My dad is going to have more amputated....
@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
Perth, Australia
July 26, 2019 7:10am CST
I am very very exhausted so I'm just going to do some dot points to make it a bit quicker.
*Nurse recently told my dad to get his toe checked out by a doctor ASAP as it was weeping.
*Dad saw a doctor, had some tests done but not much was said.
*The tip of that toe that was / is weeping has started to go black.
*Dad took photos of his toe and texted them to his surgeon.
*Surgeon told my dad to see him. ( saw him at 6pm last night )
*The tip of my dad's toe has gone gangrenous and has to have that amputated.
I'm not sure when the surgery will take place but that is the update for now.
This year....if only you guys knew everything that has been going on but it has been such a sh*tty friggen year. From start to now. I swear I'm not exaggerating. Literally from January to now, has been hell. Not every day of course but this year....full of worry, stress, sickness, near death, actual death, betrayal, guilt, operations, Nanny being sick, Poppy being sick and memory issues, family issues, friend issues, money issues....
I'm just so exhausted. I'm not asking for sympathy. I'm just venting. I'm not open about everything to you guys as I tell specific stories to my best friends / psychologist but I will just say that a lot has been going on and I'm just so tired.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
26 Jul 19
@LadyDuck Thank you so much. I appreciate you being here throughout this whole thing.
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@LadyDuck (458173)
• Switzerland
26 Jul 19
@VivaLaDani13 I hoped so much that the doctor could take care of the infection without a new surgery.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
26 Jul 19
@LadyDuck Thank you. If I have this all correct, this is all a new infection. He was completely fine not too long ago but seems we are about to take a little step backwards. I'm feeling awful for my dad. He seems ok and is ready to have the tip of his toe gone rather than it spread to his foot. But I still feel awful as his foot is starting to hurt. Making me cry as I just want him to be ok.
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@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
26 Jul 19
Big hugs, I know the feeling. I am glad you can at least share some here and you have other caring people to talk with. I will pray for your dad. I am impressed that the surgeon got back to him so quickly.6 people like this
@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
17 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 I was thinking of this again last night. My 88 year old dad is in a similar boat, and we do not know when the surgery will happen. He is in the hospital now.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
17 Aug 19
@GardenGerty I'm so sorry Heather! 
I'm wishing all the best for your dad!
I'm wishing all the best for your dad!
@smileyhema (4606)
• United States
26 Jul 19
Oh, dear! I can understand that you're having rough days now. This year has brought you with all the new challenges and it's surely tough, I know.
I don't want to talk philosophy here for motivating you and stuffs. But, one thing - this will not be constant like this. It's just testing times and will surely pass soon. These things makes your skin even more thick and that's how you learn and arise in your life.
I'm sure you will have another point in your life soon, where you would have crossed all these hurdles and you will see how strong you were and that will surely be a good memory for it gives a good learning.
Just be bold and keep it going. My prayers and regards for your dad.
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@smileyhema (4606)
• United States
30 Jul 19
@VivaLaDani13 Oh, I understand Dani! I could see that you're feeling that you're just trapped inside a pot full of darkness. I have had the same feeling sometimes. It would be so tiring with so many negative things around and you can't even explain what's going on, in our head.
I truly get this feel. I'm sending you all the positive vibes from my end. I'll also keep your dad in my prayers. You just relax a bit and I'm wishing you a better times ahead.. hugs and cheers! 
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
31 Jul 19
@smileyhema Thank you for understanding. I'm sorry you have felt the same thing. It's really not a nice thing to experience at all.
Thank you very much Hema. I appreciate your answer and support.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
27 Jul 19
@smileyhema I understand where you are coming from. I am aware that this cannot last forever but as much as I believe that, it doesn't make me feel any better. A lot of what has happened has been really awful but in regards to just my dad's situation alone, I am still terrified of losing him. He is doing better but he isn't out of the woods yet.
I'm just exhausted as it's not like I've never been through a tough time before. I've had a LOT of them and I'm just tired I guess.
Thank you very kindly for your answer. I appreciate it and appreciate you stopping by.
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@CookieMonster46 (13447)
• United States
27 Jul 19
I am very sorry to hear about your dad, it is a lot of stress, I hope he will be alright.
I do understand what you mean about bad year, and things keep happening, because I feel like that too. It is a never ending battle, and a lot of stress , enough to make you ill..
Please take care, I am praying for you and your dad.
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@CookieMonster46 (13447)
• United States
28 Jul 19
@VivaLaDani13 Praying for both of us.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
28 Jul 19
@CookieMonster46 If I did pray, I would BUT I do think and wish the best for people and I do wish the best for you. I really do.
