Seven Days Practice.
By rakski
@rakski (156506)
Philippines
August 17, 2020 7:26pm CST
As I mentioned in my last post, my in-laws will soon be moving here. We got to experience and practice somehow of how will things be since my mother-in-law has been here for seven days already. But they are not yet officially moving in yet. So it is somewhat a practice.
I confess there are few moments that I cannot stand it but of course being a good girl that I am 
. I let her be. I understand that there are things we need to compromise but of course I also have my house rules that she has to comply with. 
Any more suggestions of how can I handle this situation graciously???? 
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17 responses
@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
18 Aug 20
What are they doing that you don't really want them to? Better be on your guard or they might attempt to like own the place.
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
18 Aug 20
@rakski sounds like you're a little OC too! hahaha!
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@rakski (156506)
• Philippines
18 Aug 20
their habits usually in their house is quite different from mine. For example, I like to have different sets of rags I use in different areas of the house especially the kitchen. They use any rags. We use different set of slippers inside and outside the house and I do not allow slippers inside the rooms. But their outside slippers go inside as they go inside. ahaha
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
18 Aug 20
i think you'll need a helper to help with your in-laws. it's good they have their own room, but friction is bound to happen with the common areas - kitchen, dining, cr, laundry, family room.
but then that would mean even more added costs. hmm, maybe someone who is stay-out and comes in a few days a week?
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@hereandthere (45628)
• Philippines
19 Aug 20
@rakski that's inconsiderate of her just dumping her own parents unannounced. they're not pets!
start mentioning your expenses to your husband so he can discuss it with her.
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@rakski (156506)
• Philippines
19 Aug 20
added costs are inevitable when there are more people, I just hope they do share some of the expenses, But for the past seven days, though I was unprepared because my sister-in-law just brought her here without telling me, we shoulder most of the things for all of us.
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@rsa101 (40976)
• Philippines
18 Aug 20
I understand your situation. I think it is not ideal that In laws should live in one house since the family dyanmics will be disturbed and of course in laws will also impose their own rules when they have finally established themselves in your house. I guess that only recourse to that is to have a good compromised agreement with them.
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@rakski (156506)
• Philippines
19 Aug 20
we talked to them even before constructing the house. My SIL is somehow the eldest in the family. lol
Though my parents-in-laws listen to her, in reality they still do what they normally do. I only live with them for a year when we were newly wed. Sometimes I cannot stand them, especially when they are all over the house. lol But I think they know somehow that this is our house, not theirs
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@amitkokiladitya (171988)
• Agra, India
18 Aug 20
Just make it clear that both of you don't intrude each other's private space
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@amitkokiladitya (171988)
• Agra, India
19 Aug 20
@rakski that is really important. And I hope your mother in law also understands her boundaries
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@jayanth_77 (7179)
• India
18 Aug 20
Hope you share a good friendly relation with your mother inlaw. That's important otherwise there will be fights everyday.
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@infatuatedbby (94909)
• United States
19 Aug 20
If you don’t like something I would be direct from the start And get it resolved vs be extra nice and it’ll be hard to resolve later 
@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
19 Aug 20
@rakski I am sorry to say I have no suggestions as you sound a bit like me. I often like to be alone and have my own certain ways of doing things but to have even more people moving in with me as well as the people I already live with? ( dad and brother ) I honestly don't know how I'd cope! 
Only because I am an introvert and I love having my alone time and if I can't get that, I start to get a bit crazy!
But honestly, I do wish you all the best with these new changes. 
Only because I am an introvert and I love having my alone time and if I can't get that, I start to get a bit crazy!
But honestly, I do wish you all the best with these new changes. 1 person likes this
@happylife1 (13403)
• Karachi, Pakistan
19 Aug 20
I hope there will be almost no problem
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@jobelbojel (36796)
• Philippines
18 Aug 20
I don't know how or what to tell. May be you can start with asking them their expectations - and telling them your expectations.
@freelancermariagrace (29342)
• Philippines
18 Aug 20
I think you need to let them know about your rules and tell them politely.
