When being too shy could have killed me....
@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
Perth, Australia
January 6, 2021 7:52am CST
Hey! Hope everyone is doing alright! 
I'm not staying on much tonight. Just about to have a bath and watch one of my favourite shows. It's the Aussie version of "I'm A Celebrity, Get Me Out Of Here." I never used to watch it but around season 3, I caught it and was hooked. It's on TV here but I prefer to watch it online afterwards in my own time. Just having a bit of me time then go to sleep I think.
Anyway! 
Random ramble! I was talking to my dad earlier about how shy I have been or can be and I told him a story he never knew about. So thought I would share it with you because I'm interested in knowing if anyone has experienced anything similar.
So I was born in Sydney, moved to Perth when I was about 5 or 6 years old. But when we did live there, every so often the richer side of my family would throw some type of party. They had a huge house, tennis court, big pool, land and probably more but I don't remember. I don't associate with these people now. They are quite cruel, not to mention one of my cousins hits on me whenever I have gone over there to visit my Nanny (my mum's mum). So yeah....not interested in talking with them.
So during one party there, I was like 2 or 3 years old, I didn't know how to swim so I was sat at the side of the pool with my feet in the water. I have no clue what happened, if I was knocked, or slipped but I somehow got into the pool. My body was floating a little bit, would sink a little then float back up then sink a little and....here is the thing that bothers me....I was too shy to call out for help! I just remember my Nanny (she was in my sight) saw me and got up so quick and I guess yelled out for someone to grab me. I don't know what she said, my head was under water but I could see her mouth moving and some girl scooped me up and got me out but that's all I remember.
I look back on it sometimes and think "That's way too shy!" 
I could have died....
Have you ever been way too shy when you knew that you should have spoken up?
Thank you for reading. Will catch you all later!
I'm not staying on much tonight. Just about to have a bath and watch one of my favourite shows. It's the Aussie version of "I'm A Celebrity, Get Me Out Of Here." I never used to watch it but around season 3, I caught it and was hooked. It's on TV here but I prefer to watch it online afterwards in my own time. Just having a bit of me time then go to sleep I think.
Anyway! Random ramble! I was talking to my dad earlier about how shy I have been or can be and I told him a story he never knew about. So thought I would share it with you because I'm interested in knowing if anyone has experienced anything similar.
So I was born in Sydney, moved to Perth when I was about 5 or 6 years old. But when we did live there, every so often the richer side of my family would throw some type of party. They had a huge house, tennis court, big pool, land and probably more but I don't remember. I don't associate with these people now. They are quite cruel, not to mention one of my cousins hits on me whenever I have gone over there to visit my Nanny (my mum's mum). So yeah....not interested in talking with them.
So during one party there, I was like 2 or 3 years old, I didn't know how to swim so I was sat at the side of the pool with my feet in the water. I have no clue what happened, if I was knocked, or slipped but I somehow got into the pool. My body was floating a little bit, would sink a little then float back up then sink a little and....here is the thing that bothers me....I was too shy to call out for help! I just remember my Nanny (she was in my sight) saw me and got up so quick and I guess yelled out for someone to grab me. I don't know what she said, my head was under water but I could see her mouth moving and some girl scooped me up and got me out but that's all I remember.
I look back on it sometimes and think "That's way too shy!" I could have died....
Have you ever been way too shy when you knew that you should have spoken up?
Thank you for reading. Will catch you all later! 16 people like this
16 responses
@LadyDuck (502251)
• Italy
6 Jan 21
@VivaLaDani13 You can bet that I would scream because I do not know how to swim.
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@Treborika (18194)
• Mombasa, Kenya
25 Jan 23
Yes it happens that I was too shy sometimes back in my childhood. I would afford to miss food in school when the teacher asked who has not gotten food but remained silent over shyness.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
25 Jan 23
@Treborika aw that is so sad I'm so sorry. I understand! Being shy has a lot of cons! 
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
26 Jan 23
@Treborika That is very good that you have overcome your shyness.
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@Treborika (18194)
• Mombasa, Kenya
25 Jan 23
@VivaLaDani13 But now I am very confident in whatever I do no more shyness in me. Since I a very handsome boy so to say
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@moffittjc (128831)
• Gainesville, Florida
8 Jan 21
Hmmm....me shy? Only around girls. haha
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@moffittjc (128831)
• Gainesville, Florida
13 Jan 21
@VivaLaDani13 Yes, we sure did talk about that. But the funny thing is, I don't really drink much these days. You would be able to get me drunk and take advantage of me very easily!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
11 Jan 21
@moffittjc 
For some reason I can't imagine that!
For some reason I can't imagine that!1 person likes this
@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
13 Jan 21
@moffittjc I still remember our talks about meeting but while having a few drinks to be more relaxed.
I still remember our talks about meeting but while having a few drinks to be more relaxed.1 person likes this
@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
11 Jan 21
@thelme55 Thank you, me too. If it happened to me now though, I would have yelled out. Not THAT shy anymore. 
