That Little Girl Deserves Better
By angel_smiles
@Lolaze (5092)
St. Louis, Missouri
April 22, 2019 8:20pm CST
My heart has been breaking over the past month. A good friend of mine broke her ankle in February and ended up having another friend take her 2.5 year old because she couldn’t care for her at the time. Coming up on 3 months now and my friend has no interest in having her little one back. She has her a few nights a week but is resisting taking her more. One of the reasons, she told me, is that if she had the toddler full time then she and her boyfriend wouldn’t have any alone time. I almost slapped her!
Her boyfriend recently told her “Step up or step out” and I agree! The friend who has been caring for the child is willing to take custody of her and raise her - while letting her mom still be a part of her life. This isn’t the first time others have cared for this child. In fact, I think friends and foster families have raised her more than mom has.
Now the little girl is starting to act out and show some very concerning behaviors. Her mom has at least agreed to get her enrolled in play therapy. This little one is the most amazing kid - she’s a year ahead cognitively and emotionally, beautiful, and sweet. She deserves to have a stable family!
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@florelway (23339)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
23 Apr 19
There are really moms who could be like this. They are more interested in pursuing self happiness.
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@florelway (23339)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
23 Apr 19
@Lolaze if there's someone who can be entrusted with the child that would be better until she resolves her emotional issues.
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@Lolaze (5092)
• St. Louis, Missouri
23 Apr 19
@florelway The ‘foster’ mom who has been caring for her since Feb really wants her long term.
@Lolaze (5092)
• St. Louis, Missouri
23 Apr 19
Yeah. My friend hands the kid off to someone every 6 months or so...when she has a ‘crisis’. She doesn’t seem to be learning that is life and people have to parent their kids anyway.
@pumpkinjam (8876)
• United Kingdom
23 Apr 19
I could understand having someone else look after the child so that the mother can have recovery time. Not wanting her back because of boyfriend time is completely unacceptable. I'm glad that the boyfriend seems to be thinking about the child.
I had a cat that I was supposed to have for a week - I've still got her 5 years later because her owner decided the cat was better off with me. But that's very different from a child! It's no wonder that the little one is misbehaving. She's going to be completely confused and hurt. She's too little to understand what's going on.
Some parents don't deserve their children. I certainly hope that the best outcome is achieved in the interests of the child. It can sometimes be a difficult decision as to whether a child should return to the parent or if they'd be better off away from them. I certainly know some people who would have turned out better had they not been with their parents.
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@pumpkinjam (8876)
• United Kingdom
23 Apr 19
@Lolaze That is sad. It's a shame. Some people deserve a second chance. Some change their ways or have things happen that they really don't deserve. Some just need a little extra support to be better at being a parent. It seems your friend should not have had children in the first place as these things don't seem to apply to her.
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@GardenGerty (169479)
• United States
23 Apr 19
I hope the right solution is found for this little one. She must feel very confused.
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@RasmaSandra (98033)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
23 Apr 19
That is one mom who should never have had a kid while moms who want kids cannot have any. Seems very unfair and I do not know why it is that way. Sure hope that the woman who wants the little girl can get here but I do not think that mother should be a part of her life.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
23 Apr 19
That is so unfair for the little child.
It is too much for a little brain to handle. Hope play therapy helps. If the mom is unwilling to take care of her, she should be handed over to one who can give more stable life to her. Juggling her between two will affect her badly.
It is too much for a little brain to handle. Hope play therapy helps. If the mom is unwilling to take care of her, she should be handed over to one who can give more stable life to her. Juggling her between two will affect her badly.2 people like this
@Lolaze (5092)
• St. Louis, Missouri
23 Apr 19
Yep! She was at a crisis care center at 10 days old (including a 4 day hospital stay at birth because she had to be in the NICU) because mom was too stressed and put herself on the psych unit. This child has never had a stable life!!!
