I forgot to expect

It is just frustrating to me because they see nothing wrong with it. If I were to suddenly stop doing it, they would not care.

@ScribbledAdNauseum They see nothing wrong because they know you will clean, wash the dishes and do laundry. If you were not around for weeks, they would be obliged to do something.

@LadyDuck To be quite honest? I highly doubt that. There are three bathrooms in this home. I only clean one, the one we all use to shower (the other two showers are broke) and the one I use the "facilities" in. I've tried cleaning the other two bathrooms in the past but I'm not appreciated for it, and they won't do anything to keep it up. Saturday , while I was gone, they had pizza for supper. The boxes are still on the stove and will be until Wednesday night (our trash is collected on Thursdays) unless I deal with the boxes myself. I get so frustrated Anna, so very frustrated.

@JustBhem I agree with you there. This relative, however, is always lazy.

I understand when someone is physically unable to. Here it seems that this person is more lazy than anything else.

@ScribbledAdNauseum Well, I think it's natural to be lazy sometimes too.

I wish it were that easy but it's not. I can say "Please unload the dishwasher" and come back three days later to it still needing to be unloaded. The family member either doesn't hear me (I think he's awake when he's asleep) or "I forgot, sorry!" My favorite (I get the most annoyed over this) is when he says "I'll do it later."

Uncle and Grandfather. The uncle had the audacity to be sarcastic with me as soon as I got home, as if I was the one who did nothing but laze around the whole weekend and not even try to touch the dishes.

@amadeo One old man and one who is only about 12 years older than me.

@ScribbledAdNauseum Okay now I can see why.Two old men

It does not do me any good to be angry. There's really nothing I can do but occasionally vent, and even that doesn't do very much at all.

@DianneN This is true, but it does little to no good. I would like to talk to people who have the same problems as my uncle. The only problem with that is that the places I would go to seek advice / explanations would be the same places he frequents online. I'd like to understand if it is more his personality, the medicines, or his mental illness that causes him to be the way he is. I think it's more him than his mental illness.

@ScribbledAdNauseum This is the place to vent.

It will never happen, unfortunately.

@Courtlynn It's just a pain, ya know? Trying to get someone to do something they don't want to do.

@ScribbledAdNauseum thats how it is here with my brother. We've learned to live with it. Sadly

I just get so fed up with one of them. The other is set in his ways and I wouldn't dream of trying to change him. The other slept the entire weekend and didn't even bother unloading the dishwasher (that I had loaded and ran before I left). I'll get up in a little while and start messing with everything, but for right now I have my door shut and youtube on.

I am the only one who seems to care about the stte of the house, it gets frustrating.

One of them is an old man who has never done his own laundry (as far as I am aware). The other does his own laundry but that's about all he does. I get aggravated at the latter fellow but in all honesty he suffers from depression and a mental illness that I think contributes to a lot of the way he is.

One of the family members is my grandfather, who is set in his ways. The other is an uncle who either forgets, didn't hear me to begin with, or puts it off so long that I end up doing it myself. Trying to talk to him about "how unfair it is" or "how I am coming to resent him" does nothing. I had an hour conversation with him once over this and I was just talking in circles. I can load the dishwasher and start it before bed, ask my uncle to unload it, and then wake up the next morning to the dishwasher still needing to be unloaded. "Oh, I forgot." or "Oh I'll get to it later" is what he'll say. He takes out the trash but ONLY after you remind him to do so, and sometimes you have to say "Hey, please empty this trash I need it empty now as I am cooking." and he'll still say "I'll do it in a minute." I have to make him angry to get him to do anything.

I wish this was a situation where telling them off would do any good, however it isn't.