Alice and Lilly

Thanks for reading :-)

Thanks for reading. That's interesting. I wonder the same. Was she just so in love with the young man that the thought of being with anyone else didn't appeal to her? Or was she like her brother, Albert - and meeting people was difficult? I think we all have a number of people that are "soul mates" or that would make us happy in a romantic sense... not just 1...

@FayeHazel I push myself to meet people in real life because I'm actually an introvert and yet, I've come across two people who were the love of my life... and lost both of them. I'm not looking and don't plan on ever getting married ever again. (vanny is the exception. If she needs me, I'll be there and marry her. I don't want her stuck in a life she doesn't want. At least she'd be safe with me. We could get married and she could go back to India and do whatever she wants and just tell people her husband allows it.)

@DaddyEvil Me too - when we're not in a pandemic lol. Eeeek. But yes, I'm introverted too, and it's hard. I'm sorry it didn't work out with the previous 2 you found. If it isn't too personal - what do you think it was? The reason it didn't work? Do people change? Does life and it's circumstances change people? Or is it a case of discovering more and more about a person and then them not being who you thought they were? Please don't feel like you have to answer. Recently I had something like that happen. Hit it off with a guy over the phone. He's local and all, and we did meet up a handful of times this summer. I REALLY felt a deep connection with this guy. It was almost magical. We felt the same on a number of issues. We connected with how we look at the world. It felt like magic just talking to him. He told me I was beautiful, that I was the "only one", that we were soulmates and that we were bonding and soon he would be able to pay more attention to me he promised. He begged me to be patient with him and confided that he was still hurt from his divorce (4 years ago), and had reservations about anyone wanting to ever be with him again due to his unusual line of work and it's unusual hours. (Local celebrity). All of those things we just a sample of all the flowery things he would say. We would talk into the wee hours. Well, this summer he got more and more distant, sharp with me, and then I noticed some chick blowing up his social media. I confronted him. He said I must have misread him. He never meant anything beyond just a friend. (Telling me to prepare for him spending the night doesn't sound like just friends, but.... whatever ... that's just me I guess.) A person shouldn't just throw around comments like that then. I would never do that someone. It's only going to hurt feelings and split up friendships. Anyway, I forget why brought that up. But it's hard when you think you found someone with a special connection and then...... nope. For whatever reason nope..... I'm happy you would rescue Vanny. I feel for those that for one reason or another are not left to choose their own fate

I wish they had better interventions at the time for Alice... but it made me happy dad said she got to come home some weekends. It's pretty cool - I know I could never do healthcare.

@FayeHazel thankfully things have improved. Though doubt by TOO much

@Courtlynn I think you're probably pretty right. Now it's probably more like "here, take a pill"

So true. I remember asking dad about that. He remembered her being out of her mind as a little boy, - when he visited them as an adult he said she had very coherent discussions and was a fan of the local baseball team. I guess Lillie had said that she just woke up one day and was fine....

@FayeHazel not to make fun of it but it's worst than Rip Van Winkle who just only slept for 20 years and finding out everything has changed, this is so much longer, wonder how it felt.

@louievill Oh yes, I understand what you mean there... I know it perplexed me as a child hearing about it. So I would ask dad - did Alice know what had happened during all those years? He said he wasn't sure - he said that she seemed to know who people were when she was back to normal - distant family and so on. She apparently knew baseball too... Poor lady. I hope at least the last years of her life were pleasant

I think you're right. And standards were higher I feel for passing academic tests and so on. And it was more affordable for people. Ah yes. Poor lady, I hope she did enjoy her latter years at least

@FayeHazel yes, the difference is it was affordable. i hope she did too.

It would have been helpful, I wonder what would have been done differently had it have happened now vs. then (probably the 19teens)

So true. That really bothers me. Sometimes I wonder too, was there someone in my lineage that was really just like me? How did they turn out

Thanks! I also wrote about their brother, Albert - it's in the green tag at the top "AlbertLillyAlice" - should bring it right up if you're interested. I know my dad would talk about them and they always fascinated me as a kid

So true. I was happy that at least she could be home part of the time. I often wondered what exact diagnosis she had

So true. Dad said that she was the smartest of the bunch of them, too. Alas, no, but I do actually have a carnival glass dish that was hers - a gift from a person she took care of as a nurse

@FayeHazel It would be better if it came with a bunch of stories but still, it's a great souvenir.

@xander6464 Actually, I was mistaken. The dish I had wasn't Lillie's. It's older. My Greatgrandma's mom (I think that's it) was a nurse and the dish was payment for taking care of someone.