Romance and Romantic Love
By celticeagle
@celticeagle (189917)
Boise, Idaho
February 13, 2023 7:28pm CST
Romance is defined as the courtship behaviors that a person in love undertakes to express their feelings of love and strong attraction toward another person. It is one of the happiest aspects of a loving relationship. Romance is an external action while intimacy is an internal one. Intimacy has to do with vulnerability and knowing our own bodies. It also has to do with our own deepest desires, and openly receiving without judgment what your partner has to give.
As Gary Chapman related in his book, The Five Love Languages, there are five ways in which our partners show us they are thinking of us and are totally tuned into the relationship. These are: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.
A romantic relationship is both complex and full of extreme emotions. Fascets of this have inspired books, plays, poems, songs, and movies for centuries. It has ups and downs and even an intoxicating "honeymoon phase" and hopefully leads to a state of acceptance and a mutual desire for permanence. Though moving through these phases can be challenging the reward can be a long-term and healthy relationship.
Happy Valentine's Day! (tomorrow that is.)
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@LindaOHio (222624)
• United States
14 Feb 23
Very interesting. My husband and I have different outlooks on what a romantic relationship should be.
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@BarBaraPrz (51834)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
14 Feb 23
Well. yeah, he's one of those man things...
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@LadyDuck (502650)
• Italy
14 Feb 23
This is very interesting. I have to same the same as @LindaOHio. My husband and I have different outlooks on what a romantic relationship should be.
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@LadyDuck (502650)
• Italy
17 Feb 23
@celticeagle Men always have a different view of what a romantic relationship is and it's never close to the feminine view of it.
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@celticeagle (189917)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Feb 23
@LadyDuck .........True. But occasionally you may run across a man who is more of an efiminant type and gets the entire ball of wax. Not often but it has happened.
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@JamesHxstatic (29410)
• Eugene, Oregon
18 Feb 23
Reading your post and some comments, I can't defend my fellow men. My wife and I are really fortunate to have very close definitions of a romantic relationship. Honestly, she would agree here.
We talk a lot and express our appreciation for each other. We so have disagreements, but manage to laugh about most of them.
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@celticeagle (189917)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Feb 23
That is sure nice to hear. I never found a man I could stand to live with for very long.
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@celticeagle (189917)
• Boise, Idaho
19 Feb 23
@JamesHxstatic ............Interesting how that works.
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@celticeagle (189917)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Feb 23
I enjoy getting a different aspect on things.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
16 Feb 23
@celticeagle51 Yes, it's good.
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@Nakitakona (59987)
• Philippines
16 Feb 23
When I was courting for my wife before, I remembere I used the following things: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.
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@celticeagle (189917)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Feb 23
I guess she appreciated them too. I think they should continue throughout the relationship.
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@celticeagle (189917)
• Boise, Idaho
18 Feb 23
@Nakitakona .........Right? There has to be feeling as well I think.
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@Nakitakona (59987)
• Philippines
18 Feb 23
@celticeagle I know they know what is right and what is not.
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@Kouponkaren (5497)
• United States
14 Feb 23
I have read that book and took a class on the 5 Languages of Love. My husband and I were the couple that had been married for the shortest time in that class, so we were given a copy of that book. The thing is not everyone responds to the same love languages so we have to work hard at finding out each other's love languages and filling those needs of our partner. Fortunately, our number one love language for both of us is affection, so that works well. Our second love language is more of a challenge. But we are doing it.
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@celticeagle (189917)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Feb 23
To find compromises in this way is a loving gesture as well.
