It is not always a good idea to adopt.
By marguicha
@marguicha (215403)
Chile
July 21, 2019 11:43pm CST
All my life I have been wondering whether we should adopt a child if we have the means. I asked myself today, while I was watching the movie (Lion) and I had answered it before, after listening to experiences of other people.
I have a friend who adopted 2 children, a girl and a boy. Both were adopted when they were babies so there was no apparent reminder of another life.
Yet, the boy, which came to their lives when he was 4 months old, has enough issues all the time so as to need always a psychologist. He also had school problems all through his school life.
What do you think about this, friends? Would you adopt a child? Have you adopted a child? What is your experience?
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@Deepizzaguy (94514)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
22 Jul 19
My sister and brother in law adopted a child that belonged to my sister's daughter who lives in Texas. Despite having special needs, he seems to be okay. Now as of any ideas of adoptions outside of the family, the answer is no.
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@marguicha (215403)
• Chile
22 Jul 19
You don´t have any experience or you don´t think it always works out well?
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@Deepizzaguy (94514)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
22 Jul 19
@marguicha I do have experience since I am single.
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@marguicha (215403)
• Chile
22 Jul 19
Same with my friend. Maybe it would have been the same with a biological child. But then, we never know.
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@infatuatedbby (95001)
• United States
22 Jul 19
I have talked about adoption with my fiancé. If we cannot have children personally, or alternatives - we may would like to adopt. However this topic is uncertain.
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@marguicha (215403)
• Chile
22 Jul 19
Children are difficult, even our flesh and blood.
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@infatuatedbby (95001)
• United States
23 Jul 19
@marguicha I am just babysitting my niece and nephew and that alone is difficult. Let alone my own children 
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@marguicha (215403)
• Chile
25 Jul 19
@infatuatedbby In my experience, it is much better to be a grandmother than to be a mother
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@Shavkat (137214)
• Philippines
23 Jul 19
@marguicha It was nice that he had changed to a better person.
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@sophie09 (34246)
• Indonesia
23 Jul 19
@marguicha hopefully that wont happen to me
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@Miss_Leafy (4296)
• Colombia
22 Jul 19
Oh, I used to want to adopt some children. But your post makes me need to think about it again.
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@marguicha (215403)
• Chile
22 Jul 19
Children are not as easy to raise as we think when we are young.
@BACONSTRIPSXXX (14351)
• West Haven, Connecticut
22 Jul 19
My aunt couldn't have children due to complications and adopted two children and they are super good with her. They turned 7 and the other 9 and are very good kids
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
22 Jul 19
I basically adopted and raised my two nieces with my mom, we we're given full legal custodianship of them, it had alot of difficulties because they knew full well why they we're with us and that there mother was a addict and there father in prison.... no matter how much i did i was still Uncle so it hurts when the eldest now 18 no longer cares for my opinion it feels like a knife in my chest....
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@marguicha (215403)
• Chile
22 Jul 19
I´m sad this happened. I hope that, even if her relation with you is not good, she will take good tare of herself.
@petatonicsca (7070)
• Japan
22 Jul 19
I'm an adoptive parent. It is hard because she came at age 7 and has remaining emotional problems, which affect her marriage. However, somebody needs to take care of these kids and I believe that I did the right thing. We have a good relationship and I have grandkids!
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@marguicha (215403)
• Chile
22 Jul 19
Lovely and selfless answer!
I hope things work out little by little for her.
I hope things work out little by little for her.