United States
22 Sep 18
I do not believe it was God´s plan to take your child from you. I do believe there is a God, but to have a child die before you do is the ultimate loss. It is not something I think I would have an answer for or that I would be able to bear at all.
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Courage7
@Courage7 (19626)
• United States
22 Sep 18
@CarolDM I would be curious to know what indeed the answer is myself. It is cruel though.
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
22 Sep 18
Thanks for your words. The problem is there are no magic answers.
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
22 Sep 18
@Courage7 Yes and I felt abandoned
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Anna
@LadyDuck (502729)
• Italy
23 Sep 18
I am not religious, I do not know if everything happens for God's will. How can we humans know? Many (too many) times when I read some news I scream WHY?
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Diana
@dya80dya (36805)
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23 Sep 18
Life is so unfair. We will never understand it.
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Anna
@LadyDuck (502729)
• Italy
23 Sep 18
@dya80dya Exactly, we are only humans.
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
23 Sep 18
Exactly Anna, and it is like groundhog day each day, never finding an answer.
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Alfredo Rossi
@amadeo (111937)
• United States
22 Sep 18
well that is up to you.God and I do not get along
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
22 Sep 18
That is what I am saying exactly we don’t get along any more either
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
22 Sep 18
I think things happen for a reason. Often, we don't know the purpose of a loss because we can not see things from an overall perspective.
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
22 Sep 18
Can you tell me your opinion of why someone loses their child? What reason could that be for? Heartbreak and a forever nightmare for me. Just wondering.
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Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
22 Sep 18
@CarolDM I have lost a child and a grandchild. My heart still hurts.
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
22 Sep 18
@akalinus Sorry for your losses. We never get over the pain.
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Christina Ladanger
@Ladanger (14572)
• United States
22 Sep 18
There are times that I feel the same way and honestly all I know is that God made a promise to us and he said those who survive til the end will have eternal life . One day I believe all of the evil will be over and will be happy in heaven.
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
22 Sep 18
I hope so but what about my son? That is my million dollar question, why was he taken at 16. Unanswered questions are the worst.
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Christina Ladanger
@Ladanger (14572)
• United States
23 Sep 18
@CarolDM maybe our mind isn't built to understand the unknown
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
23 Sep 18
@Ladanger I am sure of it but it still drives me crazy.
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Mavic123456
@Mavic123456 (21891)
• Thailand
23 Sep 18
My sincerest sympathy for your loss. But as you said, better not to say anything but just to listen.
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Mavic123456
@Mavic123456 (21891)
• Thailand
14 Oct 18
@CarolDM my words are not kind enough to help you ease the burden...
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
13 Oct 18
Thank you very much for your kind words.
CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
14 Oct 18
@Mavic123456 Nobody can do that but thank you.
Mike
@Mike197602 (15504)
• United Kingdom
22 Sep 18
I am not religious and never have been. My mum was quite religious so I did go to church and sunday school and such but never really believed...I've even read the whole bible I do not personally believe there is some great plan I believe we go through life and its twists and turns are based on our choices, circumstance and luck...and a lot of other stuff. I can't see any positives from the loss of a child but I know many religious people would disagree and I can see why but, on this area, I'll keep my mouth shut.
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
23 Sep 18
Mike, I used to believe that like I said but not any more either. That is why I have so many unanswered questions. I should have kept my post to myself actually.
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Rathanasabapathy Sethumanickam
@SRSaba (1128)
• Chennai, India
23 Sep 18
That is called your karma! believe GOD! he only helps you.
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
23 Sep 18
My karma? What are you talking about? To live in a forever nightmare, not understanding? That is not karma.
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Deepak Masih
@DeepakMasih (635)
• Chandigarh, India
24 Sep 18
I believe because Every word that's is written in the Bible is True.everything happens for a good cause. Because God wants to do some thing better for us.he knows what is better and safe for us.Because he is a God not men.we must follow him.
CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
24 Sep 18
Thank you for your opinion.
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Deepak Masih
@DeepakMasih (635)
• Chandigarh, India
24 Sep 18
@CarolDM I will keep you in my prayers.
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