Would You be Mad Also?
By Jo Ann
@akalinus (44366)
United States
January 19, 2020 11:51am CST
Today my neighbor came over. She wanted to borrow six bottles of water. Well, okay.
Then she starts telling me that her dog's arthritis is bothering her again. She needs some Glucosamine which is a medicine to help bad joints. She asked me to find out
where she can get it and how much it costs. I asked her if she has a smartphone. "Of course, I do," she said. "But I am busy."
That implies that I am not busy because I am on the computer. She does not consider that work. Therefore, I should be free to research things for her. She also felt entitled to my water because I bought another case.
Am I wrong to be mad? Would you be? What kind of things make you mad?
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9 responses
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
14 Feb 20
I have told her to walk her dog before bringing it so I can babysit it. She said she won't bring it over any more which is not what I said. A couple of weeks later, she brought it back and said she already walked it. That is much better.
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@Shivram59 (50131)
• India
19 Jan 20
@akalinus I think,"mad" is not appropriate word to describe your reaction after meeting such people.If I were you, I would have refused to help her.Such people can make anybody go "mad." ( I don't know what the appropriate word is. )
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@akalinus (44366)
• United States
21 Jan 20
@Shivram59 Because some time has passed and I'm seeing it in a different light. Some people are just like that.
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@Shivram59 (50131)
• India
20 Jan 20
@akalinus Sorry,I did not understand.Why are you feeling calmer today??
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@snowy22315 (208746)
• United States
19 Jan 20
I don't know if mad is the right word...but I would probably be ticked. Does she share things with you?
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@Mike197602 (15504)
• United Kingdom
20 Jan 20
I may have been angry or I may have not been.
It would depend on the relationship prior to the things you describe.
If she has done things for you in the past then it's a two way street.
If you have a close relationship with her then I'd say do what you can to maintain a good relationship with your neighbour.
If she's done nothing for you maybe look at establishing some boundaries so as you aren't always being the giver.
It is always good to have a nice neighbour but not nice if your always the giver.
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@akalinus (44366)
• United States
20 Jan 20
She has given me rides but I have given her a lot of stuff. They are everyday items like soap, toilet paper, paper towels, duct tape, water, and so on, on an almost daily basis. She and her husband make twice as much income as I do and should be able to buy their own needed things. I feel that I am also busy and am not her personal flunky.
I also watch her dog and it always needs to be walked immediately. She told me that she doesn't like to pick up after it so I can do it.
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@moffittjc (128824)
• Gainesville, Florida
20 Jan 20
What the hell kind of neighbor does something like that? That's not right! I'd be like, "Bich, fill up a cup out of the faucet!" And then I'd be like, "God gave you ten perfectly good fingers. Use them to look that sh*t up yourself!" Sorry, I don't normally cuss, but that made me mad just reading about it!
@akalinus (44366)
• United States
23 Jan 20
@moffittjc Thanks. I'm glad you think so.
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@moffittjc (128824)
• Gainesville, Florida
22 Jan 20
@akalinus Good for you! I wouldn't have looked it up either!
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