Where Your Attention Goes Your Energy Flows

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Myloter Raj wrote a post about two people that were doing everything they could to piss him off and at the end of the post he asked the question 'Is there a way to divert my attention to something else productive.' He has the answer in his own question, all he needs to do is to put his attention where he wants it to be rather than where he doesn't. I started to comment on his post and it got so long I thought I would do it as a post instead. There is a saying that goes something like this 'Where your attention goes your energy flows' So if you give attention to what someone else has done or said that upsets you then you give power and energy to your upset and your feeling of being pissed off will increase. Every time we think about what they have done or said we are actually feeding those negative feelings. So the more we give our attention to and dwell on what they did then our feelings of hurt, resentment, anger, hatred or any other negative response to the provocation grows stronger. Meanwhile the people that said or did something that we are upset by are totally unaware or unaffected by how bad we are feeling inside. They more than likely go happily on with their lives while we are getting more and more upset. We have no power over what might come at us from the out side, as we can see clearly during this covid crisis. But when it comes to how we choose to respond only we have the power when it comes to how we respond. Like another saying Mind over matter = If I don't mind it doesn't matter. This means even if someone deliberately tries to piss us off they cannot unless we decide to cooperate and become pissed off. This is because only we hold the power when it comes to our response. For example if someone jumps in front of the queue at the checkout at the supermarket, how I respond is down to me. I could get angry and shout at the person, I could tell the cashier to not serve the person, I could smile and let the person push in, I could give up my place in the queue and let them take my place and move to the back of the queue so that no one else but me lost their place. No doubt you can think up other responses you could make in this situation. But no matter what way you responded how you will feel about the response you made will depend on the story you tell yourself based on that response. Let me know what your choice would be and what story you would tell yourself.