Does favoritism really exist in the family?
By Simone
@Janet357 (75656)
December 26, 2020 12:57am CST
Who are parents here?
Do you have a favorite among your children?
I know someone who always complains that his mom's favorite is his eldest brother. I don't know of this really exists.
In my family, my mother always says she loves all of us. I don't know if it's true ir not because I spent most of my years with my dad and aunt.
What do you think?
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31 responses
@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
26 Dec 20
and is one gender preferred over another?
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Italian Moms always favor their male children.
@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
26 Dec 20
I was said that my mom’s favorite since l was the only son. And my elder sister also had been my father’s favorite too. But l felt I was never neglected by my father at all. I guess they both love us being the only son and daughter they have. Maybe if there is another boy or girl siblings we might feel competition amongst us but there was none and the attention given to us seems to be equal at the time.
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@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
26 Dec 20
Maybe some parents have a favorite child and I don't think I was the one. I observed how my mother treated my sister and I can say there is really favoritism. But I don't consider it as a hindrance for me to succeed. As of now, I still help them in any way possible even if I already have my own family. I am trying my best to be fair with my children. I don't want them to say that one is the favorite over the other because they are both my children.
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@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
26 Dec 20
@Janet357 Yes I am. During college, my mother poured all the efforts to my sister. She studied architecture. Perhaps my mother thought that my sister will be the one to lift her up from poverty so she gave all the support to her. But things did not turned out well, she cannot practice her profession. She worked a medical transcriber after resigning from a job in the marketing. I was lucky to be appointed in the government services. This March, she was laid off because of pandemic. I helped her get the job in our agency but it was a temporary contract and will end this December 31. I am helping but my mother seems not happy about it and even accused me of being selfish. I just tried to understand because she is already old.
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@Janet357 (75656)
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27 Dec 20
@ARIES1973 You are very matured and kind. Other children would get at such mom. There is favoritism no doubt. God will bless you for doing such. How many siblings do you have?
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@Cheyee (8362)
• Pakanbaru, Indonesia
26 Dec 20
I am a mom of 3 kids (soon to be 4). I try to treat my kids equally. My first daughter and my youngest daughter has 9 years gap. Sometimes my daughter feels I don't treat her and her sister equally. But it's not the truth. I can't expect 3 years old kid doing the same thing with 12 years old. But she still doesn't get it.
But my parents do have their favorite children. It's my brother. And sadly my brother is the one who hurt my parents the most (and constantly)
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@Cheyee (8362)
• Pakanbaru, Indonesia
27 Dec 20
@Janet357 my mom and dad love him more, but he never appreciate it. Raising his voice everytime he talks to them. Never listen to others opinions (only his wife, and his wife also another devil). I just hope karma will hit them really hard.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
26 Dec 20
My brothers have always been the favourites that was always very clear from day one.
My brothers have had everything they wanted too.
Me and my sister were always on the outside looking in.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
26 Dec 20
@Janet357
No because you were not allowed to protest but its all water under the bridge now.
Its a time old story of rivalry and my brother did his best to break everything I had which was not much and they never did anything about it.
Its a true as I am sitting here writing it.
He was always and still is jealous of me which I find rather amusing seeing as he was treated llike number one always.
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@Janet357 (75656)
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27 Dec 20
@lovinangelsinstead21 This is also my observation, parents before (way back 1950's or 1940's) kids were not allowed to reason out. But it is rather unusual that in his age, he still gets jealous of his sister.
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@crossbones27 (48427)
• Mojave, California
26 Dec 20
My sister used to say I was her favorite brother but now she hates me. It is true though I think Mom said something like that too before she passed. but times change and I think as we get older we see the value in everyone as different but equal if that makes sense.
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@snowy22315 (169966)
• United States
26 Dec 20
I think parents love all their children, but they are bound to "like" some more than others.
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@RebeccasFarm (86754)
• United States
26 Dec 20
I somehow believe that is true yes can be favorite
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@Letranknight2015 (51526)
• Philippines
26 Dec 20
I guess parents with so many children tends to have favorites. But mom loves us all equally.
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