Suffering from very low self confidence

I am like you, I have always been shy and I am an introvert and I lack self confidence. When I have to do something for the first time I always think I will never arrive to do it.

I almost thought I was reading my story. I was never fat as a kid, quite the opposite. I didn't gain weight until I went to college and sat in class all day. Though that's not where my lack of self-confidence stemmed from. I too was judged incapable of understanding the simplest instructions, told I would never succeed, and never get married or have children. What changed me? My acceptance of Jesus Christ as my Lord and Savior. One famous televangelist said she looked in the mirror and told the image 'I love you' and said it until she meant it. I tried it, and it works. I love myself now. I was also married, and have three adult children, six grandchildren, and three great-grandchildren. The hardest thing for me to reconcile was rejection. I've been writing since I was 8 years old. I was scared to show anyone what I wrote for fear they would say it was horrible. In 2012 I found a book called Chicken Soup for the Writing Soul. It changed my life. There was a whole chapter devoted to self-published authors, some famous ones on the best-seller list. Before I could talk myself out of it, I looked up self-publishers, and the rest is history. I have seven books published and will publish another two next year. I no longer see myself as ugly, stupid, or any of those things I lived with all my growing-up years. I'm a woman in full control of my life. Do I worry whether someone will reject me, or not want to be my friend? No. It's their loss, not mine. I hope you can see yourself as the beautiful person you are.

I am a bit shy of meeting people and I too prefer staying at home. I very rarely have been going out meeting new people and like to keep to myself. I get easily hurt if someone passes some negative remark at me.

I often get children especially teenagers coming to my counseling sessions with self esteem and some carry it to the adulthood. Even my younger daughter suffered from it when she was bullied at school for her dyslexia and being on Autism spectrum. But now, she is a confident and independent happy sixteen year old. I helped her throughout to accept herself and embrace all the shortcomings of her. We all have that and there is nothing to be ashamed of. You are unique and special. You embrace yourself, love yourself and respect yourself. Soon the world will do that. I know it's easier said than done. Just start with baby steps and push your comfort zone.

Heyy, you are not alone. I study in a college. I don't have any friends there. I prefer staying alone most of the time. Most of the time, I don't get any help. Like the days I am absent on, I have to struggle to get the classwork done on that day because nobody is willing to help me. But I know I am unique. Nobody can be as sympathetic as I am. Nobody can feel others' pain like I do. Nobody can pour their heart out in writing like I do. So you are special too. The things that you mentioned above don't define you. Those are parameters laid by the outside world. Monks are the happiest people in this world. You know why? Because they don't follow rules and regimes laid down by the outside world... Breathe and be happyALWAYS

Don't feel so down..every human has been created with a hidden capability and talent by GOD..it all needs a good mentor who's goanna build your courage and keep you always motivated... Hope you got me..

I was bullied in school which made me seem shy.