My neighbor infected with HIV delivered her baby but infected too

By Erly Maglangit

@cacay1 (83220)

Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

August 18, 2023 12:43am CST

My neighbor who was infected with HIV with her liar husband delivered her baby girl the other month. And the news spread to my neighborhood like wildfire. After one month the baby was checked only to confirm she was infected with HIV. According to the doctor during pregnancy, HIV can pass through the placenta and infect the fetus. During her prenatal periods, she never told her ob that she has HIV. Also during giving birth and breastfeeding HIV passes to the baby. She does not know what to do. Many told her in the past to abort her pregnancy to avoid the risk of transmission which she did not do. Her life will never be the same again and her baby's life will always be condemned which is not her fault. How could this be solved? It seems a chain reaction, no ending problem. The mother must tell her baby when she grows up about having HIV. Do you think the child once grows mature can accept her fate?

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@arunima25 (85441)

• Bangalore, India

18 Aug

That's unfortunate. I hope that the child as she grows up has to be made aware of the situation. She needs to know it as she has to manage with it and deal with it. She has to be prepared for it.

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

18 Aug

@arunima25, yes and she will surely feel devastated. She must know once she is at the right age. The baby is so unfortunate.

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@arunima25 (85441)

• Bangalore, India

18 Aug

@cacay1 They will need a good support and motivation to carry on. Life is going to be tough for both mother and the baby, for no fault of theirs. I hope that they have enough support and strength to lead a quality life and one with dignity.

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

19 Aug

@arunima25 , her family, and the family of her ex provided them with financial needs. She supposed not to accept but her family advised her not to hate her in laws because they are innocent.

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@LadyDuck (458728)

• Switzerland

18 Aug

I am surprised she was not tested, they test women here no need that they say that they are contaminated to the doctor. Poor baby!

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@LadyDuck (458728)

• Switzerland

18 Aug

@cacay1 It is mandatory here to check to protect the baby.

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

19 Aug

@LadyDuck , I think her OB knew about her HIV and she just told a lie to the neighbors just to cover up the reality that her baby could be infected too with HIV. It is very impossible not to know because of the blood test

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

18 Aug

@LadyDuckDuck, that's right what kind of OB didn't prognose the HIV during pregnancy or prenatal sessions.

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@jstory07 (134500)

• Roseburg, Oregon

18 Aug

The poor child should know as she is growing up.

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

18 Aug

@jstory07, she must know to avoid a big problem. Hoping she won't get pregnant when she will marry to avoid the same fate.

@holdoors (2487)

• Malaysia

18 Aug

really unfortunate. hope they have like a familial support system else people may feel depressed, ostracized from others.

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

18 Aug

@holdoors, exactly unfortunate and the need a moral support from their immediately family to boost their morale.

@Aansh13 (11251)

• New Delhi, India

18 Aug

This is surely going to be a tough situation for both mother and child. Also, the future is going to be tougher. I think, with right knowledge and motivation people can drive their lives.

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

18 Aug

@Aansh13 , yes it's a tough problem for both of them. I can sense their struggles.

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@Fa_Maverick (9458)

• Australia

19 Aug

That child needs antiviral treatment like now

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

19 Aug

@Fa_Maverick, maybe the baby has it now.

@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

20 Aug

I will tell her mom. She's not easy to talk she's irritable this time.

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@Fa_Maverick (9458)

• Australia

20 Aug

@cacay1 hope so with intervention she can go into viral remission which means her viral load will be so low she wont be able to pass it on.

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@allknowing (130064)

• India

19 Aug

A chain of lies is what I see. Nothing can be done now.

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

19 Aug

@allknowing ,that is right, she has to accept her fate and move on with her baby.

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@sjvg1976 (41131)

• Delhi, India

19 Aug

That's sad. Even I am surprised how did she hide this as in hospitals HIV test is done along with the blood test as they also don't want to risk a newborn. Does she still live with her husband?

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

19 Aug

@sjvg1976 , no, she left her husband the next day after their wedding after she was told that he has HIV. It was too late for her. She was cheated on by her husband. They sued the guy but up to this time, he is still at large.

@RebeccasFarm (86830)

• United States

20 Aug

Over here, these days, there are good meds for HIV now. This is very sad what happened. As long as the child receives love in life..so sad.

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

21 Aug

@RebeccasFarm, yes so sad hoping she could accept her fate when she learns about getting infected with HIV when she grows up.

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@wolfgirl569 (95533)

• Marion, Ohio

18 Aug

That's sad. But they have some very good medicine for it now

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

19 Aug

@wolfgirl569 , yes there is good medicine but their reputations cannit be cured by the bad mouths of the neighbors.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (306722)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

18 Aug

She doesn't have a choice but to accept it. I hope they find a cure for HIV before she's grown so she can live a normal life.

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

19 Aug

@just4him, that is true, she does not have a choice but to accept the reality and move on with her baby. They have to face their own world.

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

20 Aug

@just4him yes must be to have inner peace.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (306722)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

19 Aug

@cacay1 Yes, they do.

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@Shiva49 (26215)

• Singapore

18 Aug

I heard the virus can be controlled within six months through HIV treatment. I do hope further medical advances will happen so that they can lead normal lives. The child is suffering for no fault of hers.

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

19 Aug

@Shiva49 , let us hope they an live a normal life someday if there is the right medicine.

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@peachpurple (13884)

• Malaysia

18 Aug

The child will blame the mother for sure

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@dya80dya (33641)

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18 Aug

Yes, I think the child can accept her fate.

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

19 Aug

@dya80dya , Let us hope and much better for the mom to educate her child about HIV so that when she turned 16 she can always tell her child she is infected with HIV before she could have a boyfriend.

@Beestring (13359)

• Hong Kong

18 Aug

That's unfortunate. The poor child needs to be aware that she has this sickness when she grows up. She has to accept the fate and has the courage to deal with it.

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@ogbenishyna (2970)

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18 Aug

oh , thats a very pathetic situation. I thought there is a medical procedure for preventing issues like this. Hopefully both of them will survive the issue.

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@cacay1 (83220)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

18 Aug

@ogbenishyna, yes, they will survive but the society will defame and dishonor them. They're only victims.