Women should get more facilities in a relationship, feminist cry. Is that right.
@aninditasen (18202)
Raurkela, India
February 14, 2023 7:58am CST
In India there was a time when women stayed at home and managed the home. Men accepted that they had to manage the outside world and protect the women. Most women were not educated too. The great philosopher and socialist Vidyasagar started women's education and gradually got women out of their homes and became financially independent.
The scenario at home has changed a lot. Some multi tasker women experts manage their profession and home very well but what I gather from the conversations of most young men and women, some women think that since they are going out to work their home should be managed by someone else who should provide them with all the comforts at home- provide them with a morning bed tea, run after them with some good breakfast, arrange their wardrobe for them and relieve their tiredness with some good tea and snacks and dinner too after they come home. Manage their children for them. Their argument is since we are earning we have the right to all the good things of life and all the comforts at home with no contribution.
Now making a home together is sharing life together where every member should have their contribution both physically and mentally.
Whether the man or the woman if he or she thinks that financial independence makes them the boss of the family where they can order about and think they have special rights, I think they better not get married and set up a home.
What's your opinion?
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@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
15 Feb 23
Money is essential for living and a couple should understand that they aren't doing any mercy to their family members. In India some grand parents are too feeble to help. My mother-in-law was very old and weak and therefore we never expected her to anything. I used to employ house help whenever I got them and managed house work myself and my job too.
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@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
16 Feb 23
@Kandae11 That's means they are pretty young. And they can contribute physically to the family.
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@Kandae11 (57230)
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15 Feb 23
@aninditasen. Many grandmothers these days are in their early forties and early fifties.
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@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 Feb 23
Since I live in the US we are raised for the most part not everyone so don't think I'm saying this is how it goes with everyone here where I live because its not. I live in a home were both my parents worked came home and took care of the house as well as me and my siblings. This is pretty common for a lot of people that live in the US.
As someone that is married yes I did my time working as a teen as well as my husband. When we got married and have our first we talked that it was save us money for my husband to be the solo working of the family and I the care taker of the kids. Yes I supported the family for a few years a babysitter from home like 3 year also while pregnant and taking care of not only our 2 other kids but also someone else 2 kids. Now, my kids are older all three go to school for 6 hours a day I'm a full time writer, as well as house care taker for the most part. Currently my husband is recovering for a year long injury while waiting to get a new job. Together we take care of the house and the kids.
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@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
15 Feb 23
That's very sensible of you and your husband. You both have a good equation.
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@ShyBear88 (59342)
• Sterling, Virginia
15 Feb 23
@aninditasen lol equation its not a math problem. It's life that is how a marriage work it's a partnership it's not about who makes more, who takes more reasonability, and who does this or that.
Like all relationships it takes communication and compromising.
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@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
15 Feb 23
@ShyBear88 That's what some young couples don't understand these days. They just expect commitment without any contribution themselves.
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@RebeccasFarm (91297)
• United States
15 Feb 23
I am very old fashioned Anindita. Nothing wrong with a woman working, but her domain should be the home also. And if you are out working, there is really no extra money, if you are paying maids, and wardrobe people and child care which is exorbitant these days. So any money she is making is still going out the door, so what is the point? Except to occupy yourself outside the home. Incredulous right?
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@RebeccasFarm (91297)
• United States
15 Feb 23
@aninditasen You were very well able to do both the work and home Anindita. I am glad you felt like you were contributing. I know what you mean. I always worked, but then I only had one child.
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@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
15 Feb 23
@RebeccasFarm Even caring for a single child is a full time job. I started working when my elder son started going to school and my younger was 2. I had a baby sitter at home and went out for a few hours.
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@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
15 Feb 23
I managed both home and job and got a household too. I did this because we needed money in the family at the same time I was losing my self esteem. Each minute I was made to feel that I was not contributing anything to family. This happened both to me and my co- sister and so we went out to work.
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@DianneN (254926)
• United States
16 Feb 23
@aninditasen I agree and would never want someone managing those things for me.
