My birthday was awkward and a tad depressing....

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It is 1:35am here. Having bit of trouble sleeping. As usual. It was my birthday yesterday. I was asleep for most of the day. I am pretty sure I had just finally crashed from all the lack of a sleep lately. Last night, My dad, brother and I went to my Nan and Pop's house. My dad's friend came too. I really like her and get on with her well but there are times where her company affects the atmosphere. There have been a lot of occasions where she can be happy and then out of nowhere becomes....different. I told my dad beforehand that I was worried about having dinner because 1: My Nan and Pop aren't doing too good due to my Pop's dementia. 2: As much as I love my Nan, my Nan can be quite nasty towards my brother. 3: I already knew my dad's friend was in a not so happy mood and I was anxious to be around that. I honestly do not mean this in a selfish way but I had a terrible birthday last year due to some personal issues that was going on as well as my dad being in hospital. So I was really hoping this year could be a good time. I am extremely grateful because we spent time together, had my favourite food ( Chinese ) and a chocolate birthday cake. It's just that the atmosphere was making me anxious and a bit depressed. I felt bad that my dad's friend was sad but it was over the top and she was being kinda rude. Most of the night was her shrugging her shoulders when someone spoke to her or nodding / shaking her head when asked a question. I also felt bad when my Nan was offering her food / drinks and she just shook her sad head instead of speaking to say "No thank you." I get it, she was not feeling her best. It just brought down the mood. I wanted to try talk to her but it got way too morbid. Me: "Oh you were in my dream last night!" Her: "Did I die?" Me: "No....." Her: "How disappointing." Me: "Do you want to die?" Her: "Yes." At this point I was getting a bit annoyed so my sarcasm just came out and I said: "Well we don't want you to die cause then you'd miss out on this fun night." The reason she was sad was because she didn't get promoted at her job. A job she doesn't even want. Again, I like her but she has been known to make lies or over-exaggerate to get sympathy ( and yes she's admitted to this ). The worst one was her sending a photo to my dad of her in the bath basically saying she was going to kill herself yet told my dad she would leave the front door unlocked if he wants to come save her. And for me personally, I don't like being apart of that. After all the fake things my mum used to do to get attention / sympathy, I just can't. The very first time I met her, she got upset that my dad didn't want to go back to her house as he wanted to spend time with my brother and I ( this was one Christmas day 1-2 years ago ) and she slammed the car door behind her while I was trying to say goodbye. She gets upset easily when she can't spend time with my dad. So again, without sounding selfish, I do feel bad she was feeling bad and I gave her a long hug when saying goodbye, but I was hoping for a relaxed and fun birthday this year but it was just awkward and became depressing. I thanked my dad for the Chinese and cake. But my dad also did understand how his friend ruined the mood for everyone. And why it's weird is because my dad and I were the last ones to arrive and we both heard her laughing and talking with my Pop as we were entering their house but soon as we walked in the room, she was different. Like she was forcing the bad mood. I don't know. ****photo is of my birthday cake****