Recall the past happenings ...is it wise?

@kiran8 (15348)
Mangalore, India
February 18, 2021 10:17am CST
I have a friend who has been keeping a diary / journal since tne time she was in college, she has several of those and often gets depressed after reading certain incidents that took place two or three decades back and carries a grouse against people involved in some of those incidents refusing to have anything to do with them , even though they are trying to be friendly. I asked her if she would be able to remember all the minute details , if not for the journal because frankly any incident from my own past ,bad or good has not much relevance to my life now . Makes me wonder if keeping a journal is going to make your life miserable, holding on to past incidents ,what use would it be? However, hers probably is a unique case , not sure how others react when they go through their own past accounts?
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@RebeccasFarm (86520)
• United States
25 Feb 21
I do not want to recall it. It is too bad.
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
26 Feb 21
Tiara, I am so sorry to hear that, as long as you are happy with the present, I guess it balanced out
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
19 Sep 22
It can sometimes motivate us or demotivates us. Hello. Commenting on old discussions here.
@sol_cee (38223)
• Philippines
19 Feb 21
I did have a journal before and I didn’t like rereading past events especially sad ones so I stopped doing it. But your friend can sell her journals
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
19 Feb 21
Thats a good idea, my friend can seriously consider either selling or writing her memoirs
• China
19 Feb 21
Many things, always in the experience after du know the gain and loss by oneself. Just like feelings, only when the pain is over, can we know how to protect ourselves; when the pain is over, can we know how to insist and give up in time. Let's learn to give up, turn around and leave before we shed tears, the things we exchange with tears are not reliable; let's learn to give up, bury yesterday in the bottom of our heart, leave the best memories; let's learn to give up, so that we can have a more relaxed start. Holding on to it will only make you indulge in memory and pain so that you are depressed. Let go, let ta go with the wind of memory, you will find the other side of the sky, you will be heavy to the life of flowers, feel the warmth of the sun Give up, not to avoid, not cowardly; give up, is an open-minded attitude. Just think about how many people and things a person has to experience in his life. If he doesn't know how to give up those lost and irreparable things, how can he grasp the things that really belong to you? If you find that the only door in your world is no longer open for you, you don't have to wander in front of the door, or hit your head and blood, and don't wake up. To learn to give up, and then turn around to find a skylight open for you, where you can also see the stars all over the sky
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
19 Feb 21
I agree ... quoting Einstein about thinking about what has happened in the past. As Albert Einstein say, ‘time is relative.’ Time is merely a fragment of our reality because we have clocks... We have to treat each day as a special gift because we have no idea about the future ,so make the most of today
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@Shiva49 (26192)
• Singapore
18 Feb 21
It is important to move on life. I like to remember the good moments but try to sweep away those that are water under the bridge. A grudge and grouse are the heaviest burden to lug around.
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
19 Feb 21
Better to use the past as a stepping stone that helps us move forward rather than get stuck there
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@Shiva49 (26192)
• Singapore
19 Feb 21
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@crafty01 (480)
• Jamshedpur, India
18 Jun
CONES for extroverts Nobody wants blast from the past. It takes lot of time for some people to recover from dark past. PROS for introverts Introverts like to inrospect about there lives. Maintaining a diary is like maintaining a mirror to look at their souls.