MyLot Cover IV Would You Turn In A Family Member?

United States
February 7, 2022 3:37am CST
If you knew of a brother or sister or even your mother or father, that had committed a crime, would you call the authorities and turn them in? Would it depend on the severity of the crime or if someone was hurt in an way in that crime? I don't mean jaywalking or not declaring income to the IRS. Something above that. Assault. Theft. Drugs. Fraud. Extortion. Do you think you'd share with family and discuss it or would you just make the call? Would you hesitate to make a call? I had to make a call one time on a family member. It was a difficult decision but I had to do it. Would YOU make that call and turn them in?
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@DianneN (246525)
• United States
9 Feb 22
I couldn’t do it. I’d have to talk with them and get them counseling or something else.
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• United States
9 Feb 22
@DianneN Unfortunately, it was just the beginning. Thirty five years later, she is still using. I haven't talked to her in a decade. She still hates me. Her kids were eventually removed and she has a trail of arrests behind her. Sad.
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@DianneN (246525)
• United States
9 Feb 22
@Vikingswest1 OMG! That’s terrible. I’m really so sorry for you all.
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@DianneN (246525)
• United States
9 Feb 22
@Vikingswest1 In a case like that, I would have made the call, too. It was for her own good and the good of the kids. Hope she’s doing well now.
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• Portugal
7 Feb 22
Absolutely. But that comes easy for me because I don't care what they would think of me nor if they ever talk to me again. Just because we're blood related that doesn't mean they get the privilege of me turning the blind eye. Thankfully though, I never had to do that. I would just make the call. Opening up a discussion with the rest of the family means you'll be getting 7 different opinions and 15 arguments for every 3 people you discuss it with lol. When there's really only one right thing to do.
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• United States
7 Feb 22
I agree. Bringing family in brings conflict. Just make the call.
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• Portugal
7 Feb 22
@Vikingswest1 I'm sorry that a family member put you in that position. You did the right thing, as tough as that decision might have been.
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• United States
7 Feb 22
@healerWitch It was the start of a long slide down for her. I haven't even talked to her in years.
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@shaggin (71663)
• United States
7 Feb 22
I honestly don’t know what I would do and hope I never have to be in that position. I’m so sorry you had to go through that
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@shaggin (71663)
• United States
7 Feb 22
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• United States
7 Feb 22
@shaggin It got much worse in the years to follow.
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• United States
7 Feb 22
It was hard to do but it had to be done. It didn't help. She was back into it the day she got out.
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@sol_cee (38223)
• Philippines
10 Feb 22
Omg this is hard. I’d talk with them first, hear their side of the story
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• United States
10 Feb 22
That's the best way. I tried that first but it did no good. It still was a hard thing to do.
@sol_cee (38223)
• Philippines
10 Feb 22
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@CarolDM (203454)
• Nashville, Tennessee
7 Feb 22
Hard question as each situation is different. All of my family are gone but I can't imagine. Glad I was not in this situation, as turning them in is not always the answer. Maybe a start for some. Again, it all depends on the situation for me. Sorry to hear you were in this situation.
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• United States
7 Feb 22
It was 35 years ago and I haven't even talked to this sister in a decade. Family says she's still at it. I will likely read her obituary one day soon.
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• United States
7 Feb 22
@CarolDM I think that if I would have said something sooner, it might have been different but with an addict, you just never know.
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@CarolDM (203454)
• Nashville, Tennessee
7 Feb 22
@Vikingswest1 So very sad to hear that. You did all you could do it sounds like.
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@reti_9 (386)
• Philippines
8 Feb 22
I would make a call I don't care what they think about me as I'm doing the right thing, but the decision is yours to make.
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• United States
8 Feb 22
This was a discussion from 2008 MyLot that I recycled. It was popular back then and I thought it might be fun to do again. I made that call about 35 years ago and she hates me to this day.
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@reti_9 (386)
• Philippines
8 Feb 22
@Vikingswest1 because of what you do
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• United States
8 Feb 22
@reti_9 Yes. One brother is still mad at me too. Oh well. I can't control what they think.
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@jstory07 (134388)
• Roseburg, Oregon
14 Feb 22
I would only if a child was in danger.
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• United States
14 Feb 22
My case was two children in danger, my sister's son and the girl she was carrying. It was a sad time.
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@wolfgirl569 (95015)
• Marion, Ohio
7 Feb 22
Yes. I dont want them getting away and doing it again no more than I want anyone else to
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• United States
7 Feb 22
I feel the same way. It's a difficult thing to do though. It divides family sometimes.
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@wolfgirl569 (95015)
• Marion, Ohio
8 Feb 22
@Vikingswest1 My family is pretty divided anyways
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@JudyEv (325584)
• Rockingham, Australia
7 Feb 22
This is a tough one but yes, I'd probably turn them in if the crime was serious, particularly if it involved hurting someone.
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• United States
7 Feb 22
It is a tough call. I knew she would hate me for it too. I knew some of my family would be upset. But I had no choice. Someone needed to stop her. My little sister still hates me three decades later. I'm ok with that.
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@nela13 (55698)
• Portugal
10 Feb 22
It would always depend on the crime but I would definitely talk with them first. At the end I think I wouldn't do it.
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• United States
10 Feb 22
It IS a hard decision to make. Lives were in danger in my case and I HAD to call. I didn't see any other choice. We talked and talked but it did no good.
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@nela13 (55698)
• Portugal
15 Feb 22
@Vikingswest1 I understand you.
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@dgobucks226 (34343)
13 Feb 22
You see these situations often with family members who will actually help cover up a crime, even murder committed by a son, daughter, parent or relative. Being raised to know right from wrong I would report the incident family member or not. An example was Most recently during the summer with the Gabby Petito murder. I'm sure when Brian returned home alone, they had to know something was not right, yet were not forthcoming with help to the police/FBI on Brian's whereabouts.
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• United States
13 Feb 22
I would have no trouble at all turning in a family member that I knew committed murder.
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• Belews Creek, North Carolina
7 Feb 22
Thankfully that is not a decision that I have had to make. If it was any of the crimes you listed as significant I like to think that I would do the right thing and turn them in.
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@Neil43 (3167)
10 Feb 22
I think you just did the right thing. I would probably do the same.
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@akruser13 (475)
• Los Angeles, California
10 Feb 22
Definitely depends on what the crime was. Did they steal a cheap shirt or something? I'd yell at them for it, might even go in and pay for it for them just so the store wasn't out money (especially since I've worked retail), but only if they refused to go back and pay for it themselves. I probably wouldn't call cops or anything for that though. If they hurt someone in the process of committing the crime? I'd probably turn them in. I can say it also probably depends on the family member. Is it that snobby cousin who always acted like she was better than me growing up? I'd call security/cops/whatever on her in a HEARTBEAT. My very favorite sister though? I'd have a harder time with that. There'd be a lot of questions first on why she committed the crime, was there some underlying motive that I need to know about first? It would be highly unusual for her to do anything illegal so I would automatically assume something larger was going on.
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• United States
13 Feb 22
I could look past shoplifting if it weren't a habitual habit. I could look past a lot of things but if it were serious or someone had been hurt, I'd make the call.