June 27, 2020 8:19pm CST
I had a great mom (she died five years ago, 55, afflicted with dementia). My dad, I am so proud of him. He took care of my mom, and she was his queen until the end. It made me think of parents overall. My dad remarried a few years ago, and her 89 year old father died today. She was able to be with him when he took his last breaths, and it meant a lot to her. What about your parents? Are they still alive? Did you have parents you adored? I am so grateful for mine.
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My mother was so confused just before my Dad's passing. She used to call me every single morning to give me an update on his condition, often the hospital would call and she'd also lay out who was going up to the hospital and at what times so that we could space our visits out and he wouldn't be left alone. The day before he passed, she did not call. I waited a few hours and when I called her, my 2 younger brothers were with her and she was crying. She told me that the hospital had called and he was no better and in a lot of pain. Her and my brothers were discussing the option given to her, which was to authorize a strong injection which would mean that he would no longer be able to communicate verbally. I had a hair appointment on that day, and went to the hospital immediately afterwards. I met my 2 younger brothers as they were leaving. They told me he had the injection, and that he did not know them. They were crying, that is hard. Mom was still with him. I joined her, and stayed for several hours. When my husband finished work, showered and changed he came to relieve us. I took her out for supper while my hubs stayed with Dad. When my aunt arrived, she realized that the remaining siblings should be called. They were and all came to say goodbye. My mother and brothers decided to spend the night there. I knew he would need someone the following day, so we went home to sleep. The next morning we met my mother on her way home from the hospital. We were at the hospital with my 2 aunts, and within about 90 minutes, my Dad rallied. He held my and my husband's hands. He looked at me very lovingly, and he took his last breath finally. No fanfare, but so beautiful, it was a true passing. From this side to the next with his only daughter and son-in-law and 2 of his 3 sisters. That was July 4, 2009.
@AmbiePam I'm sorry Amber. I didn't mean to make you emotional. I was a Daddy's girl, and my love for him is beyond words. Many times during my life I would go a different route to make sure that he would be okay. He had lupus and suffered as long as I can remember with it.
• United States
My mother passed away several years ago (9 years in January) and I do not have a relationship with my father. Lately I feel closer to my mother because I have been enjoying a craft that she also enjoyed. I did have a rocky childhood growing up, and didn't always see eye to eye with my mother but I love her and miss her.
• Moses Lake, Washington
I'm sorry for your loss and I'm deeply sorry that your Mom had early onset dementia. Both my parents are gone. My Mom lived until her 97th year though dementia took her earlier from me. I'm glad you still have your Dad.