Girls Can't Wear Boy Swim shorts

@Daelii (5757)
United States
June 9, 2021 3:04pm CST
Oh my gosh was yesterday.... All of my kids have grown since last summer and none of their swimsuits fit them anymore. I tried to do online ordering, but none of it would be here in time before they go to church camp. So I braved a physical store on my own. I knew my girls measurements, what they wanted, and could talk to them on a video call. So for two of my three kids, I was able to easily pick out a tankini with swim shorts they wanted (there was only one pattern available and they didn't mind being twins) One daughter really loved a tankini set but doesn't like the idea of wearing just a regular bathing suit bottom and didn't want to wear matchy with her sisters. So I picked up the tankini set she liked and went over to the boys swim shorts area to start matching colors....so she could have a bottom. I can not believe how many people thought to voice issues over me buying "boy swim shorts for a girl" or possibly "getting a girl unicorn top for a boy". Overall, I can't believe anyone had the balls to comment on a situation they didn't even know enough about, on what they were getting mad over! After I calmly explained it to the first person, I pretty much just ignored anyone else that felt entitled to comment. Why did it matter to them??? Even the walmart worker felt compelled to tell me 3 times I was putting boy swim shorts next to a girl swim suit. She stopped after I asked her if she could point me to the girl swim shorts that cover a girl's body in a modest fashion? Its my child and if my child is uncomfortable going out in public in what she considers swimming underwear, then by all means I'm gonna get her a pair of shorts so she can be happy in her own body and focus on having fun. I am very happy to the other mom there that stepped in, in a nice way and helped me match patterns and fine a cute pair that perfectly matched her top! She was a great blessing to met and it was nice to know, there are still good people out there willing to help someone out! Why are people so focused on dictating what a child can wear?
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@Juliaacv (55649)
• Canada
9 Jun
People need to stop being so judgemental and quick to offer their opinions. You know your kids, you are doing what is best for them.
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@Daelii (5757)
• United States
9 Jun
Exactly! I can't ever imagine ever saying something so mean to someone or anyone having such issues! In the past I've dealt with poor criticism by ignoring it and still just doing my own thing. A lot of the times, my kids are wearing regular boy shorts since they actually go down their legs more and fit properly. My kids like their clothes that way. girl shorts are on average 65% shorter than boy shorts. Why?
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@Juliaacv (55649)
• Canada
9 Jun
@Daelii People need to mind their own business, but its always those that do not, that are out when quiet innocent people, like yourself, are out shopping. I used to fall into that category, but I talk back now-too bad it too me over 50 years to learn that little lesson. At any rate, I really hope that your children are happy with what you bought for them, that is what counts.
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@Daelii (5757)
• United States
10 Jun
@Juliaacv thank you! they are very happy with it! I don't care what my kids wear as long as they are happy with it. I wear a takini usually with a swim skirt or a swim dress just because I am real partial to skirts and love the flexibility to still be in an "outfit" when out of the pool. It makes it easier to help little ones when not fussing over my own covers!
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@just4him (245761)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
10 Jun
I agree with you. If the shorts match the top, that's all that matters.
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@Daelii (5757)
• United States
10 Jun
Yes! She was so happy to find out one of the girls at the church group has the same swimsuit! The other girl had a pair of blue swim shorts so it was like kind of twins, but not. They each had their own style and I love seeing kids being able to happy and confident.
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@just4him (245761)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Jun
@Daelii That's wonderful!
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@LadyDuck (341703)
• Switzerland
10 Jun
Why are people only there to criticize instead of to help? I am glad you could find what you wanted and make your girl happy.
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@Daelii (5757)
• United States
10 Jun
me too! Even if they don't agree with my choice in letting a kid wear something, its not hurting them and its not like I'm making anyone else cover up! Its what she is comfortable in!
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@LadyDuck (341703)
• Switzerland
11 Jun
@Daelii If she is comfortable wearing a boy swim short why the others should say that it is not appropriate, it is ridiculous... then people complain about "their freedom"!!! They should stop harassing the others.
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@wolfgirl569 (41406)
• Marion, Ohio
10 Jun
People have to be in everyones business anymore. I would have told them off.
