Wrong love, wrong marriage of my niece
@cacay1 (84679)
Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
March 21, 2022 8:55am CST
Our family felt the earth fell upon us when learned my married niece left her husband for another man. What a shame we felt. It's my niece whose husband, an electrical engineer and she a bank teller. They have one child 6 years old. She resigned from her work and live with a man who's also married
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She's the daughter of my brother who works in Saudi Arabia. My brother cannot accept her fate, he's so desperate. Our family is shaken this day. Johanna my niece is pregnant with that man he met in Facebook. How I like to slap her. She brought with her their daughter. Her daughter was so confused and kept on calling her father. There will be ongoing war between them for her husband plans to kill them
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The worst part is, the man my niece attracted with is poor as a rat, an ordinary farmer, black skin, ugly. We don't know what attracted her to that monkey man. She will face her own karma. We disowned her. Sorry for having this judgment. It's not easy to accept my niece a graduate from a university and got a good job as Bank teller but landed in a Wrong Choice, Wrong Love. It's sickening, I cry, we cry 
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@dodo19 (47362)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
21 Mar 22
This is definitely not the best situation to be in. Not so much about wealth and beauty. Just leaving her husband and all. At least for me. I do feel bad for her daughter. She should have thought of her daughter. It's not fair to her.
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@marguicha (226376)
• Chile
21 Mar 22
I would not mind the wealth or the beauty of the lover but for the rest there are lots of wrongdoings. In this moment, people don´t have to get pregnant if they don´t want to. And what can they give to that child if she quit her job and is living with a married man! She also should have thought of her other child. If she had married problems there are ways to solve them or even leaving her husband. But why the job too? I´m so very sorry!
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@cacay1 (84679)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
21 Mar 22
@marguicha 
agree with you. We do not understand the decision of my niece. Yes, you're right, she better didn't quit her job. Reason is the home of her other man is outside the city in a far rural. We are bothered here. Her husband had some issues in the past, but it was resolved. We are indeed confused and hurt.


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@marguicha (226376)
• Chile
21 Mar 22
@cacay1 Nowadays, people can get jobs online. She should think of her children instead of going to a rural place with a man who is not even her husband.

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@cacay1 (84679)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 Mar 22
@marguicha according to her younger sister Michaellah, the man her sister lives with is too far away outside the city in a mountainous place, there's no internet, so she could not find an online job unless move nearer the city which she can't do for her legal husband is searching them to seek justice. Her legal husband went to court to file custody to their child. I hope it will be soon and once find Johanna, we're hoping Benjie, her husband, won't harm her. We advised Benjie to move on for the sake of their daughter Princess. It's so devastating life 

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@much2say (57521)
• Los Angeles, California
21 Mar 22
This brings memories of my childhood when the adults in the family were going through such an issue with my aunt. It was a mess . . . and actually there was another mess with another aunt many years before that. People will sadly make the wrong choices - they will follow their hearts too much instead of thinking about their actions. I feel bad for your niece's daughter
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@cacay1 (84679)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
23 Mar 22
@much2say 
she's selfish she should feel what her daughter feels and what her husband feels. Her husband has a good reputation in the company where he works now stained with shame. She's a loser somehow she'll realize her big mistake.


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@cacay1 (84679)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 Mar 22
@LadyDuck 
I am so hurt all members of our family, relatives and close friends feel so hurt. We want to rescue bb Princess but we don't know where they live. We're told the man she's with lives outside the city in a mountainous part. We don't understand her wrong choice. She should have not brought their 6 years old child. How will they survive without work, without money. Our brother in Saudi is so hurt and keeps on crying for the wrong decision of her daughter Johanna. 



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@arunima25 (90128)
• Bangalore, India
22 Mar 22
Not the right situation and definitely an upsetting one for the family. I am so sad that one wrong decision on her part will impact so many lives especially the younger children.

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@cacay1 (84679)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 Mar 22
@arunima25, very well said yes the impact is so great. We cannot find reason why she did it. She's blinded of something scandalous.
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@cacay1 (84679)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
23 Mar 22
@arunima25 yes true she'll find her actions senseless when she turned a loser.
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@arunima25 (90128)
• Bangalore, India
23 Mar 22
@cacay1 Well, I won't judge her as I don't know her. Sometimes people are blinded and impulsive. She might regret it later but then it would be too late.
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@kareng (73587)
• United States
21 Mar 22
Her daughter will be the one that this hurts the most. It is sad.
I totally understand your heartache. It's sort of the same my brother did with the gold digger. Only he wasn't smart enough to peg her as that. He has nothing now. And still with her.
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@cacay1 (84679)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 Mar 22
@kareng,
there are really people blinded with stupidity. Bb Princess cannot understand what's going on and her new situation which is worse. Last talk with her in celfon, she has no milk and bed rough and hard. We don't have update from them today. But her husband went to court to file a custody of their child. It's so sickening reality.

