The Parents

@AmbiePam (55362)
United States
June 27, 2020 8:19pm CST
I had a great mom (she died five years ago, 55, afflicted with dementia). My dad, I am so proud of him. He took care of my mom, and she was his queen until the end. It made me think of parents overall. My dad remarried a few years ago, and her 89 year old father died today. She was able to be with him when he took his last breaths, and it meant a lot to her. What about your parents? Are they still alive? Did you have parents you adored? I am so grateful for mine.
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@JudyEv (212910)
• Bunbury, Australia
28 Jun
My parents are both gone now. Dad lived to 86 and Mum to 104 so I was lucky to have them as long as I did.
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@AmbiePam (55362)
• United States
28 Jun
104, wow!
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@jstory07 (92106)
• Roseburg, Oregon
28 Jun
Both of my parents are gone now. I miss them every day to.
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@Juliaacv (56359)
• Canada
28 Jun
My mother was so confused just before my Dad's passing. She used to call me every single morning to give me an update on his condition, often the hospital would call and she'd also lay out who was going up to the hospital and at what times so that we could space our visits out and he wouldn't be left alone. The day before he passed, she did not call. I waited a few hours and when I called her, my 2 younger brothers were with her and she was crying. She told me that the hospital had called and he was no better and in a lot of pain. Her and my brothers were discussing the option given to her, which was to authorize a strong injection which would mean that he would no longer be able to communicate verbally. I had a hair appointment on that day, and went to the hospital immediately afterwards. I met my 2 younger brothers as they were leaving. They told me he had the injection, and that he did not know them. They were crying, that is hard. Mom was still with him. I joined her, and stayed for several hours. When my husband finished work, showered and changed he came to relieve us. I took her out for supper while my hubs stayed with Dad. When my aunt arrived, she realized that the remaining siblings should be called. They were and all came to say goodbye. My mother and brothers decided to spend the night there. I knew he would need someone the following day, so we went home to sleep. The next morning we met my mother on her way home from the hospital. We were at the hospital with my 2 aunts, and within about 90 minutes, my Dad rallied. He held my and my husband's hands. He looked at me very lovingly, and he took his last breath finally. No fanfare, but so beautiful, it was a true passing. From this side to the next with his only daughter and son-in-law and 2 of his 3 sisters. That was July 4, 2009.
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@AmbiePam (55362)
• United States
28 Jun
Your post made my eyes well up. I am so glad you were with him.
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@Juliaacv (56359)
• Canada
28 Jun
@AmbiePam I'm sorry Amber. I didn't mean to make you emotional. I was a Daddy's girl, and my love for him is beyond words. Many times during my life I would go a different route to make sure that he would be okay. He had lupus and suffered as long as I can remember with it.
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@AmbiePam (55362)
• United States
28 Jun
@Juliaacv It makes me feel good to know you had those moments. I want everyone to have the love we had for our parents.
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@fahmita_ (1000)
• Indonesia
28 Jun
Both of my parents are still alive. Yes I'm so grateful because I can gathering with my complete family. Hope it will be long lasting. Hope you always happy!
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@DianneN (174775)
• United States
28 Jun
Both my amazing and loving parents are gone now. I still feel the devastation of their absence in my life. I was so close to them both. My mother was my best friend until the day she passed away.
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@AmbiePam (55362)
• United States
28 Jun
That's absolutely wonderful that you were so close.
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@DianneN (174775)
• United States
28 Jun
@AmbiePam Thanks. Our entire small family is close. That's how a family should be, but not all families are, unfortunately.
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@GreatMartin (14126)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
28 Jun
I 'divorced' my family when I was 16--no I did not have parents that I adored!
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@AmbiePam (55362)
• United States
28 Jun
That is a complete shame. I am sorry they weren't better to you.
@Corbin5 (192193)
• United States
28 Jun
My mom lived to age 92 and my dad lived to age 97. Dementia was the cause of their deaths. I miss them very much.
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• Agra, India
28 Jun
Thankfully my parents are still alive. But dealing with many health issues. I hope they soon start feeling better soon
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@CarolDM (81556)
• Nashville, Tennessee
28 Jun
Sorry about your Mom. I lost mine when she was 39. Lost my Dad three years ago, he was 86. I miss them even day.
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@AmbiePam (55362)
• United States
28 Jun
It's so hard when people pass away at such young ages.
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@CarolDM (81556)
• Nashville, Tennessee
28 Jun
@AmbiePam Yes it is Amber. So difficult for the rest of our lives.
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@SHOHANA (10665)
• Bangladesh
29 Jun
My mom also passed away five years ago and she was only 45 + she was a great mom, I pray for her heaven to Almighty Allah
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@AmbiePam (55362)
• United States
30 Jun
I am so sorry. That is extremely difficult.
@gr8nana6 (2916)
• Hamilton, Ohio
28 Jun
My Dad sadly passed away in 1990 at 70, but thank god my Mom is still alive and doing well for her age she'll be 97 in sept.
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@AmbiePam (55362)
• United States
28 Jun
That's wonderful that she is still alive.
• United States
30 Jun
My mother passed away several years ago (9 years in January) and I do not have a relationship with my father. Lately I feel closer to my mother because I have been enjoying a craft that she also enjoyed. I did have a rocky childhood growing up, and didn't always see eye to eye with my mother but I love her and miss her.
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@sharon6345 (239145)
• United States
28 Jun
I don't remember my dad but I am glad I was given life either way.
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@sallypup (38940)
• Moses Lake, Washington
28 Jun
I'm sorry for your loss and I'm deeply sorry that your Mom had early onset dementia. Both my parents are gone. My Mom lived until her 97th year though dementia took her earlier from me. I'm glad you still have your Dad.
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@just4him (209929)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
28 Jun
I'm sorry for the loss in the family. It's great you had parents you adored. Both of mine are gone. No, I didn't adore them.
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@LindaOHio (39686)
• United States
28 Jun
No, both of my parents passed quite some time ago.
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@marlina (102117)
• Canada
28 Jun
Sorry about your Mom not being here anymore, Always sad to lose our parents,
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@Courtlynn (66255)
• United States
13h
My mom is still alive, thankfully. And we're bestfriends. My sperm donor dad is still alive too unfortunately.