Is being sexy all in the mind?

@Jenaisle (14078)
Philippines
May 7, 2023 6:40pm CST
I admire women who believe they are sexy no matter what they were wearing whether they are physically fat, petite, tall, ugly, or beautiful, they exude confidence and yes - sexiness. There are many women who have physical beauty but they lack self-confidence, hence, they appear "ugly" because of their low self-esteem. And by the way, there is such a thing as true beauty or inner beauty - the beauty of character - that radiates from the inside and eradicates whatever the woman's physical defects are. What about you guys (including our men), What are your thoughts on this? For men, do you prioritize a woman's physical assets over her character? What's sexy to you? For women, what are your thoughts on this? Thank you.
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@JimBo452020 (42639)
• United Kingdom
8 May
Ok I looked at Yvonne and I knew within 2 seconds that I wanted to .... She looked at me and thought the same Instant chemistry,
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
@JimBo452020 Whatever it is, congratulations anyway, this occurrence is rare.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
Awesome. Love at first sight. Congratulations!
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@JimBo452020 (42639)
• United Kingdom
8 May
@Jenaisle It was Lust at first sight
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@allknowing (130088)
• India
8 May
That would be judged by the number of men ogling?
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
Could be. I wonder where the men are. No male has answered the question yet.
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@allknowing (130088)
• India
8 May
@Jenaisle They will may be later
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@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
10 May
I think so, and it also depends on what era you're in. Many centuries ago, people viewed fat women as seductive and slim ones as sickly. Nonetheless, in today's society, skinny girls are viewed as healthy-looking, whereas obese girls are seen as unhealthy.
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@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
10 May
@JenaisleBut, for males, little has changed. Many still perceive men to be hot when they are strong and robust, and slim guys to be less appealing.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
10 May
@rsa101 I guess, we couldn't change their perception overnight, but slowly more women are aware that masculinity doesn't depend only on muscle and brawn. I mean, you may be "big" there but if you don't know how to use it properly, and you don't have humor and common sense, then nothing is impressive about you. (I'm referring to men.)
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
10 May
You got a point there.
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@ptrikha_2 (45331)
• India
8 May
Well it is a tricky and not so chartered area on Mylot! I think the looks do matter but once you start knowing a person it is the overall thoughts and interests that make more difference. And yes, mind does play a role.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
I understand what you're saying, and you have a good point there.
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@ShyBear88 (59261)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 May
Well, what your talking about isn't sexiness, sexiness is how a person feels about something of themselves, nthanot others. It has nothing to do with continence or not. This is about attractions men and women are attracted to a lot of different things. It can be about how a person carries themselves whether they are confident or shy. it can be about how you dress or don't dress. A certain part of the body. To me I think I feel sexy in a pair of good heels or panties that I normally don't wear but to my husband sexiness is me wearing nothing. He'd also finds it sexy if we are out somewhere I do something I shouldn't like pulling out my panties and giving them to him, or not wearing a bar. Okay, 90% of the time I don't wear a bra but that's more for me then it is for him. They are just evil and uncomfortable.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
I understand. It's about the viewer's own perception. Of course, this is true. What may be sexy to another might not be sexy to me.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
@ShyBear88 It's just a word and the definition is relative.
@ShyBear88 (59261)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 May
@Jenaisle Sexy is just a word there is no clear-cut or dry definition of what sexy is or isn't. Its all about attraction that's what it is. We actually look at some for less than 30 and the brain already knows if we like them or not by what we see with zero interaction. Connections are made before we even try to put any real thought into
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@wolfgirl569 (93525)
• Marion, Ohio
8 May
People, men or women, can look good by being friendly and honest
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
That's true beauty.
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@shaggin (71572)
• United States
8 May
I don’t think poor self esteem makes anyone look ugly. They are either ugly or they aren’t. I do believe in inner beauty shining through though.
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@shaggin (71572)
• United States
8 May
@Jenaisle I disagree with those who say everything is beautiful some people are plain ugly I am one of them!
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
@shaggin There will always be something beautiful in you or about you. Trust me.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
You made me laugh. Are you familiar with the story of the ugly duckling? And some say that everything created by God is beautiful.
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@sjvg1976 (41134)
• Delhi, India
8 May
Physical beauty is what I never consider. For me a person should have a sense of humour and should be intelligent. I like people who believe in " simple living and thinking high".
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
@sjvg1976 That must be based on your own experience because I have encountered some people who are beautiful inside and out. Let's still have faith in them.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
That's good. Physical beauty fades but not inner beauty.
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@sjvg1976 (41134)
• Delhi, India
8 May
@Jenaisle absolutely , beutiful people are not good by nature, they are egoistic that's what I have observed.
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@LadyDuck (455005)
• Switzerland
8 May
Being sexy is not all and only in the mind. You can believe to be sexy but if all those who look at you think you are ugly, that means that you are not sexy, no matter what you want to believe.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
You have a point there. As they say: "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder."
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@LadyDuck (455005)
• Switzerland
8 May
@Jenaisle Time by time it happens to see a girls who walk looking very "proud of herself", and you think that there is really not a lot to be proud.
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@sol_cee (38224)
• Philippines
8 May
Oh men- I believe their sexy is what they see lol
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
I know what you mean.
@jeets03 (12114)
• India
8 May
@Jenaisle, As a man I can say about myself that what beautiful or sexy looks for others, it may not necessarily for me. If I answer to this post in one line, it would be through a famous quote - "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder,"
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
That's correct. I was shortsighted. Have a good day.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
9 May
@jeets03 Yes, I have to concur.
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@jeets03 (12114)
• India
9 May
@Jenaisle You are not shortsighted, it is the normal question which comes in our mind. But yes, it is very subjective.
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@db20747 (43407)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
8 May
Being happy with yourself is important. If you think your cute, that matters. Too much stress worrying about am I sexy, which I've been told a million times I am.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
Congratulations, you belong to the sexy ladies.
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@db20747 (43407)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
8 May
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@LindaOHio (153163)
• United States
8 May
A woman who is not attractive can become sexy in the eyes of someone who loves her. It's all relative. Wishing you a Happy Monday!
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
Yes, yes, that's true. Happy Monday too,
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@LindaOHio (153163)
• United States
8 May
@Jenaisle Thank you very much.
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@pitsipeahie (4159)
8 May
For me, the concept of "sexy" can be subjective. It can vary from one person to another. However, it is true that our mindset can greatly influence how we perceive ourselves and how others perceive us. Confidence, self-assuredness, and a positive attitude can all contribute to "feeling" and "being perceived" as sexy. On the other hand, the opposite - self-doubt, insecurities, and negative self-talk can detract from one's perceived sexiness. So, while physical attributes can play a role in attractiveness, it is ultimately one's mindset and attitude that can make a significant difference whether they are to be perceived as sexy.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
@pitsipeahie I do agree. yes and yes. Have a nice day/night.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
That's such an enlightened contribution. You have clearly explained it. I agree with all that you said about the perception of sexiness, etc. Thank you.
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8 May
@Jenaisle It does happen, its not impossible that when you feel sexy, then you exude that aura of sexiness that radiates to other people and make them perceive you as sexy EVEN if you do not look like one or you do not fit the typical physical mold of sexiness.
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@snowy22315 (168463)
• United States
8 May
I say beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
Right, majority agreed to that.
@just4him (303373)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
8 May
Beauty is inside. The character. How you feel about yourself matters more than how you look on the outside.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
Right, I agree.
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@dya80dya (33081)
8 May
I believe in inner beauty.
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@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
8 May
I believe in it too. Enjoy your day.