Ranting: They SHOULD Stay Away From Us!
By Raine38
@Raine38 (12257)
United States
January 3, 2021 6:29pm CST
I am referring to these women adding my husband on Facebook. Let me back up a little bit.
My husband's older brother recently married someone from the Philippines. She is not a big fan of me for some reasons that I cannot fathom - I don't care. But...when her relatives are starting to stalk and annoy my husband, then I cannot overlook that anymore.
For one thing, my husband is obviously very married. His status says so, and his profile picture is of the two of us together. Initially, some women from her hometown would message him introducing themselves as her cousin or another. Not wanting to be rude to "family" when they say hi, how are you, he responds "hello, my wife and I are doing okay thank you for asking." You would think that will be the end of it right?
Nope.
They will ask if he is single. Like, seriously? 
Then when he asked a few of them how did they even know of him, they told him that she told them that he is her husband's brother. Some of them would ask him how long we've been together, how we met, what am I like. My husband did not respond more than the hi and hello because he has no time to be on social media all the time. And plus, he finds it weird. I find it weird, and disrespectful.
After learning of this from my husband, I did a little stalking. And after checking some of her previous posts, it is apparent that her relatives are asking her if she can introduce them to men from here. I do not know what happened after that, as I do not have access to anything outside of what they discuss on public posts on Facebook. But it is not difficult to figure out what potentially happened there.
So even if we stay away from that drama-filled family, they still somehow find their way in my husband's messages. I trust my husband, and if he cheated on me I'll let them have him. He knows that, we both know that, we're too old for these mind games.
It just irritates me that they think they can disrespect me this way. Ugh! 
Then when he asked a few of them how did they even know of him, they told him that she told them that he is her husband's brother. Some of them would ask him how long we've been together, how we met, what am I like. My husband did not respond more than the hi and hello because he has no time to be on social media all the time. And plus, he finds it weird. I find it weird, and disrespectful.
After learning of this from my husband, I did a little stalking. And after checking some of her previous posts, it is apparent that her relatives are asking her if she can introduce them to men from here. I do not know what happened after that, as I do not have access to anything outside of what they discuss on public posts on Facebook. But it is not difficult to figure out what potentially happened there.
So even if we stay away from that drama-filled family, they still somehow find their way in my husband's messages. I trust my husband, and if he cheated on me I'll let them have him. He knows that, we both know that, we're too old for these mind games.
It just irritates me that they think they can disrespect me this way. Ugh! 13 people like this
13 responses
@kaylachan (57615)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
4 Jan 21
Social media has become one huge discusting mess in my personal opinion. While I personally haven't had much trouble on Facebook (until last year), I know a lot of people who get into rants/arguments daily. Sure, I'll get the occasional lonely heart looking for a "friend", usually on Instagram. But, I tell them off and if they still don't get it, or I feel like I'm reading a script, I block them.
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@kaylachan (57615)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
4 Jan 21
@Raine38 Yes, I know. That's why I have a block list a mile long.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
4 Jan 21
I feel my blood spike. You know how I hate situation like this. I'm just glad you know well how to handle it.
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
5 Jan 21
@yoalldudes 
The soap opera comment made me burst out with laughter. That is so true, a favorite past time. I cannot imagine how they can find the time to start drama and issues with people that they barely know. My husband asked me why him? He said he knows he's handsome and attractive (good Lord!), but he cannot understand why women from the Philippines would do that.
I told him that not all women from there are like that - I am an example. My guess is they have this insane expectation that marrying a foreigner husband will help them be free from their sad plight, be it a financial difficulty or to escape poverty. That does not make it right though.
The soap opera comment made me burst out with laughter. That is so true, a favorite past time. I cannot imagine how they can find the time to start drama and issues with people that they barely know. My husband asked me why him? He said he knows he's handsome and attractive (good Lord!), but he cannot understand why women from the Philippines would do that.
I told him that not all women from there are like that - I am an example. My guess is they have this insane expectation that marrying a foreigner husband will help them be free from their sad plight, be it a financial difficulty or to escape poverty. That does not make it right though.1 person likes this
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
5 Jan 21
I still get so irritated every time I remember what their did. I know they do not know me, but that does not give them the right to disrespect me this way. As much as I want to give each and everyone of them a piece of my mind, I don't want to start drama especially if it will affect my marriage.
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@yoalldudes (35040)
• Philippines
5 Jan 21
@Raine38 Filipinos love soap operas as you know. We have to run as fast as we could to get away from drama.
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
5 Jan 21
It is very embarrassing. Since they are my family through marriage, we have quite a few common friends. I would see her relatives commenting on some of our friends' posts, like how they also want to come here to see snow, or basically just subtle and not-so-subtle hints that they should be in a relationship with them too. It makes me feel like off. Some of them have the nerve to ask me how I met her husband's brother. Well, I don't think they realized that my husband and I have been together long before they met. And I met my husband when I am already living and working here.
Sometimes, it just embarrasses me.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
5 Jan 21
oh, i remember this - how he met someone online and flew here and how worried you were. i was wondering how it worked out. i guess i'm surprised and not surprised. sigh...
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
5 Jan 21
Yes, I am referring to him in this post as well. His first meet-up was a failed one, but this second one was a "success". She brought her daughter with her here, and I am sure if my husband is single, she would have made sure that one of her sisters or cousins get to meetup with him too.
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@RebeccasFarm (86759)
• United States
6 Jan 21
Wow they all sound like low down scum
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
6 Jan 21
@RebeccasFarm No need to apologize, I admit I said some very colorful words when my husband showed me their messages. It's so tasteless, and very pathetic.
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@RebeccasFarm (86759)
• United States
6 Jan 21
@Raine38 I am sorry I was so blunt but truly there is no need for their stupid activities.
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
5 Jan 21
@LeaPea2417 Ugh, those poor people. Especially when they withdrew all their life savings, their pension even, for one piece of crap of a person who is too lazy to get a real job.
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@LeaPea2417 (36431)
• Toccoa, Georgia
5 Jan 21
@Raine38 I agree it is sickening. There are many videos on YouTube about lonely people seeking online dating only to be scammed out of lots of money.
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
14 Feb 21
That is rude on their part, they should respect your marriage. Thats why I hid all my friends so no one can see them on my page unless they are my friend and I only add close friends and relatives and mark everything in settings so only friends can see it.
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@youfiq (2572)
• United States
4 Jan 21
sometimes families really like to intervene in our households, but we always have the choice not to listen to them, maybe you have to rent a house for the convenience of you and your husband without any intervention or influence from the husband's extended family, having your own house away from your extended family is beneficial for your mental development, the first thing is to keep your distance
