I Wonder if it Will Ever Happen

@celticeagle (135265)
Boise, Idaho
August 3, 2022 3:56pm CST
My granddaughter and I used to be very close. We enjoyed each other's company and I am so proud of how she is doing in life. She totally understands her mother's problems and how she is so I had her to confide in and I miss that. She is going to be 31 on her birthday in December. I miss her. She has told me that she appreciates so much what I taught her about housekeeping and responsibilities when she lived with me. I had custody of her from the time she was about 3 until she was 15. She really started acting out in her teens and would not listen to me or go by my rules. This caused me to have a near nervous breakdown and due to the anxiety this caused me I had to give up custody of her and she went into foster care. She says she thanks me for this because it taught her a lot. I hope this is true. But, last year we were both intent on our opinions on Facebook. This is one reason we ran into problems when I had custody of her because we are both stubborn and stuck in our ways. I have always been very opposed to Trump and all he stands for. She is one who believes most of the conspiracy theories and weird stuff on the internet. She also believes in him. I tried to explain how absurd it was and she just got mad at me. Another person I had known previously came on Facebook and agreed with her. It all got very ugly. They were trying to tell me how wrong I was and that I was feeble-minded because of my beliefs. She ended up blocking me and I no longer have contact with her. It hurts a lot and I miss our relationship. I wonder if we will ever be able to restore our relationship.
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@RubyHawk (67541)
• Atlanta, Georgia
3 Aug
I hope you can. I have family members who think Trump is right in all the dreadful things he does. I used to post my views on Trump and some relatives were rude and abusiive toward me while others took up for me. I didn’t want to be caught in the middle so I stopped saying anything. It doesn’t do any good. People that trust Trump wear blinders. They don’t want to hear the truth.
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@celticeagle (135265)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Aug
I totally agree. I just don't want to be at odds with her anymore. I feel bad for those who believe in Trump. I've tried and am tired to no avail. Just don't have the gumption anymore.
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@celticeagle (135265)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Aug
@RubyHawk ........It's gotten so crazy. I just don't have the strength to spue my beliefs anymore.
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@RubyHawk (67541)
• Atlanta, Georgia
4 Aug
@celticeagle That’s me. I gave up. They don’t want to hear the truth.
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@sissy15 (10981)
• United States
5 Aug
This is the one reason I've never liked politics and very rarely talk about them. I don't care what people believe. I disagree with about 90 percent of my family politically but I've stated I won't talk about it and we drop it. I refuse to lose someone over a difference in opinion no matter how absurd I think their opinions are. I think as humans sometimes we let our pride overtake the things that are most important. I can mentally think someone needs to get it together but I won't voice it out loud because it's not worth it. It frustrates me more when people try to force politics on me than just knowing they disagree with me. I get their right to their opinions and I don't particularly care who they want to vote for but when they try to force me to listen to their opinions on the matter is when I get mad. My mom repeatedly tries to talk to me about her beliefs and I tell her on repeat I don't agree and I'd rather drop it. I was raised in a super conservative household. I still hold some conservative leanings but I also hold some liberal ones and I'm often directly in the middle field. I currently don't care for either side. I feel like people are getting way too passionate about their political leanings and both sides are getting out of control. I feel like people are so stuck in their opinions that they are willing to break ties over it and that makes me sad. I have always been an "agree to disagree" kind of person. This is what I have to say as far as sides go both sides can be decent people and both sides can be complete crap people. Where you stand politically doesn't tell you everything you need to know about a person no matter what people say otherwise. What matters is where they are when someone needs help. Do you ask someone before you help them what party they are affiliated with before you help? I'm going to assume not so why does it matter in the grand scheme of things? I don't have any answers for you but I hope you can both put aside your differences in opinion and learn to accept that love doesn't come with conditions and learn to accept you won't ever fully agree on everything. You obviously love her and it hurts that you aren't talking to her more than it probably would have hurt to have dealt with her having a different political standing than you. I think sometimes people, in general, are too stubborn for their own good. I know I can be at times too but I've always managed to work through most of my problems minus one or two but I am also a pretty forgiving person and while I can be super stubborn I love people more than I love being right. Maybe one day you'll both be able to work it out.