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@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
17 Feb 23
@DianneN Some Indian women these days thing it as their birth right to exploit people.
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@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
16 Feb 23
That's how it should be managed without expecting that someone else should manage their home for them as some young Indian women these days expect.
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@zhangxueying (3362)
• China
14 Feb 23
Most of our families here are taken care of their children by the parents of male and female owners.Most people support women to go out to work, provided that the parents of the host or hostess are willing to help take care of the children.
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@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
15 Feb 23
You mean grand parents. Sometimes grand parents are sick and old and are unable to help at home. In such a case both partners should make their own arrangements for house keeping and raising kids.
@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
16 Feb 23
@zhangxueying That's how I managed both my profession and house.
@zhangxueying (3362)
• China
15 Feb 23
@aninditasen Yes, when parents can't help their children, we should arrange everything by ourselves.Depending on the economic situation, you can hire a nanny or do it yourself. There are many ways.
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@astutimeliana723 (4686)
• Indonesia
14 Feb 23
In my opinion, the job of a married woman is to stay at home, take care of the house, husband and children. If they want to work, that's fine, but they have to get permission from their husband. And working at home is better, he can build his own business from home. So that not much time is wasted, everything is well taken care of.
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@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
15 Feb 23
In today's world a woman has every right to work even after marriage to contribute to the family's expenses. No one has the right to force a woman to live a wretched life just because she doesn't earn after marriage. I was not working when I got married but financial crunch forced me to start working as well as to get some self confidence which I was losing gradually.
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@astutimeliana723 (4686)
• Indonesia
15 Feb 23
@aninditasen But if I will still depend on my husband's permission.
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@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
15 Feb 23
@astutimeliana723 I never took my husband's permission before I started to work and why should I when I was looked down upon by his family members just I wasn't contributing anything to the family income.
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@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
15 Feb 23
That's my question too. A person who can't devote time to his/her partner and the home then why should they marry.
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@rebelann (117269)
• El Paso, Texas
21 Feb 23
I am unmarried but I recall working with women who had families and each one of them had husbands who shared in home duties. The only real problem they all seemed to have was finding an appropriate daycare for their children.
If I had married and had children I would have wanted to stay home with them to make sure they got all the love and attention a child needs from their mother .... of course fathers also need to spend time with their children but if he is the only one working out of the home then it is understandable that he might not be able to contribute as much time.
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@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
23 Feb 23
Yes but with the rising inflation both partners have to work to run a family comfortably.
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@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
24 Feb 23
@rebelann Yes, at times the mother can work from home which is very common these days. A child needs the mother more than the father.
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@jstory07 (148771)
• Roseburg, Oregon
17 Feb 23
@aninditasen So he does help you and that is good.
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@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
16 Feb 23
It cannot always be 50/50 as my husband wasn't that good at household work. So I had to do that. Yes, he was good at getting the children ready for school.
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@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
17 Feb 23
@jstory07 He did help me sometimes but now he has left for his heavenly abode and I am managing my life alone.
@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
15 Feb 23
That's what some women and men don't understand. They think themselves to be superior human beings and expect special treatment.
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@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
15 Feb 23
That's the reason it's better to share responsibilities at home too. House help sometimes don't adjust with the office or job timings of the couple. Moreover, some couples don't like keeping house help.
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@Nakitakona (59987)
• Philippines
16 Feb 23
Family is father and mother - I Love You.
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@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
18 Feb 23
@Nakitakona Yes, some families exploit the women in India and some the men.
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@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
16 Feb 23
Yes, father, mother, children and grandparents make up a family and all have their importance in the family. All have equal rights.
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@Nakitakona (59987)
• Philippines
18 Feb 23
@aninditasen I like the phrase - equal rights. By practice, most families don't practice it.
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@Virtually2021 (828)
• Southend-On-Sea, England
14 Feb 23
I prefer to work part time as I can't manage full time work and housework.
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@aninditasen (18202)
• Raurkela, India
15 Feb 23
That's option should be decided by the woman who does the maximum house work, at least in India. I took up work from home when I had to manage household work single handedly.
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