Helped a Friend Divert a Crisis

@CarolDM (203396)

Nashville, Tennessee

July 14, 2020 2:14pm CST

A friend called earlier today with a problem. She has a sibling, a drug addict, who has decided to move in with her. She showed up last night with her suitcase. This is a delicate situation at best. I know what I would do. But I am hesitant at giving advice to others. I told her, as a friend, she will have to go with her gut instinct on this one. Also, I shared with her what I would do if I were in that situation. And reminded her I would be here to listen if she needed support. That is all I can do. She understood and has called a couple of times today. Mostly venting. After a very long sleepless night, she has decided to tell her she must leave. I will be her friend and she said that is what she needs right now.

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@LindaOHio (222285)

• United States

14 Jul 20

That's a sad situation. I hope her sibling has somewhere she can go or to a facility. Love the picture.

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

14 Jul 20

Very sad. Family can cause so much drama and I hope the best for her. Thanks! Eeyore and friends in the photo.

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@NJChicaa (127123)

• United States

14 Jul 20

She definitely needs to kick her out

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

14 Jul 20

She gets it now.

@simone10 (54180)

• Louisville, Kentucky

16 Jul 20

Your friend is in a kind of sticky situation, but if it were me, I would want her to leave too.

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@simone10 (54180)

• Louisville, Kentucky

20 Jul 20

@CarolDM I know it wasn't easy for her but I'm glad she did make that decision.

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

16 Jul 20

Yes she made that decision as well.

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@amadeo (111937)

• United States

14 Jul 20

sorry to hear this.But sad how people need help.I would have put her in some sort of home there if you have one.

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

14 Jul 20

Thanks, many do need help that families cannot provide. She is not in my area.

@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

16 Jul 20

You are a generous person, my respect and love for you

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@SHOHANA (16093)

• Bangladesh

16 Jul 20

@CarolDM yes you are a true friend, hats off

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

16 Jul 20

I am her friend, thank you.

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@thelme55 (79311)

• Germany

14 Jul 20

That is a very hard decision for your friend. I am glad you are there for her.

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

14 Jul 20

It was hard but she feels better now. Thanks.

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@LovingMyBabies (85923)

• Valdosta, Georgia

15 Jul 20

Someone with an addiction is so tough. =( Especially being someone she loves of course. Praying for her and her sibling who needs to be set free.

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

15 Jul 20

Thanks sounds like she needs prayers.

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@marlina (154103)

• Canada

15 Jul 20

I would have done the same thing that your friend did, telling her to leave,

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

15 Jul 20

Me too, but she had to come to that decision. And she did.

@wolfgirl569 (135643)

• Marion, Ohio

15 Jul 20

I think she has made the right decision. I just hope the sibling leaves with no problems. But being a friend is all you can do.

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

15 Jul 20

Yes I agree. I hope it works out for all.

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@DianneN (254949)

• United States

14 Jul 20

You did the right thing. It's not your call, but hers. So sad.

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

14 Jul 20

Thanks, that is part of being a friend. You gotta stay on the sidelines sometimes. Very sad situation.

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@DianneN (254949)

• United States

15 Jul 20

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@just4him (323168)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

14 Jul 20

I'm glad she told her she must leave. I wouldn't allow anyone to just move in. That's rude on her part.

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@just4him (323168)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

16 Jul 20

@CarolDM Yes, they will.

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

14 Jul 20

Yes me too. That is how family will do many times unfortunately.

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@JudyEv (381931)

• Rockingham, Australia

15 Jul 20

I think you did very well. Your friend remains your friend but has come to her own decision. Well done both of you.

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

15 Jul 20

Thanks I hope it all works out.

@Ronrybs (21503)

• London, England

15 Jul 20

A very hard thing, to give advice and not sound heartless. The best we can do is lend a good ear and maybe point out some options

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

15 Jul 20

Yes I was supportive to her and she made her own decision.

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@Nakitakona (59987)

• Philippines

15 Jul 20

It's good you are there to give a little help to a friend.

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

15 Jul 20

Yes I agree.

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@Nakitakona (59987)

• Philippines

16 Jul 20

@CarolDM That's good. I like it.

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@jstory07 (148731)

• Roseburg, Oregon

14 Jul 20

Telling her to leave was the best thing for her to do..

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@CarolDM (203396)

• Nashville, Tennessee

14 Jul 20

Yes I agree as well.