Very Weird Wedding, She Wants It All
By Marie Coyle
@MarieCoyle (28491)
July 22, 2021 1:14pm CST
So, a friend is getting married soon.
I need to mention this friend (I have known her family for years as our families were friends) has, I think, been married 7 times. Some lasted a few years. Some lasted a few months. I think one lasted a week. She falls in love like you and I change our clothes. Very often.
So now she is saying she is going to marry yet another fellow. She is having a wedding where everyone is supposed to bring everything--if you want alcohol, bring what you want. She wants you to bring a large dish to share, as she isn't cooking, nor is she spending the money to have anyone else do it. Oh, and the kicker here is, she asked for gifts. I also heard she is planning a big box on the gift table for people to drop money in, so they can have the money for a honeymoon.
I haven't been in her present home, but I do know she lives very well. She always has a new car. She always has new furniture, up to date clothing for herself and all of her many children. All of her ex's pay their child support. She always has money for anything that she thinks she wants. She recently paid cash for breast enlargements. If there is a beauty treatment she does not get on a regular basis, I don't know what it would be.
Is this common? I've never known anyone to be so forward to just ask for gifts and food. Shouldn't you have the wedding you can afford to have, or the wedding YOU want to pay for? If you can't pay for it or don't want to, can't a person just go to a courthouse to be married, or make it family only?
Yes, I'm invited. I don't think I will be able to go due to other commitments, but if I didn't have conflicts I don't think I want to. It's like marriage is sort of considered just something to do, or a reason to ask people to bring you food and presents. I don't consider myself stuck-up or better than anyone else, I know I am not. But somehow I don't consider this to be smart, and definitely not very classy.
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@much2say (53959)
• Los Angeles, California
22 Jul 21
Tacky and nervy, right - especially since knowing her situation. Wedding guests are there to help celebrate the joy of this union, not to bring the party itself . It all just makes her seem greedy.
I recently got a text invite from a friend who just moved. She was having 2 separate housewarming party time shifts, in case you couldn't make it to one. She said the same thing about bringing a big dish to share and a gift. I know how she and her parties are . . . I just didn't go 
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@MarieCoyle (28491)
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22 Jul 21
I don't think I would have gone, either. I don't mind taking something to eat to share if it's really needed. I do mind being told that a gift is expected.
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@much2say (53959)
• Los Angeles, California
22 Jul 21
@MarieCoyle Right. I would probably bring a gift anyway, but that's not the point - it's not something that needs to be expressed in the invite.
I have seen it where couples with their 2nd or beyond weddings (or older couples) say "In lieu of gifts . . . " ask to please donate to their charity choice. They don't need any more household gifts as they already have everything they need.
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@MarieCoyle (28491)
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22 Jul 21
Yes. If you have all of your household needs, the rest is just extra, anyway. Donating to a worthy cause is a good gesture. I went to a 60th anniversary dinner of my aunt and uncle. They are far from wealthy, but they have all they need. They said, please no gifts, but if you want to give something, please donate to the animal rescue we have chosen to help. I thought that was really nice.
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@MarieCoyle (28491)
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24 Jul 21
Even her Mom and Dad, who have always had her back, are refusing to help finance her wedding this time. Her Dad said he was forgetting all of these guys names. I think I would, too.
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@snowy22315 (169937)
• United States
12 Aug 21
Sounds like she is definitely cashing in on all her marriages..Most people might have a box there to drop cash or checks in but they wouldn't be gauche enough to ask up front. What can you expect from someone married 7 times though?
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@MarieCoyle (28491)
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12 Aug 21
She is not what you could call classy by any stretch of the imagination!
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@MarieCoyle (28491)
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12 Aug 21
@snowy22315 I feel kind of sorry for her parents, and her sisters and a brother. They are embarrassed by her shenanigans.
@kaylachan (57635)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
22 Jul 21
Sometimes that's what people choose to do, and in my opinion, their business is their business. People stay rich by picking and chosing how they spend their money.
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@kaylachan (57635)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
12 Aug 21
@cacay1 As long as it doesn't hurt others, that's fine.
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@cacay1 (83223)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Aug 21
@kaylachan, they're fearless and shameless.
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@cacay1 (83223)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Aug 21
She takes marrying many times a business, a game. There's something wrong with her brain. Why bother to attend a wedding instead of the guest to witness a lavish celebration, it's the guest to serve their own food including them. That's insanity, mockery.
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@dgobucks226 (34356)
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11 Aug 21
Lucky Seven's as they say. I think she's tied with the famous actress Liz Taylor for marriages? Not sure but maybe "gold digger" might apply to your friend.
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@cacay1 (83223)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Aug 21
@MarieCoyle, all on extensions 
she'll regret when she sees many wrinkles on her face. Maybe she likes to compare who among her husbands better on bed or pocket full. She's truly a gold digger thick face woman.
she'll regret when she sees many wrinkles on her face. Maybe she likes to compare who among her husbands better on bed or pocket full. She's truly a gold digger thick face woman.2 people like this
@MarieCoyle (28491)
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12 Aug 21
She is unbelievable. I did hear that she didn't get many gifts. People thought after all the weddings they have attended in which she was the bride, she couldn't possibly need anything. She attended her wedding in a white gown, very very low cut, diamond choker and earrings, new hair extensions, new eyelash extensions, and professionals did her make up and nails. Gold digger? More than likely.
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