Would you treat your friend differently when you are with your other friends?

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@thelme55 (79368)
Germany
October 26, 2019 11:27am CST
I was with my friend G. and her family visiting the Hansefest (a trade festival) in our city. It is a medieval fest were plenty of medieval stools for selling fur coats, clothes, jewelries and so on. There were a lot of shows going on like ancient way of making a knife, singing medieval songs and a wooden Ferris wheel for the children. I have met a long-time Filipina friend (though not a close friend) with her German husband and their German friends drinking beer while standing. I went to them and great them as I usually did before. It was only the husband who was talking to me but not this Pinay "friend." I told my friend G. to come to me as I would like to introduce her to this Pinay. I noticed that my friend didn´t come to me. Then I said goodbye to the group and wished them a happy day. G, her family and I went to a cafeteria. Suddenly, I thought to myself, why that Pinay didn´t speak a word to me and was only smiling. Usually, when I met her in the city, she talked a lot about herself and her family. I even get a headache sometimes when I went home because this Pinay spoke multiple languages in a sentence. She usually spoke Tagalog, German and English and in a horrible way. My friend G told me that this was the Filipina whom she saw when she was shopping in the supermarket. It was this Filipina who looked to her from head to foot as if she was underestimating her. Sorry. Now I am really ranting. I wonder what happened? I think when I see this Pinay next time in the city, I will ignore her. A tooth for a tooth. What do you think? Anyway, have a nice Saturday to all of you Mylotters.
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@LindaOHio (222986)
• United States
26 Oct 19
I would ask her why she didn't talk to you. I wouldn't ignore her.
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@thelme55 (79368)
• Germany
26 Oct 19
I think I will give her a chance. I will not ignore her but will ask her why she was not talking to me. I always want to know if something like this happened. I am a curious person. Thank you @LindaOHio
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@LadyDuck (502956)
• Italy
27 Oct 19
Thelma I would do exactly the same you plan to do. That woman does not deserve that you greets her anymore.
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@LadyDuck (502956)
• Italy
27 Oct 19
@thelme55 That seems the right thing to do.
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@thelme55 (79368)
• Germany
27 Oct 19
@LadyDuck I think it is. Have a nice evening there.
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@thelme55 (79368)
• Germany
27 Oct 19
That is what I think too @LadyDuck. Well, if we see each other again (she lives 2 blocks from me) I will only greet her when she does first. Then I will ask her what happened.
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@DianneN (254926)
• United States
26 Oct 19
Oh, so sorry she treated you that way. This is the place to vent. That hasn’t happened to me, but if it did, I would give her another chance. Perhaps she had other things on her mind or was ill.
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@DianneN (254926)
• United States
27 Oct 19
@thelme55 I do hope you give her another chance, then decide.
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@thelme55 (79368)
• Germany
27 Oct 19
@DianneN Yes, I will.
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@thelme55 (79368)
• Germany
27 Oct 19
It is the first time it happened to me @DianneN. That is why I wonder why. Thanks and enjoy your weekend.
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@JudyEv (382693)
• Rockingham, Australia
27 Oct 19
That is really sad - and very, very rude on behalf of your acquaintance. It sounds like she is a real snob. I think you're lucky she doesn't speak to you!
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@JudyEv (382693)
• Rockingham, Australia
27 Oct 19
@thelme55 Perhaps she has a good explanation.
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@thelme55 (79368)
• Germany
27 Oct 19
@JudyEv Perhaps.
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@thelme55 (79368)
• Germany
27 Oct 19
It is indeed @JudyEv. I think I am lucky she didn't speak to me but I was curious why she didn't because she usually talked to me about what was going on in her life or about other Filipinas when we saw each other accidentally. I find it strange.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
26 Oct 19
This trait never goes away from other kababayan especially if they think they are ahead of you. This also happened to one of my friend who lives in Switzerland. She said, Filipinas there some are not so friendly enough.
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@thelme55 (79368)
• Germany
26 Oct 19
I agree with you. I am ahead of her here in Germany but I don´t look down to her, to people or kababayan who just arrived in Germany. That is a very sad trait. Thanks @JustBhem
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@thelme55 (79368)
• Germany
26 Oct 19
@JustBhem Yes, I know that. Isn´t it horrible?
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
26 Oct 19
@thelme55 And I know it’s not just in othet countries also here it happens.
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@cool83 (4465)
• Sri Lanka
27 Oct 19
Just ask what happened on that day ..Just clarify about the incident .. then you can be free your mind .. Don`t take much about that
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@thelme55 (79368)
• Germany
27 Oct 19
I don´t take much about this nasty event. Not worth stress for me to make. I will ask her if she greets me first. Thanks, @cool83
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@cool83 (4465)
• Sri Lanka
27 Oct 19
@thelme55 You are welcome .. i think you should take that easy .. with good heart people will feel that .. seems to be you have good heart ...
@snowy22315 (209245)
• United States
26 Oct 19
That stinks, I hate when that happens.
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@thelme55 (79368)
• Germany
26 Oct 19
Indeed! It really stinks that is why I wrote this rant. Thanks, @snowy22315.
• United States
26 Oct 19
Oh I know exactly what you mean Thelma. There are people that behave in this way and it is not cool. I am the same to all. I do not give second chance I am a hard nut and have no patience with drama. Done and done finished. But it is worth weighing it out perhaps for you.
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• United States
1 Nov 19
@thelme55 Yes I know you will make the right choice for you Thelma. I wish you the very best you deserve good friends.
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@thelme55 (79368)
• Germany
26 Oct 19
She is not really close to me but I know her for more than 30 years now, since our children were still babies but we have not become really close. We only talk to each other when we see each other in the city or when we see each other at a party held by our countrymen. So, it is not a loss to me if ever she ignores me again. I always keep away from people who make me sick. Thank you @TiarasOceanView
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Oct 19
I would be as friendly as before. She doesn't know you talked to your friend about her. You might get her side of the story. It might be a complete misunderstanding and you all could be friends.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Oct 19
@thelme55 You're welcome.
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@thelme55 (79368)
• Germany
26 Oct 19
Oh, it was my friend G who told me that she was looked at " head to foot" by this Filipina when she met her accidentally at the supermarket. My friend was annoyed by the way she was looked at. They didn´t talk and it was the first time they saw each other. My friend G didn´t even know that I know that Filipina she met at the supermarket. I only know it today. Thanks @just4him.
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@Janet357 (75638)
26 Oct 19
give her a last chance. you may ask her. Maybe there is a reason.
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@thelme55 (79368)
• Germany
26 Oct 19
Yes, I will give her a chance @Janet357. Maybe there is.
@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
26 Oct 19
I probably would ask what her problem was. And what is in the photo?
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@thelme55 (79368)
• Germany
26 Oct 19
Yes, I will ask her if and when I meet her again. That is the photo of animal furs sold in the Hansefest I have been to this afternoon. Thanks @CarolDM
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