Always Borrowing Money
By YoghurtGal
@flapiz (22403)
United Kingdom
June 3, 2021 5:32am CST
I'm all for helping a friend in need but I am starting to get annoyed about one friend. At first I was okay with it but it's becoming a habit. She always borrows money every single month. She earns more than me, she knows I'm struggling yet she puts me in such position.
She even asks me to use my credit card for her. Today she texted me if she can borrow my cash. The cash she knew that was given to me by my boyfriend to do groceries while I was living with him. I kept it because I felt like a wife and I'm being sentimental.
I really just want to tell her to stop acting like she owns my wallet. But I don't want to be an unkind friend.
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17 responses
@Butterfingers (66585)
• India
3 Jun 21
I can understand your situation and even I face this situation because I'm also soft hearted like you and I feel bad to say NO
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@flapiz (22403)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun 21
Yeah today I lent her my boyfriend's cash 30£ and I did say to her if she could transfer the payment to me as her reason for borrowing money is because she's bought something and it needs to be paid in cash. She said she'd transfer it right away but now that she's got the money she seemed to have forgotten to transfer.
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@Butterfingers (66585)
• India
3 Jun 21
@flapiz same things happens with me. I guess we should learn to sat NO and no need to feel guilty after saying that
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@Scrapper88 (5957)
• United States
3 Jun 21
I am not sure if I can be a friend with somebody like that.
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@flapiz (22403)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun 21
@Scrapper88 Because she's 35 years old. 
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@Scrapper88 (5957)
• United States
3 Jun 21
@flapiz I wonder why her parents don't give her some money.
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@betlynfrnds (4060)
• United States
3 Jun 21
Oh, that's never a good thing. I don't like when people try to do that. That was a good statement: Tell her to stop acting like she owns my wallet.
I've never heard that one before. I'll have to keep that sentence in mind in case a situation comes up.
If your friend is always in need of money, maybe she could start earning a few bucks on myLot. 
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@betlynfrnds (4060)
• United States
3 Jun 21
@flapiz Remember this: If she is borrowing every month and not returning what she borrowed, is that considered borrowing or is it taking?
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@flapiz (22403)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun 21
@betlynfrnds She returns it briefly and then borrow again.
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@MALUSE (69413)
• Germany
3 Jun 21
This is not a laudable attitude. You're loyal to the wrong kind of friend. In fact, I wouldn't consider such a person a friend at all. She exploits you and obviously hasn't got a high opinion of you because you always succumb when she comes asking.
The conversation you must have with your 'friend' may be unpleasant, but you have to tell her that enough is enough and that you won't give her any more money even if it will mean the end of your friendship. I'd say that it isn't a real friendship anyway.
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@flapiz (22403)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun 21
I know it isn't a very good trait that's why I feel bad about it I don't like what she's doing but I am too scared to say something. I moved to an island and I only have few friends and it feels isolating sometimes I don't think I can afford to lose this friend.
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@LotusEyes (2716)
• India
3 Jun 21
Some people take advantage of your good nature.You have to be careful
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@LotusEyes (2716)
• India
3 Jun 21
@flapiz Your boyfriend will guide you properly. Also, do what your boyfriend tells you to do
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@flapiz (22403)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun 21
@LotusEyes I live in an island I got few friends only and I don't want to ruin the friendship. 
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@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
3 Jun 21
Learn to say no to this friend of yours.
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@freelancermariagrace (27219)
• Philippines
4 Jun 21
I guess it is time to say no. She's kind of abusing you which is and never will be a good thing.
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@prashu228 (37526)
• India
3 Jun 21
Don't let her take that much advantage, you should stop some where..
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@florelway (23141)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
8 Jun 21
It's common trait here. Just learn to say no. I encounter many people like that and I never give in.
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@flapiz (22403)
• United Kingdom
8 Jun 21
@florelway I'm not asking for a treat really I just want her to stop treating my wallet as hers. (A treat would be awesome but long shot).
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@florelway (23141)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
8 Jun 21
@flapiz With that you can tell what kind of a friend is she. I have friends here who can even give me a treat even if they just have enough money.
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