Do your lost loved ones live on in your heart?
By The Horse
@TheHorse (207500)
Walnut Creek, California
May 6, 2019 2:44pm CST
I don't mean to be overly serious after such a fun weekend, but I have a question to ask. I am at a stage of life where many of the people I looked up to are dying off. These people made me feel safe and loved. For me, recent deaths include a friend from high school, my beloved Auntie, and my Academic Advisor at UCSB.
On some days, I feel just plain lonely. And I feel slightly "unsafe," not having older people to turn to for wisdom...or just plain love and validation. But on others, I feel their presence in my heart, and that presence motivates me to carry on their legacy though my thoughts and actions.
Have you had similar experiences? Do you feel lonely on some days, and the presence of lost loved ones on other days? Sorry to be so serious, but seriousness is a part of life, I suppose. I'll attach an e.e. cummings poem set to music by Michael Hedges. I know I've used it before, but it's on my mind right now.
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18 responses
@acelawrites (19273)
• Philippines
6 May 19
I still carry them in my heart and mind; especially my mother whom I always remember.
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@Marilynda1225 (80172)
• United States
6 May 19
Yes! Those whom I loved have passed but I carry them in my heart and still have conversations with them.
With Mother's Day next weekend I'm sure many of us will be missing our moms
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@TheHorse (207500)
• Walnut Creek, California
11 May 19
@Marilynda1225 I carry all of their hearts with me.
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@rsa101 (37969)
• Philippines
7 May 19
I am not yet in that stage of life but I can somehow relate to that feeling of loneliness. It started with a grandma, then my mother which is very close to me. I feel that their physical presence is gone already but from time to time I feel them in my heart too.
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@xander6464 (40942)
• Wapello, Iowa
6 May 19
It's unsettling to realize that you're now the older generation. And it gets worse when people your age start dying off.
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
6 May 19
I always carry mine in my heart but I talk to them often and will always miss them. My dad, grandma and now my mom who seems to be giving up. I miss my sons the most especially my son who passed at 31 because I now help raise his 3 children and it kills me to know all he is missing and how much they need him now. It helps to talk to them after they have gone. I understand the feelings you hold.
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
7 May 19
You had written about a visit to your aunt in a post.
My condolences.
I.lost my father in July last year. I carry him in my heart.
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@Tampa_girl7 (49274)
• United States
6 May 19
I think this is normal.
I think of my mama everyday.
I think of my mama everyday.2 people like this
@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
9 May 19
I think about my Momma all the time @TheHorse . She was funny, brilliant, witty, loving, caring, a published poet, she played guitar and sang for military vets at hospitals, she was a critter lover and she always put everybody else first before herself.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
10 May 19
@TheHorse She is and always will be. You don't find too many people like her anymore.
@skydream (1446)
• Agate, Colorado
9 May 19
I have. Ever since losing one of my best friends I have felt a different type of loniliess because it's like those memories i have with her feel far in the way that if i have a memory with another friend we can talk about it and laugh but with her when its just a memory with her and I no one else remembers it, it doesnt feel as special to them and it makes me feel lonely.
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@ihasaquestion (8274)
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7 May 19
That is why some have an emotional wall around them and refuse to be attached no matter how the bond is. It's just life; some have it hard and others are just on a timeline..
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@TheHorse (207500)
• Walnut Creek, California
8 May 19
@ihasaquestion Losing a parent or sibling when you're young.
@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
7 May 19
all the time.and i'll tell you what.when i die,i better see my cats again,or i'm coming back to haunt with a vengence.
@wolfgirl569 (96449)
• Marion, Ohio
6 May 19
I dont feel lonely too often. But I do have many people that I miss dearly.
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@crazyhorseladycx (39515)
• United States
6 May 19
yup, carry 'em close to heart. sometimes i'll nearly slip 'n give 'em a call. only thingy that helps's to keep busy durin' those times.
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