"Shock Absorber"

@acelawrites (19272)
Philippines
January 16, 2019 9:16pm CST
Do you feel like sometimes people just use you as shock absorber? It is when they will call or send you a message about their mess or misunderstanding with other people! Had been a victim of such and I can feel the negative vibes affecting me. It makes me down, and have some sort of depression. I don't know why, maybe they are too "at home" telling their woes to me. But I get the "shock" in the end. Have you experienced such?
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Anna
@LadyDuck (502491)
• Italy
17 Jan 19
Yes, I have experienced this, but I do not feel the shock at the end. I try to help if I can.
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Anna
@LadyDuck (502491)
• Italy
18 Jan 19
@acelawrites I had some serious problems during my life, they make you stronger.
@acelawrites
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jan 19
You are a strong person!
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Hate2Iron
@Hate2Iron (15724)
• Canada
17 Jan 19
About a zillion times and I hate it. I can be in a really good mood and then I'm down in the dumps!!
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@acelawrites
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jan 19
It happens to me too and realize I don't have to be too friendly sometimes.
Judy Evans
@JudyEv (382104)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Jan 19
Some people do like to confide their troubles to others. Unless you have encouraged them, it isn't really fair to saddle others with your problems.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (382104)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Jan 19
@acelawrites Sometimes we can be too sympathetic and find ourselves everyone's 'agony aunt'.
@acelawrites
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jan 19
Maybe it is because they found me accommodating, so I better change the outlook.
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Tokz
@ilocosboy (45155)
• Philippines
17 Jan 19
Many times I feel like that. Feeling like people are using you. Seems like life is unfair sometimes.
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@acelawrites
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jan 19
I can feel that too, and it makes me depressed!
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ARM
@responsiveme (22923)
• India
17 Jan 19
People do tend to use me as one
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@acelawrites
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jan 19
Some people like to pass the burden to others. Too sad!
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
17 Jan 19
Absolutely I have been used many times during my life.
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@acelawrites
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jan 19
It makes me down feeling people just using me to vent their woes!
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CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
17 Jan 19
@acelawrites I know all too well.
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The Horse
@TheHorse (238317)
• Walnut Creek, California
17 Jan 19
Yes, I have been there. Sometimes I wish people did not know that I'm a psychologist.
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@acelawrites
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jan 19
So you have bigger problem being a psychologist; they will always think that you always have the answer to their problems.
Diana
@dya80dya (36805)
•
19 Jan 19
This happened to me many times. It affects me.
Fat Oreo
@fluffy69 (4955)
•
17 Jan 19
They do but i dont mind, if i could help i would.
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@acelawrites
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jan 19
Sometimes I have to tell them the boundaries.
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DEBJANI BASAK
@debjani1 (7202)
•
17 Jan 19
Yes I experienced this many times in my life till now.
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@acelawrites
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jan 19
It is so sad, yet when we have problems, we do not want to bother them!
Sheali
@Sheali (7461)
• India
17 Jan 19
Yaa.. sometimes when my best friend goes through some thing, I feel the negative vibes.
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@acelawrites
@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
17 Jan 19
It is true, we tend to absorb whatever negative experiences they are going through.
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