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@celticeagle (135265)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Aug
I love my granddaughter much more than being right too but, I just wanted so much to have her see Trump(the Chump)the same way I did. Wasn't worth it. I guess some people think he is wonderful where I know him as a wife abuser and racist. Two things I can't stand.
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@sissy15 (10981)
• United States
5 Aug
@celticeagle I get it. Sometimes we think we are trying to help but it just doesn't go the way we want it to which is why sometimes it's best to just let it go. In the end arguing about issues like that just isn't worth it. I've never known anyone to magically change their opinions based on an argument. If someone is that into their beliefs you're not going to change them so it's best not to try. Something I've learned along the way. The only ones you might change the mind of is someone already on the fence otherwise it's just not going to happen. I really do hope she'll eventually come around. Sometimes people just need time and distance. If you have to maybe try making another fb account and messaging her that way and apologize otherwise just let her cool off and come to you.
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@celticeagle (135265)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Aug
@sissy15 ...........No, it isn't worth it. I thought I could help her to see who this man is but I was mistaken. She and I are a lot alike. She is as stubborn as I am. I don't feel I need to apologize. I haven't done anything wrong except speak my mind. I just think we have different opinions and ideas and need to get a fresh start.
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@much2say (56065)
• Los Angeles, California
5 Aug
I truly hope it will happen. Especially in the past couple years, I witnessed politics putting a wedge in families and friendships on FB . . . I read and did a lot of lurking, but completely stayed out of it all. Like you said, it got ugly. . . people were attacking each other and the support mobs made it worse. I hope she will come around some day, realizing that the special times are still special times - nothing ever changes that.
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@celticeagle (135265)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Aug
I just want her to want to get back with me. Not because I begged or anything. I want to feel like we both are okay with it and can go forward respecting each other. And I will go forward trying to keep my mouth shut. LOL
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@celticeagle (135265)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Aug
@much2say ..........It is a good lesson for me.
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@much2say (56065)
• Los Angeles, California
6 Aug
@celticeagle Right. I hope things can calm down and that she really thinks things over. People can still have their political differences but keep their relationships going . . . it's possible. But yah, it's hard when you feel you have to zip it (that's how I feel around certain friends sometimes ).
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@sharon6345 (319433)
• United States
3 Aug
I don't get into anything with anyone over politics. We all have our beliefs and that is one thing I need not express. I like that we all have an opinion some just need not be mentioned.
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@celticeagle (135265)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Aug
I wish I hadn't. Politics and religion. I really should know better.
@celticeagle (135265)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Aug
@sharon6345 .......I tend to speak my mind. Hard to change something you have been doing for so many years.
@sharon6345 (319433)
• United States
4 Aug
@celticeagle It is ok maybe you won't do it again.
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@sallypup (49319)
• Moses Lake, Washington
4 Aug
T. Butt has really harmed America and continues to. I talk with my daughter. I am grateful that she now has a decent job and mostly we really are able to be friendly BUT I stay away from certain subjects. I hate it. And I hate that she might vote for such an uneducated, yes, disgusting person. I hurt for you. You are NOT feeble minded. That is again the bully thing to do- attack a sensitive, caring person. Hugs.
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@celticeagle (135265)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Aug
I do so love the names we have given this scoundrel. I shouldn't have been on FB spuing how I felt about this evil who calls himself a man. If I had to do it again I hope I would be smarter. I really thought I could get through to her.
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@celticeagle (135265)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Aug
@sallypup .......Thank you for reminding me.
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@sallypup (49319)
• Moses Lake, Washington
4 Aug
@celticeagle Shout out your feelings. You do matter.
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@luisga814 (4997)
• Quezon City, Philippines
3 Aug
I don't know if you believe but prayer works.
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@celticeagle (135265)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Aug
I don't. It never works for me.
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@luisga814 (4997)
• Quezon City, Philippines
4 Aug
@celticeagle No worries. I just include you in my prayers.
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@celticeagle (135265)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Aug
@luisga814 ........Thank you. That is kind.
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@LindaOHio (99950)
• United States
4 Aug
That's a shame that someone like Trump caused you to lose contact with your granddaughter. Can you call her? Reach out to her in some way...and avoid politics.
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@celticeagle (135265)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Aug
I think she needs to come to me in her own time. I'm not sure what to do.
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