How would you feel if not invited to your child's wedding?
By cherigucchi
@cherigucchi (15932)
Philippines
January 5, 2023 8:44am CST
It is crazy to ask when the answer is too obvious but I know that whatever the justifications or the sad story behind, the feeling would not be good.
I felt sorry for my friend for the pain that she has been feeling right now and I cannot find any words to comfort her. I was only glad that we pushed through with the meet up despite the bad weather earlier. At least my other friend and I were able to listen to her sad story of what she has been going through the past months.
My friend has a new family now and her daughter did not grow up with her. It was the in-laws and the father who has been working overseas were the ones who raise her. Even then, I have been a witness to her effort and sacrifice that she did not abandon her child.
I just feel bad about her and I hope that she would soon overcome the pain.
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@cherigucchi (15932)
• Philippines
6 Jan 23
That is the same explanations I can think of.
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@cherigucchi (15932)
• Philippines
6 Jan 23
@LadyDuck When that is the scenario, we can understand it. It is just sad that there are cases like that happening to our friends.
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@LadyDuck (502812)
• Italy
6 Jan 23
@cherigucchi - I have a friend who has been abandoned by her mother, she never forgets and she will never forgive.
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@kobesbuddy (78833)
• East Tawas, Michigan
5 Jan 23
I was not invited to my daughter's first wedding, yes this really hurts! And I raise my two children alone, without much help from their father. For a short while, they resented me terribly because we were fairly poor. Yet, I loved them with all my heart! Bruce had money, so he bought them nice gifts! Now, they learned the truth and love me, even though we didn't have much money.
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@cherigucchi (15932)
• Philippines
6 Jan 23
I feel sad about it but its a good thing that they were able to realize it. Hugs
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@kobesbuddy (78833)
• East Tawas, Michigan
6 Jan 23
@cherigucchi My daughter's second wedding, I was there to celebrate:)
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@cherigucchi (15932)
• Philippines
9 Jan 23
@kobesbuddy That was amazing and Im happy for you
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@maggiesunjuan (561)
• China
5 Jan 23
This is so cruel but why didn't the child invite her? This is heart broken to a mother who did so much for her child!
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@maggiesunjuan (561)
• China
6 Jan 23
@cherigucchi When one of my friends got married her parents didn't show up on the wedding because she married a man who was about 10 years older and had a divorce before. My friend's parents took it as a shame to have their child married a man with such "bad conditions", but they now are having a good marriage and parents from both families help them a lot. But I've never heard of any story that a child refuses the parents to attend the wedding, in our culture this is "being ungrateful".
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@cherigucchi (15932)
• Philippines
6 Jan 23
@maggiesunjuan This is sad. And I feel sadder when things like this happen to people whom we know and even closer to us.
Its a good thing that your story ends well.
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@cherigucchi (15932)
• Philippines
6 Jan 23
We will never understand the child's reasons behind her choices.
@allknowing (153529)
• India
6 Jan 23
It is difficult to judge the situation as there must be some background to it .
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@allknowing (153529)
• India
6 Jan 23
@cherigucchi No matter how close we are unless we know both sides of the story it is difficult to come to any conclusion but at the same time feeling sorry is expected.
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@cherigucchi (15932)
• Philippines
6 Jan 23
That is what I am also trying to consider but since I knw my friend and have been a witness of her sacrifice, I am caught in between. But as a mother, I feel so sorry for her.
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@cherigucchi (15932)
• Philippines
6 Jan 23
@allknowing That is what I feel as well and most of us actually.
@cherigucchi (15932)
• Philippines
9 Jan 23
It will take time for her to heal but I know she will be all right soon.
@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
5 Jan 23
For myself, I know I would be devastated.
I don't know what the circumstances are for both sides, but it is heartbreaking. When my distant relative got married, her 2 older sisters did not invite their mother to their own weddings, but the youngest did, even though the mother was an "outcast" to the family. By then the mother was in a wheelchair . . . seated at the back area of the party with people she did not know . . . not many acknowledged her. So even though she was invited and came, her presence was a sad one - humiliating actually.
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@cherigucchi (15932)
• Philippines
6 Jan 23
That is another side of the sad story of being invited as well. You are right, it is not only heartbreaking but humiliating as well.
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@choijungeun (2710)
• Hangzhou, China
5 Jan 23
There are always some broken families,they all have different tragedies.I just wish God can bless them and give them the sunshiny happiness
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