ADHD Kids and Changing them

My son has Asperger's and I'm very strict on him. He has bad outbursts at times but mostly with big changes in our lives. I still don't just accept it and I correct him regardless because on a job someday their not going to care if he has this or not-excuses are not acceptable in this world.

it might get even more problematic the older he gets

He's likely to get worse as he gets older if she's going to keep giving in to him. There are people who convince themselves it's easier to just give them their own way than to risk any trouble. This certainly doesn't help in the long term. I understand she doesn't want medication. Therapy and social interaction can work. It seems, though, that your sister is exactly the kind of person who uses her child's conditions as an excuse not to bother with discipline. I have a child with autism. It may be a reason he does things a certain way but I've never used it as n excuse not to discipline. If he does something he shouldn't, I'll tell him. It's actually quite easy because a child with mild autism works well with rules, and is usually capable of understanding them. It might take a little extra work or explaining in a different way but the child can quickly learn how to behave appropriately. It actually makes me rather angry when people use these conditions as excuses. It devalues the efforts of others.

Tell her that medication is really important. Medication helps to keep the levels balanced amd therapy helps to control the behavior. Medication is a must slowly we can shift to lower levels but it is a must.

Oh, I'm really sorry, but in such cases medication are very necessary. In my country there are several children who are suffering from autism and I know that the fight is very difficult.

It will be better if you could discuss with your sister whether it is a good option for the current method of treatment. Personally this might not work out even in the present stage. You can bring her to consult doctor where there are alternatives available if she insist not using medication. Hope things will be fine at the end.

I bet it is really a difficult task for parents to handle these kids.

Cut down sugars, have a strict daily regime and make sure everyone enforces discipline. Its good for the child and others around.

no, i don't think giving all the caprices of a person with ADHD will do no good at all. it will make that person be totally dependent on others, and he will also abuse the tolerance and patience of people around him. it is just like addressing to temper tantrums. we should not give in to this kind of behavior. the child should be interacted with the usual way a normal person is. my own personal opinion.

Medication might still be needed in such case; also I wonder if the mother can still discipline the child in a most modest way?

It's become complicated when parents don't cooperate. It should be the parents be given with enlightening words.

Well it is up to her I guess, but that is a hard call Sky. It must be very hard for you to watch this. I am sorry to hear it. No matter what the issue is, discipline is necessary.

I think you already have a pretty good way to do it