The dead cannot rest in the grave
@Nevena83 (65282)
Serbia
December 16, 2020 12:58pm CST
Good day friends
I wasn’t active because I had horrible days. My grandmother (my father's mother) died 20 years ago. I loved her very much because she was a beautiful woman. She had a very difficult life and she always said she didn't want a stone (slab) on her grave and when she died my father planted a rose.
My father has two more sisters and a brother who died 6 months ago (I wrote about him earlier, he died of cancer), and he is buried in the part of that grave where my grandmother is. His wife (my father's daughter-in-law) is the devil, someone who destroyed my family all my life, tormented my grandmother, and I always hated her for that. And that daughter-in-law got some money from the sale of some land and decided to put plaques on the grave of her husband and my grandmother and I say I will break it if she does and everyone (my father, my aunts) says she must not put on that grave. To cut a long story short, she did it and it was a blow to me.
My father went to her and told her to remove that plaque from his mother's grave, she didn't do it and my father removed it. That was a few days ago, until last night her daughters burst into my house and shouted and insulted my father so much. Unfortunately, my father was drunk and didn't say anything, I went crazy, but I kept quiet, because I thought he had to say something.
My father bought them two clothes, sweets, bathed them when they were little, they were the first in the village to have water, a bathroom, bought a machine, introduced three-phase electricity, built a house and waited for them to insult him. Sadness.
After 20 minutes, the police came to the door after a report from one of my sisters. The policemen were very nice, and they advised my father to sue them, because they will get it in court, because it is his mother's grave.
None of us could sleep the night before, it was stress and unfortunately the blood ties were destroyed, because of the evil woman.
Sorry for the long post. Do you have a good relationship with your relatives?
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@Nevena83 (65282)
• Serbia
19 Dec 20
@JudyEv Yes, that's awful. My father would never do something like that, even when the policeman gave him advice and told him how to solve it, he immediately denied it, but the policeman convinced him, because he also understood that it was the only solution.
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@snowy22315 (169966)
• United States
18 Dec 20
That is awful. I generally get along with my relatives, but they are all long distance.
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@GreatMartin (23676)
• Ft. Lauderdale, Florida
17 Dec 20
I divorced my family was I was 16!
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@arunima25 (85328)
• Bangalore, India
11 Feb 21
I came to this post reading your latest post. I would say that this is a horrible thing to do. We have good relatives, okay kinds and ones who are really bad. Some of them are like parasites, they eat you away.
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@arunima25 (85328)
• Bangalore, India
12 Feb 21
@Nevena83 Don't get overstressed over it. It might effect you. Take care
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@Nevena83 (65282)
• Serbia
11 Feb 21
@arunima25 Yes, I think so too. That's the worst thing anyone can do.
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@JimBo452020 (42629)
• United Kingdom
7 Jun 21
Aye
Can totally relate to this
I might post about why.
Relatives-
You can choose your friends
You cannot choose family
So I ignore them,
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@Nevena83 (65282)
• Serbia
8 Jun 21
@JimBo452020 I always thought like that and I really never hated anyone, but she is terrible, she caused a lot of pain to many. The younger generations in our families will not even know each other tomorrow because of her, because of her lies.
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@JimBo452020 (42629)
• United Kingdom
8 Jun 21
@Nevena83
Hate is a word I never use.
I have never hated anyone.
But I know you are a good person and if you actually hate this woman then she must be a really nasty person.
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@Cheyee (8362)
• Pakanbaru, Indonesia
20 Dec 20
I see. So this is the situation that put you under stress. I am really sorry that you experience this. But sometimes we meet people like that. My family doesn't have good relationship with my brother. He is kind of trouble maker. We tired of his BS. His wife is also no better, the witch! I seriously hope they both will rotten in hell. They hurt my parent's feelings.
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@popciclecold (35103)
• United States
23 Dec 20
That's justterrible, people can be insensitive to other people desires or wants.
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@garymarsh6 (23393)
• United Kingdom
11 Feb 21
Surely it is your fathers and his sisters decision and not up to her to go against your grandmothers wishes. This is one reason that a will should always stipulate your wishes and woe betide anyone who tries to over turn it. Sorry you are having such a sad time l imagine her intentions are good but there are ways of going about doing such things. I agree she is in the wrong!
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@garymarsh6 (23393)
• United Kingdom
11 Feb 21
@Nevena83 I would try to rise above her and stick together ensuring the only person who is the loser is her! I hope you can all find a solution to sort this woman out.
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@Nevena83 (65282)
• Serbia
11 Feb 21
In the past, the word was respected and it was not necessary to make a will, people passed those words from generation to generation. But now the time has come when a word means nothing and when everything has to be on paper. That woman is evil, she has been trying to destroy the family for decades, but with this she has now succeeded.
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@Nevena83 (65282)
• Serbia
11 Feb 21
@garymarsh6 It's really hard, but I want to believe that I will be able to find a way to stop it.
@Dena91 (15860)
• United States
8 Jun 21
I am so very sorry about the trouble with your family. I understand your anger towards the lady who will not honor your grandmother's wishes. I hope that by going through the court, it will bring some peace to your family.
With some of my relatives I have a very good relationship, with others ok. I try to avoid as much as I can anyone that I don't get along with.
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@Nevena83 (65282)
• Serbia
11 Jun 21
Thanks for your understanding. Yes, I am terribly angry because she did it on purpose to hurt all of us. She did not expect her children (my father and my aunts) to react so violently. She thought she would be able to do such evil and that it would pass.
It’s hard to fight so much hatred from her and now and her family. Every day they try to disrupt our lives.
It’s hard to avoid people who are so close to us, they live 50 meters away from me and I see them every day, it would be easier if we weren’t so close.
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