If I did pray, I would BUT I do think and wish the best for people and I do wish the best for you. I really do.1 person likes this
@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
27 Jul 19
@CookieMonster46 You most certainly have been through enough yourself this year and I'm so sorry for everything you've been through.
Thank you very much for your answer. I do hope things will improve for you too though.
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@RasmaSandra (73444)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
27 Jul 19
Virtual hugs to you and many blessings and I will keep your Dad in my prayers.
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@Janet357 (75656)
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27 Jul 19
am so sorry to hear this. it is not easy for a daughter to see her father suffer.
i feel you. there was a time i posted a discussion here how i wish it would be 2020 because stress literally started in january 1 to me as well and it has continued till now. only few good things happen, but majority is disaster to us. you are not alone danni on this. all of us have problems just in different forms.
i pray that you will overcome all this. dont worry, 2020 is just 5 months away. i hope 2020 will be a better year for us
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
27 Jul 19
@Janet357 I am aware that everyone has their problems so please don't think I believe I'm the only one. But reality is, that when others are going through things, it doesn't take away anything that we are going through. I am so sorry that you have been having a bad year also. I really do wish you the very best and hope things will improve for you!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
27 Jul 19
@Janet357 Thank you so much. I sure do hope so too.
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@Janet357 (75656)
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27 Jul 19
@VivaLaDani13 same to you dani. and i hope your father's situation will soon improve after the amputation.
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@popciclecold (35103)
• United States
26 Jul 19
I am sorry to hear all you are going through. I went through that about 2 years ago. My husband had his big toe amputated and, eventually both legs. He lives in a nursing home now. But it was rough so I know how it is. We see him three times a week. He has a cell phone, so we talk all the time. I wish you the best.
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@popciclecold (35103)
• United States
27 Jul 19
@VivaLaDani13 Thank you, but its better now. At the time I couldn't see that it saved his life. There are so many amputees, you wouldn't believe. Good thing the doctors found it in time.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
27 Jul 19
@popciclecold My goodness. I feel so awful I am so sorry. I will admit I'm feeling so bad for you and your husband and now bloody terrified that this is what's going to happen to my dad. NOT blaming you for making me feel bad I'm just saying...it scared me. I'm just so sorry for what your husband had to go through. I thank you so much for your answer and wishing me the best.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
27 Jul 19
@popciclecold I am glad things are better now. But yes, I am glad doctors were there in time to help out. Quicker these things get checked out, the better!
@ptrikha_2 (45472)
• India
27 Jul 19
Praying to God now. You have been through a lot of ordeal.
I pray to God to heal and make your life better.
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@ptrikha_2 (45472)
• India
28 Jul 19
@VivaLaDani13 yes my wishes and prayers are with you!
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@1hopefulman (45123)
• Canada
26 Jul 19
I can't help but be pained at the all the difficulties you have faced, are facing and will face.3 people like this
@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
27 Jul 19
@1hopefulman Thank you for being here and being supportive as it really does mean a lot to me.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Jul 19
I'm so sorry for all you have been through and are going through. It will get better even if it doesn't seem like it will right now. Wish I could be more helpful. I'm here, with no judgments if you ever want to talk though.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
27 Jul 19
@VivaLaDani13 You're so welcome love! I'm here anytime.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
27 Jul 19
@LovingMyBabies Thank you very much. I honestly really do appreciate it. You just being here really is enough to make me feel supported and aware that I have good friends here. Thank you.
Thank you very much. I honestly really do appreciate it. You just being here really is enough to make me feel supported and aware that I have good friends here. Thank you. 1 person likes this
@Juliaacv (48442)
• Canada
26 Jul 19
I know that you've been dealing with a lot with his health.
I'm sorry that his toe is bad, but I hope that the surgery can be done soon and he can begin to heal.
And I get that you're needing to vent.....that IS your Dad, and he is obviously the world to you.
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@Juliaacv (48442)
• Canada
26 Jul 19
@VivaLaDani13 You are welcome.
You stay strong, as I know you will.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
26 Jul 19
@Juliaacv Thank you very kindly for understanding and being here. I worry sometimes that people will think I'm wanting sympathy when really I just need to vent to let it out. Thank you.
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@just4him (306236)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
31 Jul 19
@VivaLaDani13 You're welcome. How's he doing?
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
1 Aug 19
@just4him He is doing good for now thank you. He is at work today and went to work yesterday. He was getting irritated not going to work thinking he was going into hospital but since he has received no call yet about surgery, he went into work.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
27 Jul 19
@just4him Thank you for your positive words as well as being understanding. Thank you so much for reading and answering!
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@Hannihar (129470)
• Israel
26 Jul 19
@VivaLaDani13
Dani, I can understand why you are so tired. When I read the title I said oh no. That is not good news. So so sorry about your father and everything you have had to deal with. Never-ending things can tire one out.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
27 Jul 19
@Hannihar Definitely. I don't mean things have been happening every single day but literally from the start of the year there has been some major events that have been stressing me out as well as some being traumatising so I'm just mentally exhausted. Thank you for understanding and being here. I really appreciate it a lot.
