Tomorrow Is His Birthday

@SHOHANA (16093)
Bangladesh
November 10, 2020 2:19am CST
Hello all, hope you all are fine today. Tomorrow is his birth. Now the question is "who is he"? I'm confuse about he that I should say he is my boyfriend or my ex-boyfriend? We can't stay apart but these days he realising the hardship or reality of life. He also making me understand that he has family and his family will never accept an orphan like me. He convincing me that we are not made for each other at the same time he is telling me that he can't live without me. Its hard to be disconnected completely for our emotional attachment. If we bring any animal to our life, it become a part of our life and he is my love so it may takes time to be apart. I always told him my limits as a girl or woman but he always told me that he'll manage everything as a man but today story has changed, he behaving like he can't fight for me, can't make his life complicated. Anyway we need time to be disconnected I think. Good day all I wish him a blessed birthday and you all please pray for him.
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@rakski (124323)
• Philippines
10 Nov 20
It seems he is ready to let go of you. You must let go of him too
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@Cheyee (8344)
• Pakanbaru, Indonesia
10 Nov 20
Very much agree.
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@vandana7 (100345)
• India
10 Nov 20
He has found somebody else and is slowly extricating himself.
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@rakski (124323)
• Philippines
10 Nov 20
@vandana7 that is a very big possibility
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@jstory07 (139830)
• Roseburg, Oregon
10 Nov 20
I hope the two of you can make it work out.
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@vandana7 (100345)
• India
10 Nov 20
Not that kinda man.
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@SHOHANA (16093)
• Bangladesh
10 Nov 20
I wish the same dear but only Almighty Allah know what is in our fate
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@LadyDuck (471717)
• Switzerland
10 Nov 20
If he can fight to stay with you, let him go and forget him.
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@vandana7 (100345)
• India
10 Nov 20
Exactly my view. He dares to tell her we are not made for each other. Then what the hell is he in her life for?
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@vandana7 (100345)
• India
10 Nov 20
@LadyDuck Exactly. He is not a good man. He may be good to others, but he is using her. She should be the one who should be tossing him away not the other way round.
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@LadyDuck (471717)
• Switzerland
10 Nov 20
@vandana7 How can a man say something like that? He wants her only if he needs her, but he is not ready to fight so that she could become his wife. Not a good man.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
11 Nov 20
It sounds like a future with him is hopeless. That's not how true love works.
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@SHOHANA (16093)
• Bangladesh
11 Nov 20
@DianneN virtual hugs dear
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@SHOHANA (16093)
• Bangladesh
11 Nov 20
Yup but its hard for me to make him understand, may Almighty Allah help us.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
11 Nov 20
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• India
10 Nov 20
Lets hope for the best
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@vandana7 (100345)
• India
10 Nov 20
And the best would be?
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@vandana7 (100345)
• India
10 Nov 20
@piyushbhatia1 Perhaps you can tell me. I feel the guy should be man enough to tell her he has no idea to continue with this, and is extremely sorry he led her to believe there is future and tell her he is disconnecting for her own good, but would be there for her should she need help, ever.
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• India
10 Nov 20
@vandana7 whichever is positive
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@Cheyee (8344)
• Pakanbaru, Indonesia
10 Nov 20
Don't fight for him if he doesn't want to fight for you. You'll end up hurting more.
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@SHOHANA (16093)
• Bangladesh
11 Nov 20
@Cheyee please hope and pray too
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@SHOHANA (16093)
• Bangladesh
11 Nov 20
You have point but it almost impossible to cut completely
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@Cheyee (8344)
• Pakanbaru, Indonesia
11 Nov 20
@SHOHANA you know what the best for you. I only can hope you'll be fine
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@vandana7 (100345)
• India
10 Nov 20
I am no great relationship adviser. But I feel he is using you. He also has an egoistic pleasure in you fawning over him. Please stop as it will hurt your confidence. You be the one to ditch him. Family not accepting? Does it matter if he loves you? Not made for each other so what. Tomorrow you are not going to wish him. Please do not! Have a ball. Get out, lift his phone but tell him you are busy. Play hard to get. Go have fun, and make him feel he is the one who is missing out on you. Do not fawn.
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@vandana7 (100345)
• India
11 Nov 20
@SHOHANA Wrong. That is like being a spare tire. When you grow older, you will feel bad about it. Love yourself first.
@SHOHANA (16093)
• Bangladesh
11 Nov 20
And I'm giving him the chance to use me as my emotions are helpless and hardly manage by me
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@Shavkat (140042)
• Philippines
10 Nov 20
Happy Birthday to him.