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@RebeccasFarm (94527)
• Arvada, Colorado
21 Mar 22
I am sorry for her wrong choice.

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@cacay1 (84679)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 Mar 22
@RebeccasFarm, 
she surely repents by now after seeing the living situation of the nan she covets. She better goes back to her husband and asks forgiveness and second chance.


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@RebeccasFarm (94527)
• Arvada, Colorado
22 Mar 22
@cacay1 Yes she should try to go back now.

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@cacay1 (84679)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 Mar 22
@RebeccasFarm, we pray she be enlighten.
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@aninditasen (17032)
• Raurkela, India
22 Mar 22
She might have gone crazy or has fallen into some bad habit which her husband might have protested. What are these two wretch do without a job? How are they going to feed themselves and the children? She is behaving like an idiot.
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@cacay1 (84679)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 Mar 22
@aninditasin, more than idiots. They would soon fight if starve. They're unreasonable beings, senseless, brainless. Wrong love resorts to wrong life.
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@cacay1 (84679)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
23 Mar 22
@aninditasen
We pray my niece to realize her mistake and return the baby to her legal husband.

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@aninditasen (17032)
• Raurkela, India
23 Mar 22
@cacay1 Let God save the little daughter of your niece.
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@cacay1 (84679)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
21 Mar 22
@Kandae11 yes of course. They're a disaster. They brought shame to my family, relatives. The fact that he's just a poor farmer who rented a small piece of land. How will they survive. The worst is her husband hires a police to jail them.
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@Kandae11 (56394)
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21 Mar 22
@cacay1 l agree, it is wrong, adultery is wrong, it should never have happened in the first place, especially with a young child involved and l am truly sorry that a member of your family is involved in this scandal.
However, instances like this are played out every second in communities all over the world. How can we stop human failure and mistakes? Hopefully your niece will realise her mistake and hope that her family will give her a second chance. Would you forgive her?
Remember the incident in the Bible where Jesus rescued the woman who was caught in adultery and was about to be stoned?
He said : " He that is without sin let him cast the first stone". Everyone dropped their stones and turned away.
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@Anqaya (3031)
• United States
22 Mar 22
Is she crazy or something!!! She let the spear cut her own foot. I mean how could she ruin her and her daughter plus her husband's life like this.
Worse thing, she even left her good job. What will she eat now? Or is she planning to farm too? Better the father takes your niece's daughter with him.
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@youless (113054)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Mar 22
What a mess! I can't understand it, too. Sometimes love is blind and there is no logic at all. Perhaps we were not her and we could not understand what happened. I don't know what to say because both of your niece and that man are all married. If they really have to be together, at first they have to divorce but I really don't know whether they can have a happy marriage. Especially when they have a hard time like low income, then it will have a bad effect on marriage.
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@cacay1 (84679)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 Mar 22
@youless, yes you're right. They may live struggling for she has no work and she's pregnant. The man she live with is a poor farmer. We learned that man too has 2 children from his legal wife who also left him after knowing his betrayal leaving with him their 2 children. What a kind of life they would endure. The husband of my niece went to court to file custody of bb Princess. The child is so attached to her father.
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@sjvg1976 (41966)
• Delhi, India
22 Mar 22
I am so sorry to know about the wrong choice of your niece. Now you can do nothing for her except watch her going on the wrong path. Sadly, she left her child and husband for no reason (as far as I know because you never mentioned that she had a troubled married life).
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@cacay1 (84679)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 Mar 22
@sjvg1976, she brought with her their 6 years old child. She left her husband having a stable job and good reputation and her job as a bank teller. I'm so sure the employees of the bank where she works might be shocked. It's so devastating choice. She's so unreasonable.
@cacay1 (84679)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 Mar 22
@sol_cee,
bb Princess is too young to understand the situation. She always cries looking for her papa. I cannot understand why she did it. The man she is with now is jobless and finished only some units in a vocational course so he landed as farmer in a tenanted piece. She's a moron,stupid, crazy.

@acelawrites (19272)
• Philippines
22 Mar 22
So sad for the child! Why did your niece chose that man!
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@cacay1 (84679)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
22 Mar 22
@acelawrites, we really don't know. We're waiting for updates. She brought disgrace to her family. 