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@Daelii (5757)
• United States
10 Jun
I wanted to! I am more or less the person that just bites my lip, does my own thing, then later thinks of what I should have said! Then after that, I'm glad I didn't say anything mean in anger since overall, its not like I will ever run into them again.
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@wolfgirl569 (41406)
• Marion, Ohio
11 Jun
@Daelii I often am just as surprised as everyone else when I say something. If it pops in my head I will say it most of the time. And that kind of crap sets me off fast.
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@Deepizzaguy (50342)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
9 Jun
I am of the belief that one person would find the bathing suit that a child wears offensive compared to being modest since beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
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@Daelii (5757)
• United States
10 Jun
That is so true! There are what feels like a million options for swim wear.. why does anyone care what someone else wears?! Kids should feel comfortable!
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@Deepizzaguy (50342)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
10 Jun
@Daelii It is like the saying "if you do not like a show, do not watch it."
@sallypup (45292)
• Moses Lake, Washington
9 Jun
That's crazy. I've walked into what I thought was a women's underwear display and found it to be meant for little girls. No way should little girls be wearing lingerie. I'm glad I am done raising a daughter.
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@Daelii (5757)
• United States
9 Jun
oh my gosh.... I am so glad I haven't run across that! The crap they are forcing on young girls is so irritating to me. Have you seen the LOL dolls? They should be banned. Instead most people are unaware of giving them hot water baths or ice cold baths will reveal adult lingerie on little girl dolls. Even the maker includes actual boy genital's on the boy dolls because "girls need to learn to not be afraid of seeing the other parts".
https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/12394574/lol-surprise-dolls-cold-water-lingerie-appearance-controversy/
@sallypup (45292)
• Moses Lake, Washington
9 Jun
@Daelii Just ick.
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@RasmaSandra (42975)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
9 Jun
I think children can wear what they like and mix and match swimwear since they are not so fashionable yet, I am glad you got some help in the store,
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@Daelii (5757)
• United States
10 Jun
exactly! I am so super glad she was there and able to help!!!
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@kaylachan (21258)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
9 Jun
Over the years, people have become bored and more openly opinionated. There was a time, when the polocy was don't ask, don't tell and people kept their opinions to themselves. Now a days that's rare. Girls should be able to wear what makes them comfortable. It's not like she doesn't have a top to wear.
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@Daelii (5757)
• United States
10 Jun
Yes! I just don't feel like its my place to tell anyone how to dress and I'd never comment except to say if I like something!
@JimBo452020 (50982)
• Montrose, Scotland
9 Jun
I shall just skip to the last sentence of the post and the question you ask I think most people wouldn't give a flying fig about what a child can wear. I think you were in the wrong place at the wrong time and a bit unfortunate to meet.a.coue of know all's who should have just kept quiet.
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@Daelii (5757)
• United States
10 Jun
yeah! its most likely I'll never see them again and whoever my kids will be around when dressed in a swimsuit won't care what they are in!
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• United States
11 Jun
I blame Social Media. People now act as if they were online and feel the need to comment on anything and everything. In the age of Communication, people have lost the ability TO communicate.
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@Daelii (5757)
• United States
11 Jun
That is a good way to view it! I hadn't even thought of it like that. Its so true too. There is so much more information shared on facebook that on average, I wouldn't ever have known had this been 20 years ago! if it was shared it was done in a conversation and not a post!
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• United States
11 Jun
@Daelii Courtesy is missing. Please and thank you are sadly missing too.
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@Daelii (5757)
• United States
12 Jun
@Vikingswest1 Its so sad! I am doing my best to raise my kids without most of the current tv shows/programs and went old school like vintage carebears and my little ponies! I just don't feel like the current trends really teach much quality or character to people.
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@Dena91 (13889)
• United States
11 Jun
I have often wondered why we have decided to become judge and jury of what others do? I hope that your kid have fun at church camp.
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@Daelii (5757)
• United States
11 Jun
I hope that this judgmental trend stops with more people teaching acceptance now! So far the kids are loving the day camp and can't wait for the overnight one!
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@Courtlynn (70276)
• United States
10 Jun
I'm glad you were able to find them suits, even with the hassle others were trying to give you.
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• Midland, Michigan
11 Jun
Some possibly just wanted to help out not realizing they weren't really helping after all.