Is it normal for a young man to fall in love with an adult lady?

By blaq
@blaqdu (41)
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
April 10, 2019 10:43am CST
Hey ! would really be helpful to know what you think. is it normal to fall in love with someone twice your Age?
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M.-L.
@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
10 Apr 19
Look around you and you'll see that it is not 'normal' but it can happen. The French President Macron married his highschool teacher.
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blaq
@blaqdu (41)
• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
10 Apr 19
well I'm asking this because for young ladies with men twice their ages doesn't matter but for young men seems to be an issue ... it like coming out gay
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M.-L.
@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
10 Apr 19
@blaqdu Are young men who go out with older women considered gay? Why's that? A woman is always a woman whether she's young or old.
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blaq
@blaqdu (41)
• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
10 Apr 19
@MALUSE no i meant to say people tend to hide it because they feel like the society will not take it ..
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Alfredo Rossi
@amadeo (111948)
• United States
10 Apr 19
unless you are looking for a mother type.What is so special that have you going?
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M.-L.
@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
10 Apr 19
@blaqdu Why should the government interfere if both partners are of age? It's only illegal to marry underage partners.
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blaq
@blaqdu (41)
• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
10 Apr 19
@MALUSE well it's interesting because it's uncommon
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blaq
@blaqdu (41)
• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
10 Apr 19
Hahaha well, not long ago a guy just married a woman twice his age and the Government did not even interfere... which means it's normal and illegal just wanted to know what people think about these situations in our society
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pumpkinjam
@pumpkinjam (8539)
• United Kingdom
12 Apr 19
I don't know whether I'd say it was normal or not. As long as both people are of age then I don't think anything of it. My partner is 10 years older than me. Some people think that is a big age gap but I'd never really though about that. It's true that we don't choose who we fall in love with. Age is just a number.
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pumpkinjam
@pumpkinjam (8539)
• United Kingdom
12 Apr 19
@blaqdu that's a good question, and one that has also confused me. I supposed we're just used to the man being older than the woman in the relationship. My partner and I have dated people of different ages - younger, older, and the same age. There's one theory that women mature sooner than men so it would make sense that a younger woman would be with an older man but not vice versa.
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blaq
@blaqdu (41)
• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
12 Apr 19
@pumpkinjam Right that makes sense but it kills guys like me ...
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blaq
@blaqdu (41)
• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
12 Apr 19
I love your point here... well for women being with men 10 years older it's not a big issue but my question was why is it always questioned when the female is older than the male...
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Jlyn
@Jlyn10 (11966)
• Malaysia
13 Apr 19
I don't see anything wrong with that. Love is blind, So long as there is love between each other, why not?
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blaq
@blaqdu (41)
• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
15 Apr 19
thanks for the response
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Nasya Aulia
@kasmakarim (1933)
• Indonesia
15 Apr 19
Well, I think that's okay as long as they really love each other, not because of coercion about something
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blaq
@blaqdu (41)
• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
15 Apr 19
yeah!! this happens but mostly it's common for ladies to men, not men to ladies. its always questionable when a young guy is in relationship with an elder lady but through history, men have been with young ladies and its not questionable
Bensen32
@Bensen32 (27519)
• United States
12 Apr 19
I don't know if it is normal but I think it is just a number, it depends on the two people. When I was 24 I dated a 35 year old lady, it didn't last very long and when I was 37 I dated a 22 year old and that also didn't last very long so maybe age gaps do make a difference? Then again a lot of my relationships don't last that long....hmm maybe it's just me?
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Bensen32
@Bensen32 (27519)
• United States
12 Apr 19
@blaqdu :) Well every situation is different just do what you feel is right, as long as no one involved is a minor, then it's what ever is best for the two of you.
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blaq
@blaqdu (41)
• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
12 Apr 19
Hahahahahaha! no, it's not you... things just happen and thanks for your response it means a lot to me because of im in the same situation.
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eM
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
12 Apr 19
I think it's normal for as long as your intentions are good and genuine. Most of the guys who were attracted to me were eight years younger than me. I'm only 29 and somehow, I find it a bit too cringe but I got used to it by now.
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blaq
@blaqdu (41)
• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
12 Apr 19
well !! thanks for sharing ..
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DEBJANI BASAK
@debjani1 (7207)
•
11 Apr 19
Love can happen anytime,anywhere with anyone. But fall in love with twice the age , I think will not continuing forever.
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blaq
@blaqdu (41)
• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
15 Apr 19
yeah!! its a nightmare but it happens
Strenjia Pshilippines
@Strenj (120)
• Baguio, Philippines
10 Apr 19
Why not, dear? After all, it is love that matter most. There is a saying that goes, "Don't judge the book by its cover. " Look inside of it. What's there? The love that they have for each other. Society sucks sometimes. We judge according to what we see without even thinking and realizing that they're human too and love happens at all ages.
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blaq
@blaqdu (41)
• Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
15 Apr 19
That the truth !! thanks
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