Some People are Like a Dog with a Bone

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We have friends in Oklahoma we were worried about because of the tornados, so Hubby called to check on them today. Unfortunately for me, our old friend wasn't home and his wife, also our friend now by marriage, was the one to call back. She's a very nice person and we have some common interests. But once she gets on a subject it's hard for her to let go. She called Hubby's cell back, and just as I feared, they managed to involve me in the conversation. And Hubby handed me the phone. S___ is somewhat of a natural health evangelist, and I use that term purposefully. I had heard them talking about blood pressure and Hubby was sharing how successful he's been with raw garlic and I was trying to stay out of it. I was thinking "Here he goes again." But then I heard him say he'd give the phone to me so she could tell me the name of what she used. I guess she's all about detox now. So I dutifully wrote the product name down. Then she went on about how to use it. (I wasn't ever planning to use it.) I wanted to write my blog post and she wanted to talk about detox. But that wasn't all. She saw a a bud on a plant I gave her during a visit over a year ago. She couldn't remember what it was. After her description (a leaf like lamb's ears but bigger) I was pretty sure it was mullein or clary sage. I said I'd email a photo of my mullein but she said she couldn't get at the email, but I did send it that way because I didn't have the photo on my phone. So she sends a photo of what she has to my husband's phone. The bud looked like clary sage, but the leaves were like mullein. So I went out to feel the leaves of each. They were both fuzzier than I remembered. Then I took a photo of my mullein which is still only a rosette with no buds. I sent that from my phone since I'd just taken the picture there. And I had to figure out how to do it since I've hardly ever used the phone to message and I'd never attached a photo to a message. She messages back "that's it." Then she asks how I use it. I was getting restless by then, very anxious to get back to work. She was still "chewing on the bone." So I said, " I don't use it. I just have it there to look pretty." Did I say I hate messaging? I also mentioned I had to get back to work. I also mentioned I hardly ever answer my cell phone because the ringer is usually off and the phone is normally not in the same room I'm in. I normally only answer the house phone. I feel a bit guilty, even though that's the truth. Of course the bigger truth was that I didn't want to keep that conversation going. I had work to do. And it's this way every time I talk to her. She starts in on a subject and won't quit until she can persuade me. I did not want to talk anymore about detox. One reason I hate to call people anymore is because I don't want to catch them at a bad time. I don't really like to talk on the phone at all unless it's a best friend on the other end and we really need to talk about something important. There is one of those I need to call soon, since she buried her son a couple of weeks ago. For that I'll make a call. But I'm afraid I may have hurt someone's feelings tonight and that makes me feel bad. So you like to talk on the phone? Do you get into conversations even with people you like that you would rather not have? How could I have handled this better?