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
13 Jan 21
@thelme55 That is very true. Being shy can really create issues some times. I'm glad you're no longer shy like that.
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@thelme55 (79311)
• Germany
11 Jan 21
@VivaLaDani13 I am no longer shy, too. I have figured it out that being shy doesn’t help me a lot.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
7 Jan 21
Oh wow. Thanks for sharing. That is shy, way too shy. How scary. I'm happy Nanny saw you. I was shy as a kid, a bit less so now, only a bit though... and many times I miss the opportunity to join a conversation... I don't want to inconvenience anyone by interjecting, but then I've been told that I can come off as stand-offy, that's not my intent, at all. But still nothing at all as serious as your situation
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
13 Jan 21
@FayeHazel Reading your comment made me smile and actually feel a sense of relief and encouragement. I won't say it fixed anything but I will remember your comment to help guide me through whenever I feel anxiety. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on that as it was really nice to read!
And same to you!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
11 Jan 21
@FayeHazel Thank you kindly for reading. Yeah I can't believe it sometimes when I look back on it. I know for sure if I was in that position again, I would be screaming out for help.
I am sorry you feel that when, believe me when I say, I am actually like that now but mostly due to anxiety. I've been in so many positions where I keep thinking to myself "Say this" or "Ask this" but nothing comes out of my mouth for fear of rejection or saying something stupid. I am also quite standoffish too. It's very difficult at times so I truly sympathise and empathise with you there.
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@FayeHazel (40230)
• United States
11 Jan 21
@VivaLaDani13 So welcome! You know, something I've decided on - those of us with anxiety or shyness , probably have some the highest quality conversation to offer because we ARE thoughtful. And when I've forced myself to do it - I notice that people LIKE silly, stupid type banter. Go figure. The whole thing just seems to counter intuitive ....
Much love and support to you
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@DocAndersen (54399)
• United States
6 Jan 21
i am so glad you nanny saw you. That is very shy. I could understand however why you would feel that way. Glad it all worked out!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
11 Jan 21
@DocAndersen I'd say so too, though I don't really remember to be honest. It scares me looking back but I don't really remember being scared back then but for the way I am, I'm certain I would have been scared.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
7 Jan 21
@DocAndersen Thank you, I am glad it worked out too. But yes, that was WAY too shy. At least I know now that if I was in any sort of trouble, I'd call out for help.
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@DocAndersen (54399)
• United States
7 Jan 21
@VivaLaDani13 i am glad to hear that . i suspect based on your description there was a double shy and fear factor working that time.
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@May2k8 (19788)
• Indonesia
7 Jan 21
@VivaLaDani13 There was my uncle who saw, I don't remember who took me out of that time. I couldn't possibly get out of 2 meters.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
11 Jan 21
@May2k8 I'm glad your Uncle saw you! 
Thank you for explaining!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
7 Jan 21
@May2k8 oh my goodness! How awful! So what happened? I mean obviously you got back out lol but did someone get you out? Or did you get yourself out?
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@msdivkar (23356)
• India
7 Jan 21
@VivaLaDani13 when I said nice memory, I meant your memory power is good.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
7 Jan 21
@msdivkar aw yes I see what you mean! Thank you for clarifying what you meant. And yeah for some reason I seem to have a good memory with some things.
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@averygirl72 (38849)
• Philippines
2 Feb 23
Shyness has good use and bad use. In your case that is a bad use of shyness because it will kill you. I like shy people than extroverts
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
5 Feb 23
@averygirl72 I agree. Shy has it's pros and cons for sure. And I am like you. Loud people can sometimes make me feel out of my comfort zone.
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@Letranknight2015 (52665)
• Philippines
11 Jan 21
I'm glad that you were able to help people out there.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
11 Jan 21
@Letranknight2015 I was the one who was drowning. No one else.
@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
7 Jan 21
@marlina I can still be shy but not as much as I was when I was little. It's mainly anxiety I feel around people rather than shyness.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
7 Jan 21
@jaboUK That is good. I can honestly say I'd never be so shy if my life was ever in danger again.
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@LowRiderX (22901)
• Serbia
6 Jan 21
@VivaLaDani13 I've never been shy, but my daughter is ... I wonder when she's so shy (since my husband, her dad isn't either)
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
7 Jan 21
@LowRiderX It's interesting isn't it! I do wonder how or why shyness can be for some and not for others.
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@LowRiderX (22901)
• Serbia
7 Jan 21
@VivaLaDani13 Everything comes from the head ... it happens due to insecurity the trigger can be anything..
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@RebeccasFarm (91299)
• United States
6 Jan 21
Aw bless, glad you did not drown though poor thing
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@Butterfingers (66603)
• India
6 Jan 21
Am little too shy then my liking when talking to strangers
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@VivaLaDani13 (60812)
• Perth, Australia
7 Jan 21
@Butterfingers I know what you mean as I can be that way also.
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