Letting out stressful thoughts is good at times

@ptrikha_2 (45555)
India
October 13, 2022 10:03pm CST
I was having stressful thoughts about a few things. I needed to discuss with someone. However due to one or the other reason, I wasn't able to talk it for months. Finally I did it the last week. I cannot share what it is or what was the end result, but sharing those feelings gave me much relief. I think keeping things bottled up inside is more harmful than sharing those things although doing that could lead to arguments or someone getting annoyed. What do you think?
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@Deepizzaguy (94899)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
14 Oct 22
I have heard stories ranging from celebrities to average persons that keeping you stressful thoughts to yourself leads to feeling very ill. When you speak to home who does not judge you after the conversation, you feel better.
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@ptrikha_2 (45555)
• India
15 Oct 22
@Deepizzaguy Yet talking about something that involves the other person can be tricky. However, we need to do it!
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@arunima25 (85579)
• Bangalore, India
14 Oct 22
I don't like to be bottled up. So, I just talk about it. My husband is other way round and it has taken a big toll on his health. I have to coax him to talk. He is man of few words. I like to speak out. I am glad that you did it.
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@ptrikha_2 (45555)
• India
15 Oct 22
@arunima25 Traditional cultural orientation makes it difficult for us men, especially in India to speak about certain things. Yet, beyond a certain point one needs to talk.
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@ptrikha_2 (45555)
• India
15 Oct 22
@arunima25 Well a lot of biases. I have seen some people behaving in certain ways due to such prejudices and yes, it does impacts one's health.
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@ptrikha_2 (45555)
• India
17 Oct 22
@arunima25 Gradually, awareness is spreading. But perhaps there are still challenges for many.
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@allknowing (130122)
• India
19 Oct 22
When it comes to stressful thoughts I let sleeping dogs lie. Yes I let them sleep
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@ptrikha_2 (45555)
• India
19 Oct 22
@allknowing Sounds like a good strategy but cannot follow that in every situation.
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@JudyEv (326126)
• Rockingham, Australia
14 Oct 22
It is often helpful to talk to others about our problems. It helps us get things into perspective. Others aren't so 'involved' and can often give an unbiased opinion or helpful comment.
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@ptrikha_2 (45555)
• India
15 Oct 22
@JudyEv In this case, it was talking to someone "involved" but I had kept the things to myself for very long and that is not good.
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@RubyHawk (99423)
• Atlanta, Georgia
14 Oct 22
I tend to keep things to myself because I don’t want to worry anyone and if they gave advice I probably wouldn’t want to take it.
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@ptrikha_2 (45555)
• India
15 Oct 22
@RubyHawk Yet at times, if a problem also involves that other person, why to keep things bottled inside? But yes, many a times, I follow what you do.
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@CarolDM (203451)
• Nashville, Tennessee
17 Oct 22
I think it is healthy for all of us to vent. I have kept things inside before and got sick over it.
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@ptrikha_2 (45555)
• India
17 Oct 22
@CarolDM May be you had some tough choices to make or the person to whom you needed to talk wasn't cooperative. Just guessing.
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@ptrikha_2 (45555)
• India
17 Oct 22
@CarolDM Oh sorry! My discussion seems to have opened up your windows and memories of sorrow! I can sympathize with you but I know that not me, not anyone else can understand your feelings.
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@ptrikha_2 (45555)
• India
18 Oct 22
@CarolDM Yes, sometimes we need to have someone to just talk to us a bit. Yet that doesn't happens at times.
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@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
14 Oct 22
We sometimes cannot avoid keeping things inside because sometimes we don’t want to hurt the other person. But this leads to us being stressed out over it. I unintentionally do this from time to time and I usually end up thinking about it alot. And how I wish I just said something about it back then. I think it will be different for others and how serious the issue is. But it is good you were able to let it out already. I hope all is well with you and the person.
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@ptrikha_2 (45555)
• India
15 Oct 22
@sublime03 I cannot comment about the end result. Certain opinion and perspective differences remain but I feel lighter after taking.
@MarieCoyle (29022)
14 Oct 22
Sometimes it helps to share certain things, as long as the person that you share with cares about you and your feelings. Good to get another perspective, as well. Bottling up everything, as I sometimes inadvertently do, isn't really healthy.
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@ptrikha_2 (45555)
• India
15 Oct 22
@MarieCoyle Yes I duly concur with you. Not talking was causing me a lot of internal disturbance and stress.
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@Dreamerby (3049)
• Calcutta, India
14 Oct 22
When you share your troubles, you feel light. But some people don't just understand that!!!
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@ptrikha_2 (45555)
• India
15 Oct 22
@Dreamerby Hmm.. this is what often prevents one from talking about certain issues.
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