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@Shavkat (140042)
• Philippines
11 Nov 20
@SHOHANA No problem
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@SHOHANA (16093)
• Bangladesh
10 Nov 20
Thank you
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
12 Nov 20
@SHOHANA I'm really sorry you're in this situation. I know it must be hard. And what is harder is one of the options I'm about to suggest to you. And that is to straight up tell him that if he cannot fight for you or be 100% sure that he wants a relationship with you, then it's best for you to say goodbye. And either two things can happen with you doing that. Either he will realise that he really can lose you completely and make things right or he will just say goodbye also. And for your sake if that was the case, then that's better for you. It's horrible waiting for someone to be with you only to have nothing happen or improve. It's not a nice feeling to be an option to somebody. Or to give someone the very best only for them to give you nothing back. I honestly wish you the very best!
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@vandana7 (100345)
• India
13 Nov 20
My kinda girl. Actually, I suggested she dumps him saying I too realized we are not made for each other, and I want to go separate ways. If he truly loves her, he will follow her like a puppy.
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@SHOHANA (16093)
• Bangladesh
13 Nov 20
@VivaLaDani13 he was frustrated and now he is sorry for his negative attitude, I decide to forgive him
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• Perth, Australia
15 Nov 20
@vandana7 I agree with you. I understand how hard that can be especially if things don't work out the way we were hoping but I also truly believe that it's better to know that soon as possible so the healing can begin as well as moving on. @SHOHANA That is good he was sorry. I do hope his negative attitude isn't a continuous thing though and he treats you the way wish and deserve to be treated.
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
10 Nov 20
@SHOHANA It must be very hard for you and very confusing. I hope you can figure out what is best for you.
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@SHOHANA (16093)
• Bangladesh
10 Nov 20
Yup confusing me a lot and I'm in indecision
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@SHOHANA (16093)
• Bangladesh
11 Nov 20
@Hannihar yup I'm listening to my heart and Almighty Allah will help me to overcome this situation
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
11 Nov 20
@SHOHANA I know about indecision in something else so can understand how hard this must be for you. Just do what is right for you.
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@LindaOHio (179683)
• United States
10 Nov 20
I think you need to make a clean break from him.
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@SHOHANA (16093)
• Bangladesh
10 Nov 20
I don't know what to do right now
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@LindaOHio (179683)
• United States
11 Nov 20
@SHOHANA Take a break and think things through.
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@sophie09 (34236)
• Indonesia
10 Nov 20
you know whats best for you :)
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@SHOHANA (16093)
• Bangladesh
10 Nov 20
Only Allah knows what is best for me
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@SHOHANA (16093)
• Bangladesh
11 Nov 20
@sophie09 yup you are right, thank you
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@sophie09 (34236)
• Indonesia
11 Nov 20
@SHOHANA and actually yourself too
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@bbghitte (3294)
• Philippines
10 Nov 20
You are a good person for still wishing him the best despite your current situation. I wish that whatever happens, you will remain strong. God bless you my dear.
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@SHOHANA (16093)
• Bangladesh
11 Nov 20
Thank you so much dear, I'm really very helpless to my emotions. Pray for us.
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@SHOHANA (16093)
• Bangladesh
11 Nov 20
@bbghitte yes you are right and one day I'll be tired fighting
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@bbghitte (3294)
• Philippines
11 Nov 20
@SHOHANA stay strong my dear, it will be hurtful at first but if only you is fighting I think it will be more painful for you.
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@jdbces (1845)
• Philippines
10 Nov 20
I really hope you'll find someone better which you deserve. I have a cousin who lost both parents already and I was happy when she married a good man because that's what she needs, that's what you also need. I hope you can find some good distractions like a new hobby, your job, part time job, spending time with a good friend/a new friend or a better man. Anything just not him.
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@SHOHANA (16093)
• Bangladesh
10 Nov 20
thank you so much dear for consoling me, your words healing me a lot. Keep me in your prayers please. Love you and stay blessed
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@jdbces (1845)
• Philippines
11 Nov 20
@SHOHANA Sending hugs and love to you. Will include you in my prayers.
@erictsuma (9726)
• Mombasa, Kenya
10 Nov 20
I wish him a happy birthday, in my opinion I think you are doing the right thing to be disconnected with him although it's hard but it's good for both of you.
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@SHOHANA (16093)
• Bangladesh
11 Nov 20
Its really very hard to be disconnected, Almighty Allah can show us the right path
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@erictsuma (9726)
• Mombasa, Kenya
11 Nov 20
@SHOHANA that's true my friend.
@Dreamerby (5370)
• Calcutta, India
11 Nov 20
What are you waiting for? Just cut off all contacts with him. Clear the mental block. You don't owe him for anything then why keep on doing something which takes peace away
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