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@Hannihar (129470)
• Israel
28 Jul 19
@VivaLaDani13
I can understand about the mental exhaustion part. It just keeps coming at you and it gets to a point where you cannot take it any longer and all you want to do is sit somewhere and not move or sleep. I do understand. Life is not easy. Take care my friend and I am here for you.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
27 Jul 19
@JustBhem Thank you very much. I hope so too. It's all on my mind a lot tonight.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
27 Jul 19
@JustBhem I'm sorry. I know you're going through a tough time yourself. I thank you for being so supportive to me when you already have so much going on in your life.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
27 Jul 19
@VivaLaDani13 I know how you feel right now. It is so hard knowing our loved ones are sick. And there’s nothing we can do but pray and stay with them.
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@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
27 Jul 19
the wound care center up here saved my husband's feet when he had black toes and dry gangrene-they had him put iodine on it.it worked-i couldn't believe it.now they've back to pink.
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@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
28 Jul 19
@VivaLaDani13 not at present,no.i haven't even seen any hot spots starting.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
27 Jul 19
@scarlet_woman wow! That is amazing and incredible! I'm so happy it went back to a more natural colour. I'm shocked it worked too. So no more infection or anything with your husband with his feet?
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
28 Jul 19
@scarlet_woman That is fantastic! I hope it continues to get better!
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
1 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 You are welcome. Just remember to be strong and anything you do not understand, ask his doctor or his nurse. The nurse usually doesn't tell you everything that the doc will but you will most likely see more of the nurse. If you have to set up a meeting with the doctor and your family, don't be afraid to ask anything. I did that alot when my parents were in the hospital.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
1 Aug 19
@ramapo17 I have no need to do this as my dad asks all the questions he needs to ask. I have no reason to see his nurse or doctor. My dad has all that side under control. He now has to see a nurse every day to get his bandages redressed so at the same time, they are looking at his foot / toes and then discuss any changes or setbacks etc. So all good there. No need for me to go hold his hand for all that part.
And thank you so much. Being as strong as I can for sure.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
26 Jul 19
@ramapo17 Thank you very much Nancy. I really appreciate it!
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
26 Jul 19
Oh I am so sorry sounds like how my uncle's started and it only got worse praying it is different for you
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
27 Jul 19
@chrissbergstrom Thank you so much for being here. I know you've got enough on your plate so I appreciate for you being here for me. I do hope it doesn't get too bad. I'm actually really worried now thinking about it. I'm scared to relax right now. Like I'm on alert and waiting for the worst instead of just feeling calm.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
29 Jul 19
@chrissbergstrom That's exactly right. Thank you so much. I do hope you're well.
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
29 Jul 19
@VivaLaDani13 It's a very hard thing to deal with as anytime you see a loved one in pain it's almost worse on you as you feel there pain and hurt when they hurt.... i will pray for him and you both.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
27 Jul 19
@dya80dya Thank you Diana. Thank you for being here. I do hope things are going well for you. If not, please remember you can always message me.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
27 Jul 19
@dya80dya I'm so sorry. I do have a lot going on but you're always welcome to message me if you feel you need to vent. Always welcome. I wish I could help you feel better. 
I'm so sorry. I do have a lot going on but you're always welcome to message me if you feel you need to vent. Always welcome. I wish I could help you feel better. @dya80dya (33512)
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27 Jul 19
@VivaLaDani13 You are welcome. Things are not going well for me, but I don't want to overwhelm you with my problems. You have enough problems.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
27 Jul 19
@CarolDM Thank you kindly Carol.
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@Miss_Leafy (4296)
• Colombia
26 Jul 19
Oh, I'm sorry. That's terrible. I know how it feels. Being worried, stressed, exhausted. I had gone through this. Don't lose hope, keep positive. I hope your Dad will get better soon.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
26 Jul 19
@Miss_Leafy I'm sorry you know the feeling. I know that all people go through these horrible things but I'm still sorry for you and anyone feeling these horrible feelings.
Thank you very much.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60355)
• Perth, Australia
27 Jul 19
@Miss_Leafy I'm so sorry! That must have been so tough on all of you. My I ask you if everything is better now in regards to all that?
That must have been so tough on all of you. My I ask you if everything is better now in regards to all that?1 person likes this
@Miss_Leafy (4296)
• Colombia
26 Jul 19
@VivaLaDani13 You're welcome . When I had to look after my Dad at home and then in hospital, it really drained my energy, my everything, and we were in bad family and financial situation.
Be patient and strong.
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