The funnest parts of yesterday with the toddlers. An 18-month old actually helped me clean up the sandbox!

@TheHorse (201820)
Walnut Creek, California
January 15, 2022 11:26am CST
My "girlfriend." 22-month-old Savannah, was not there yesterday. She's the one whose daddy recently "left the house." But I got to spend a lot of special time with three little girls, all of whom are just learning to speak. My 18-month old, Sophia, woke up early from her nap. I was charged with "taking her outside." I told her we needed to clean up the sandbox. She wobbled over to the sandbox with me, and I gathered up a bunch of plastic shovels and other sand box toys that were on the ground outside the sandbox. . I modeled throwing a toy into the sandbox, and she and I hit a rhythm. I would hold up two sandbox toys, and say "Do you want the red one or the blue one?" She would grab one. I would then toss mine into the sandbox and say "I did it!" She would then toss hers into the sandbox and almost say "did!" After about ten minutes of this joyous game, Nicole and Jacki woke up. They're both about 26-months-old--early twos. They actually helped me spread the tarp over the sandbox for the weekend. I find it fascinating how much littlies understand, even when they cannot speak yet. Were I to wax "intellectual," I'd say that it appears that Wernicke's area of the brain (language comprehension) develops before Broca's area (language production). But the bottom line is that we all had big happy fun and essentially had a "conversation" without many words. Toddlers love repetition. It makes them feel safe and efficacious. They also love it when an adult "witnesses" their positive behaviors ("You did it!"). It also leads to attachment with the adult who models predictable behaviors with them, further increasing their sense of safety and reducing cortisol levels. Do you get the feeling that I enjoy working with toddlers? I don't believe there's such a thing as "terrible twos."
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• Nairobi, Kenya
15 Jan 22
I could only imagine how much you enjoyed yourself spending time with the little ones. It's such a joy
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
15 Jan 22
It was a wonderful day for me.
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Jan 22
@mildredtabitha I hope they need me for at least one or two days next week.
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• Nairobi, Kenya
16 Jan 22
@TheHorse that's nice to know
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@just4him (300592)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
15 Jan 22
It sounds like you had a wonderful day. Making a game out of cleaning the sandbox sounded like a lot of fun for everyone, including the teacher.
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
15 Jan 22
Yeppers. It was big happy fun.
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@just4him (300592)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
16 Jan 22
@TheHorse I'm glad it was.
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
7 May 22
@just4him Where have you been recently? I did a post the other day about MyLotters I miss..
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@xander6464 (40196)
• Wapello, Iowa
15 Jan 22
I love repetition. Except when it gets tedious. But some things never get tedious, no matter how often they're repeated. I wonder if I'm a toddler. Or half a toddler.
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@xander6464 (40196)
• Wapello, Iowa
16 Jan 22
@TheHorse You'd think so, wouldn't you?
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Jan 22
@xander6464 I picked up a kid on Friday and was surprised how light she was.
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Jan 22
If you're half a toddler you'd be easy to carry around.
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@DaddyEvil (137253)
• United States
15 Jan 22
I think, if it were possible, you'd solely work with children... You don't think there's such a thing as the "terrible twos" only because you didn't raise Pretty by yourself.
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@DaddyEvil (137253)
• United States
15 Jan 22
@TheHorse Most of the time you're getting paid for it... You also "adopt" kids around you, too.
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
15 Jan 22
@DaddyEvil Yeah, but Horse Jr. was not here 24/7.
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
15 Jan 22
When I work with kids, I'm usually getting paid for it. If I had kid here in the house, I'd probably never get anything else done.
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@wolfgirl569 (91855)
• Marion, Ohio
16 Jan 22
You didnt raise my son. I believe in the terrible twos
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@wolfgirl569 (91855)
• Marion, Ohio
16 Jan 22
@TheHorse He threw fits as they worked with both sets of grandparents. Until hedid a lay down screaming one in the store and I joined him doing the same thing
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Jan 22
@wolfgirl569 I've done that! Did he think it was funny?
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Jan 22
What was his favorite "difficult" behavior?
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@Sojourn (13832)
• India
15 Jan 22
Its nice to be surrounded with toddlers once in a while and act as their playmate.
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
15 Jan 22
These kids are a delight.
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@BarBaraPrz (45011)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
15 Jan 22
I get the feeling you enjoy using clinical terminology.
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Jan 22
I would use it more, but I enjoy my reputation as a "user-friendly" writer.
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@much2say (53306)
• Los Angeles, California
15 Jan 22
You really know how to connect with the littles .
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Jan 22
They make me happy.
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@much2say (53306)
• Los Angeles, California
17 Jan 22
@TheHorse You make them happy too .
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
17 Jan 22
@much2say I do. And they learn stuff without even knowing it. Buwaahaahaa!
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
15 Jan 22
My grandniece I've not yet been able to meet in person, is that same age. She is also learning to talk and identify colors and animals, etc. We get to watch on our family Zoom meetings. We are glad this technology allows us to watch her develop. We saw her learn to crawl, walk and even begin to run a bit. We look forward to meeting her in person . My younger nephew and his wife were able to go to the family Thanksgiving celebration. We did not feel confident enough to make the trip to Orange County, so we missed it. The next week on Zoom, Nor-Nor comprehended that the people she saw on the screen, her aunt and uncle, were the same people who had played with her on Thanksgiving, and she pointed at them on the screen and as best she could called them by name. I was a bit jealous.
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Jan 22
Kids are smarter than we think.
@jstory07 (132932)
• Roseburg, Oregon
16 Jan 22
Toddlers to me are fun to do things with. I am glad you had a good time with them.
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Jan 22
Thanks. I really enjoy communicating with the littlies. I think being a horse helps.
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@JudyEv (321758)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Jan 22
I do kinda get that feeling. And your explanations are very interesting too. Not enough of us are given any instruction re parenting but it would be so much better and easier if we were.
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Jan 22
I wish every parent could read "The Scientist in the Crib," by Alison Gopnik. It gave me a different perspective on what 1- and 2-year-olds are about. They are learning machines (not to mention that they are full of love).
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Jan 22
@JudyEv They really are. And I am sneaky bast*rd. As we were cleaning up, I was secretly teaching her medium motor skills (throwing), color identification, and turn-taking.
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@JudyEv (321758)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Jan 22
@TheHorse 'Learning machines' is a good description. They are just soaking up information at that age.
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@RubyHawk (99441)
• Atlanta, Georgia
16 Jan 22
I can see you enjoy your work. The littles are lucky to have you in their corner.
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Jan 22
I think I'm at my happiest these days when I am on my butt playing some game with them that we just invented.
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Jan 22
@RubyHawk I do wonder about that. I think all "conversations" are good including those with 1 1/2-year-olds.
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@RubyHawk (99441)
• Atlanta, Georgia
16 Jan 22
@TheHorse That’s good. These little ones need adults to care about them. Some don’t get much attention at home.
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@LindaOHio (149574)
• United States
15 Jan 22
You are a very special person with a very special gift.
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@TheHorse (201820)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Jan 22
Yes, I've been called "special" all of my life.
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