I Was Sixteen When I First Met Him.
By Babes Says
@BabeSays (8576)
Mauritius
June 2, 2023 5:31am CST
I never really understood relationships. At a very young age, my mom use to leave me home alone. I was not allowed to ask where she was gone. I never knew how to greet people or communicate with others.
I was very shy and scared to be out around people. The only thing that would make me happy and feel comfortable was to be around my mother. I never knew any relatives. She was a single mom and the only person I knew and trusted the most.
It was very hard for me to make friends and that is why I got bullied most of my school and college life.
We use to rent this place until my mom finally decided that we should have our own place.
I was 16 when she took me to meet my dad. She needed his signature so we could get the house. I was so happy to see my father for the first time.
My mom told me my dad didn't want me and that he tried to kill me when I was in her womb. Even though I knew he hated me, I don't why I was happy to finally see my dad for the first time.
Have you ever felt happy to meet someone who doesn't really care about you?
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@AmbiePam (85489)
• United States
2 Jun
Are you sure your mother wasn't lying to you? Your mother treated you horribly, so she could have completely made that up to make sure you never reached out to him. At the same time, she might very well have told your father that you resented him, and wanted nothing to do with you, thus lying to you both. If he didn't care, why would he sign the papers?
I think it is natural for a young girl to be excited to see her father on the off chance he'll turn out to be a much better person than the one who raised you. You are such a sweet soul you probably held out hope he was a man worth knowing.
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@BabeSays (8576)
• Mauritius
3 Jun
That's exactly what she must have done. At first, I believed everything she said. But after seeing how she behaves and treats me I feel like she lied about a lot of things.
One time I made a small mistake and asked her to cover up for me. She immediately went telling on me to my husband. Luckily my husband wasn't angry but it hurt me how quickly she betrayed me. Although I told her not to tell my husband she would get mad yet she did it on purpose. But my husband was cool and told me "It's okay. Don't worry it happens something."
And multiple times when she was alone with my husband she would badmouth me. That is when I realized that she lies about me to all my relatives which is why they all hated me.
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@BabeSays (8576)
• Mauritius
3 Jun
@AmbiePam She did. My father really didn't want me. Because of the lies, she told him. I think so. Since she told me all the nasty things that would make me hate my father. But she wanted him back in her life.
So if my father was a bad person why did she want him back, right?
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@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
2 Jun
I think knowing your father was something that excited you since I think he is still part of who you are. Good thing that besides the sad story behind it you were able to overcome to hate him and still feel happy about it, I guess the past is past and you just let it go and not hold any grudge against him anymore.
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@BabeSays (8576)
• Mauritius
6 Jun
@sjvg1976 It's complicated Sanjeev. My mom wanted that I leave my husband and come live with her. She wanted to break my wedding. My husband is a good person and cares a lot more than my mom ever did.
I can't please my mom by leaving my husband. That's why she is mad. And she stopped talking to me.
@manikarnika (3222)
• India
5 Jun
Once talk to your father freely and ask what is the real reason for their fight... and you may get some answers.
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@marguicha (215423)
• Chile
2 Jun
I don´t thinkthat he did not care about you. I think that he was not prepared to be a father. Are your parents married? Why does your mother have to ask for your father´s signature?
@BabeSays (8576)
• Mauritius
3 Jun
I was the last child. My brother 5 years is older than me. Because they weren't divorced at that time.
@Butterfingers (66585)
• India
2 Jun
I am sorry to know about it, No I don't have anyone like that
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@Shasha_ (1017)
• Envigado, Colombia
2 Jun
Your post makes me cry when I read it. It's amazing how innocent we are when we were young. I'm sorry that your dad seems to hate you. But instead of feeling sad or you hated him, you acted the opposite of it. You were happy. I hope you remains happy as you forgave your Dad. I think it is tough to do like what you did. Wow. I'm amazed at you.
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@BabeSays (8576)
• Mauritius
3 Jun
Thank you Sasha. I don't know why I felt that way and I still do. I think a father is the most special person a daughter can have in her life. I've seen how my friend's father would play with their daughter, carrying them, buying sweets for them, and hugging them...I used to cry and missed my dad every day when I witness this happen.
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