Love marriage or Arrange marriage?
By Disha Singh
@ThatDisha (4010)
India
August 12, 2021 10:03am CST
Our generation seems much interested in love marriages ..I too kind of believe that the decision to choose life partner should be in one's own hand, after all it is a life-long commitment also planned love life results in happy family and also equality prevails in love marriages. But youngster may confuse attraction with love and this may lead to bad circumstances.
In Arrange marriages, parents do inquire about each other’s family and their circle. So, there is a high probability that one will get into a relationship with a similar kind of family as theirs. This prevents trusting people blindly, which happens in some love marriages. Arranged marriage is like a lottery. Love may or may not blossom between the couple. Some couples will face compatibility issues.
What do you prefer more Love or Arranged marriage?
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24 responses
@Andini (3208)
• Indonesia
12 Aug 21
@ThatDisha because love make me understand my future husband in personality, about his nature, his financial, everythings. arrange Love i don't think he will stay with me till we become old. Because he will not know my nature that so arrogant.
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@ThatDisha (4010)
• India
12 Aug 21
@Andini true..in love marriage you actually come to know your partner's actual nature
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@Anqaya (3031)
• United States
13 Aug 21
Love marriage. Because my mother got divorced and she had an arrange marriage. She got separated when I was about to born and finally divorced when I was 2. I never saw him and I hate that man. But my grandpa was a great person and my grandma had arrange marriage. So, it's fate maybe, who knows. But I prefer choosing my own.
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@ThatDisha (4010)
• India
13 Aug 21
Yes, there's nothing wrong about arranged marriage.. it's just the time, people's opinions have changed
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@RebeccasFarm (94758)
• Arvada, Colorado
12 Aug 21
In my case I should have arranged
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@RebeccasFarm (94758)
• Arvada, Colorado
12 Aug 21
@ThatDisha Yes because I pick idiots every time
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@anya12adwi (10248)
• India
13 Aug 21
I don't believe in these types! I feel one should marry after courting a person for atleast half a year! Arrange marriage and love marriage in rush seldom tastes sweet! The slower you take to decide whether you are in love or are in arrange set up, the less you gonna regret on your decision..
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@anya12adwi (10248)
• India
13 Aug 21
@ThatDisha Nope, I mean take time with each other before marriage!! Any type of marriage is fine but after knowing each other, then only to take the next step!
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@gamayngbaki (1601)
• Cebu, Philippines
12 Aug 21
Arranged marriages are not very common here in my country the Philippines though in the past our ancestors did have arranged marriages. These days my fellow Filipinos most prefer love marriages just as I do.
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@gamayngbaki (1601)
• Cebu, Philippines
13 Aug 21
@ThatDisha That's very sad. You're still not free to choose the person you want to marry up to this time. 
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@ThatDisha (4010)
• India
12 Aug 21
That is good as you already know your partner...but in our country it is still not socially accepted
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@ThatDisha (4010)
• India
13 Aug 21
@gamayngbaki yes.. now also how many girls and boys are becoming the victim of honour killing
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@marguicha (226527)
• Chile
12 Aug 21
I think that this is cultural. In my country arranged marriages don´t exist.
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@prashu228 (37518)
• India
12 Aug 21
Love love love...
But it also depends on people.. there are many love marriages which break ..so whether love or arranged it depends on us how we make it work out..
But it also depends on people.. there are many love marriages which break ..so whether love or arranged it depends on us how we make it work out..2 people like this
@prashu228 (37518)
• India
12 Aug 21
@ThatDisha no ... there are people ..I have seen .. they don't show their true personality before marriage...
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@cacay1 (84725)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
13 Aug 21
@prashu228, correct. There are so many broken marriages that were based on love. Love flies on the window if there's betrayal. Temptation kills.
@ThatDisha (4010)
• India
12 Aug 21
yes..that is true too..but in love marriages you already know how your partner is
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@cacay1 (84725)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
13 Aug 21
Preferred or arranged marriages usually occur in a Muslim culture to make sure their daughter will be in the right hand without minding the feelings of the two individuals. They may fall to a wrong guy and wrong time leading to breakup . If it's the wife or a husband falling in love, then it would result to a wrong love and a wrong marriage.
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@cacay1 (84725)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
13 Aug 21
@ThatDisha ,oh I see. It's not good. I read news about pre arranged marriage old man and a 8 years old child
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@ThatDisha (4010)
• India
13 Aug 21
@cacay1 that happens sadly, many families arrange their child's marriage with known people usually relatives or close friends
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@NJChicaa (122849)
• United States
12 Aug 21
@ThatDisha Because the idea of arranged marriages is archaic and crazy. A person should be able to decide for themselves who they want to be with.
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@sathviksouvik (20559)
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20 Aug 21
I had arranged marriage. But I love my wife and she loves me. Love marriages are also very successful.
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@sathviksouvik (20559)
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20 Aug 21
@ThatDisha thanks Dishaji if husband loves wife and vice versa there can be nothing better in earth.
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@Butterfingers (66607)
• India
13 Aug 21
@ThatDisha Our parents at least deserve this that we consult with them before marrying someone
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@ThatDisha (4010)
• India
13 Aug 21
@Butterfingers yes..you are right..so are you planning to have love+arranged marriage?
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@ankurdini (1798)
•
12 Aug 21
I prefer love marriage because reason is my Girlfriend. 
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@prashu228 (37518)
• India
12 Aug 21
@ankurdini. Reason is your girlfriend... okay.. what did she tell you..
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. You always call her in every case
@snowy22315 (189598)
• United States
13 Aug 21
Actually, not sure the statistics on either are very good really..unfortunately.
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@snowy22315 (189598)
• United States
13 Aug 21
@ThatDisha I find it hard to conceive of an arranged marriage. They only happen in this country with those that hail from India, Pakistan and countries like that.
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@TerribleMan (579)
• India
13 Aug 21
No marriage is best, in my opinion.
I have no trust either in love marriage or in arranged marriage.
It is true that family members do take a lot of care while arranging marriages. In spite of it, the bride and groom will truly know each other only after the marriage.
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@TerribleMan (579)
• India
13 Aug 21
@ThatDisha Never.
Marriage is not for me. I value individual privacy a lot.
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@LeaPea2417 (37854)
• Toccoa, Georgia
13 Aug 21
Love marriage. My husband and I met at College and fell in love then married. We dated a year and two months before we got married.
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@Shiva49 (27210)
• Singapore
14 Aug 21
It is said one is love before marriage and the other is love after marriage!
Whatever it is, it boils down to our own choice.
Take responsibility as people can change.
There is no clearcut answer and in my case, it was arranged but we met and agreed to get married, our choice ultimately, as we did not have dating like now.
Marriage is give and take, but not - one giving and the other taking.
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@ThatDisha (4010)
• India
14 Aug 21
Honestly it does not depend upon the type of marriage we had.. it's a game of faith love marriage can break too and arranged marriages may last longer
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@Nakitakona (56469)
• Philippines
12 Aug 21
Love marriage is practiced mostly by lovers than arranged marriage. The lovers have the freedom to find their mate who is compatible for them.
Arranged marriage is culturally practiced by the royal families and wealthy persons to prevent or control their properties, money and businesses for being dissipated.
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@MariaIsHere (286)
• Philippines
14 Aug 21
Love Marriage and Arrange Marriage have both pro's and con's. That's what I think. also it's your choice if you want to get married or not.
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