Opposites attract or Birds of a feather

@YrNemo (20272)
March 18, 2023 6:33am CST
Have you ever seen two best friends who share the following traits: very negative, very critical of everything but themselves, very demanding, not too bright, know very little but always tell people that they know everything, always blame someone else for their own mistakes even when there are solid evidence, etc? I met a set (two new staff members) at work recently and have been very puzzled in how they could be best friends to each other. Can you figure out how they could be best friends with each other when they dislike everyone else but themselves only?
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@LadyDuck (455039)
• Switzerland
18 Mar 23
That kind of people tend to be friends ONLY with those who are exactly the same as they are.
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@LadyDuck (455039)
• Switzerland
19 Mar 23
@YrNemo The friendship will last until one of the two will do or say something that upsets the other. Those are never real friendhips.
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@YrNemo (20272)
19 Mar 23
@LadyDuck I guess so too. I do wish they have been a bit more positive in their general attitudes. In a sense, I pity them.
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@YrNemo (20272)
19 Mar 23
How long such a friendship lasts I wonder.... (From what I heard, they had used to work with each other ages ago but drifted apart afterwards until their current re-union.)
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@arunima25 (84953)
• Bangalore, India
18 Mar 23
I know a few people like that. But they don't have friends. It is hard for anyone to become friends of such characters. Their friendship doesn't bring any joy of friendship. Good that these two have found each other.
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@YrNemo (20272)
18 Mar 23
You are so right, at least they have each other.
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@YrNemo (20272)
19 Mar 23
@arunima25 I have a suspicion that they do so because they like dramas and like stirring up troubles. Some egocentric people really goes out of their way to be the centre of attention.
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@arunima25 (84953)
• Bangalore, India
18 Mar 23
@YrNemo I feel sorry for such people. They are left alone. Must be feeling lonely at times.
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@shaggin (71573)
• United States
19 Mar 23
That does seem unlikely they would be able to get along with both of them being the same way.
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@shaggin (71573)
• United States
19 Mar 23
@YrNemo oh good god they sound like a soap opera.
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@YrNemo (20272)
19 Mar 23
I have the same thought, so I am observing them intensely to see if there should be a fall out. One is very immature and acts like a spoilt brat, the other is older, more stylish, smarter, grumpier (and the latter could have got away with her fibs but the former is dragging the latter down with her). As a matter of fact, the latter has already said that she is NOT that close to the former after watching some of the former's faux pas -. (and the former said something similar weeks before the latter's arrival.).
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@sol_cee (38224)
• Philippines
19 Mar 23
Omg such losers!
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@sol_cee (38224)
• Philippines
19 Mar 23
@YrNemo the game isn’t over yet, I hope?
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@YrNemo (20272)
19 Mar 23
We are all tiptoeing around them right now, and I think in a sense, they are the winners of the current situation (even if they have been behaving badly.).
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@just4him (303392)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
18 Mar 23
That is puzzling. Something attracted them.
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@YrNemo (20272)
19 Mar 23
I wish I can figure out the target/goal they share. As it is, they seem set to destroy any community they belong to.
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@just4him (303392)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
20 Mar 23
@YrNemo That's a shame they're like that.
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@JimBo452020 (42639)
• United Kingdom
18 Mar 23
I have seen a few like you describe on here over the years And lo and behold they form little cliques and become bestest buddies. It was more apparent on here in the early days Like magnets they attracted each other.
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@YrNemo (20272)
18 Mar 23
I just can't understand how those people can be attracted to each other? If they don't like anyone else, how can they like those who are their mirror images?
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@JimBo452020 (42639)
• United Kingdom
18 Mar 23
@YrNemo They need to feel part of a clan no matter who or what. It makes them feel included Think about it, only people like themselves would be viable friends for them
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@YrNemo (20272)
18 Mar 23
@JimBo452020 I felt sorry for them in a sense, both look so unhappy 99% of the time (the other 1% is when they managed to cause trouble to others successfully. You could see that they were so alive then!)
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@snowy22315 (168439)
• United States
18 Mar 23
I am going with Birds of a Feather...You didn't describe the other person but I assume they are similar...probably both narcisscists.
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@YrNemo (20272)
18 Mar 23
The other one is extremely grumpy and constantly saying bad things about others. Other than that, they are similar.
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@allknowing (130088)
• India
19 Mar 23
They have an option to select and they have done that.
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@RebeccasFarm (84408)
• Wheat Ridge, Colorado
18 Mar 23
I have had that experience all my life in picking partners..I am a fool. or rather I was.
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@jstory07 (133801)
• Roseburg, Oregon
19 Mar 23
If they like only themselves I can not see them having a best friend.
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@YrNemo (20272)
19 Mar 23
That is why this situation is so odd! So far they have backed each other in doing bad things which really disrupt the daily running of our team. We guess they do so partly because they realize they can not deliver re; their work performance - they are like two fish out of water (but why did they apply for the job then?)
@DaddyEvil (137251)
• United States
18 Mar 23
No, I haven't met best friends like that. I have met single people like that, though. Usually, they don't seem to have a best friend and usually don't have very many regular friends.
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@DaddyEvil (137251)
• United States
18 Mar 23
@YrNemo Or something like that, yup!
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@YrNemo (20272)
18 Mar 23
exactly! how could two egocentric people become best friends? a miracle!
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@aureliah (24340)
• Kenya
20 Mar 23
That is a very bad combination of friendship
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@Adie04 (17364)
18 Mar 23
This is a mystery for me too.
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@YrNemo (20272)
19 Mar 23
it is an unusual situation!
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