When Personalities Collide
By MrsJ
@SophiaMorros (5044)
Belews Creek, North Carolina
March 16, 2019 12:24pm CST
I love my oldest son and I am glad he is back from being overseas. However, if he were to ask if he could move back home permanently I would respond with a very heart-felt NO WAY!!
He’s a good kid but he is very, VERY good at pushing my buttons.
Little digs, subtle digs, nothing really obvious. He does it to everyone else here as well and some of the more thick-skinned family members don’t even notice. Me, though, I get irritated when he does it to me, when he does it to my husband (especially since the husband doesn’t usually notice it), when he does it to my other children (one of whom ALWAYS notices as well).
Sadly, I know which side of the family he inherited the tendency from.
His visit has reminded me an awful lot of visits from my parents in years gone by.
How do you deal with people who seem to be particularly skilled at getting under your skin?
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18 responses
@SophiaMorros (5044)
• Belews Creek, North Carolina
16 Mar 19
My other three children are no problem at all. They will all be moving out in the next few years but not a single one of them is in danger of being booted out.
I imagine having your daughter living with you will be good company!
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@SophiaMorros (5044)
• Belews Creek, North Carolina
17 Mar 19
@jaboUK I am happy for you!
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
17 Mar 19
@SophiaMorros I hope so too.
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@SophiaMorros (5044)
• Belews Creek, North Carolina
16 Mar 19
Hopefully this will be the last lengthy visit we'll have to deal with.
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@GardenGerty (169490)
• United States
16 Mar 19
I try to leave space in my life to be far away. I can handle them temporarily.If I am forced to have those conversations I remind myself that it will come to an end eventually.
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@SophiaMorros (5044)
• Belews Creek, North Carolina
16 Mar 19
Yesterday was rainy so I couldn't escape outside to do yardwork. I'm holding on to the fact that this is just a short term situation and he'll be out of my hair again soon enough.
@Morleyhunt (21741)
• Canada
16 Mar 19
I feel your pain.
One of my daughters moved home briefly when she finished univerity. Thank goodness it was very briefly. We are too similar ( shed deny that on principle) to live in close quarters. Three days of togetherness is pretty much the max....then the edges start getting frayed.
The other drama probably isn't helping.
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@SophiaMorros (5044)
• Belews Creek, North Carolina
16 Mar 19
He doesn't approve of our handling of the other drama (of course he wasn't here last fall). Speaking of which, it was officially announced on Facebook in a private post by a family member that I don't think you are friends with (how's that for an obscure comment?)
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@JohnRoberts (109841)
• Los Angeles, California
16 Mar 19
They would be shown the door.
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@SophiaMorros (5044)
• Belews Creek, North Carolina
16 Mar 19
He may find himself in that position. I get a break from him for a week and we shall see what he's like when he comes back.
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@nela13 (59365)
• Portugal
17 Mar 19
@SophiaMorros that behaviour with his own parents isn't correct.
@SophiaMorros (5044)
• Belews Creek, North Carolina
16 Mar 19
Thankfully, he's an adult and if he irritates me too badly he'll be finding another place to stay.
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@PatZAnthony (14749)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
17 Mar 19
Changing the subject is what we usually do. Yes, we all have a few in the family circle with the mindset to irritate us if they can and they find amusement in this.
@RasmaSandra (98033)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Mar 19
If I have had a difficult time with such people I have just walked away from them forever. Of course, he is your son but if you cannot get along then it is better you do not live too close together. Where does he live?
@SophiaMorros (5044)
• Belews Creek, North Carolina
18 Mar 19
THANK YOU for pointing that out! I have no problem with having my mistakes pointed out so I can correct them!
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@SophiaMorros (5044)
• Belews Creek, North Carolina
16 Mar 19
Unfortunately, that isn't feasible right now. He'll be staying with us for another two weeks before he starts the Appalachian trail in April and will possibly be with us for a couple of weeks in August. The hardest part of dealing with him is that his digs are subtle and most of them go right over my husband's head and if I point the issue out I get in trouble for "being difficult." (it's not just me, though, his siblings are all on to him as well).
@db20747 (43419)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
16 Mar 19
Still trying to figure out how to deal with my grandmother!! And when you try to avoid her she knows it and will insult you for trying to cut the conversation short!!! I'll say i only have a few minutes left on my phone and she will say, Dang, you can't even afford minutes for your phone!!
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@SophiaMorros (5044)
• Belews Creek, North Carolina
16 Mar 19
Some relatives are just challenging to deal with!
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@Hannihar (130150)
• Israel
17 Mar 19
@SophiaMorros
There are times I let them know but then they get so defensive and very rude so sometimes I try to ignore them or try to stay away from those that are not good in my life.
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@SophiaMorros (5044)
• Belews Creek, North Carolina
16 Mar 19
He is unkind and disrespectful in very subtle ways.
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@responsiveme (22923)
• India
17 Mar 19
This happens. If possible ,I mostly avoid.
Having said that I have been guilty of letting my emotions run away when it would have been better to just ignore.
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