Do You Loathe it / myLot

By G

Philippines

September 26, 2023 5:33am CST

..... when someone sends you a message out of the blue, not to ask about your well-being, but because she needs something from you? I despise it, even if it is a family member. Last night, a "friend" messaged me asking how I was, but I know she wants me to buy anything from her online business. She had done the same thing before the pandemic started. She wants me to acquire expensive Young Living goods for her. When I noticed her post about her mental health issue a few months ago, I messaged her right away. I was worried about her health, but she didn't respond, which I find kind of rude. Now, I received a "how are you" message, and I know she needs me to buy the new things she is now advertising, which cost more than Php 5000 or $100. Never, ever again. I disregarded her message. Do you think I made the right decision?

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Sharon Elton

@sharonelton (30458)

• Lichfield, England

26 Sep 23

That is a bit rude. If you don't need any of the things, don't buy them. Just message back and say, thank you very much for your kind offer, but I don't need any of those, thank you very much. Then ask her how she is. By being nice to her you are showing her you're better than that and if she doesn't reply then that's her problem!

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@freelancermariagrace (28884)

• Philippines

27 Sep 23

Yes. She is impolite. She only remembers me when she needs something from me, which irritates me. I had previously messaged her but had not responded. She now has the time to respond since she wants to offer her expensive products.

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@freelancermariagrace (28884)

• Philippines

28 Sep 23

@sharonelton Will do. Thank you, Sharon! :) Take care!

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Sharon Elton

@sharonelton (30458)

• Lichfield, England

27 Sep 23

@freelancermariagrace Well, that's not very nice now is it? Just do what I said and politely decline her kind offer, than ask her how she is and see what happens!

But don't let her get to you. She's not worth it!

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Jeff Moffitt

@moffittjc (124240)

• Gainesville, Florida

27 Sep 23

I would have responded, “I’m doing great! Thanks for asking.” Then she couldn’t accuse you of being rude for not responding. If she then replies back asking you to buy something, then you can ignore that message.

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Jeff Moffitt

@moffittjc (124240)

• Gainesville, Florida

28 Sep 23

@freelancermariagrace Is this person a friend of yours? Because it doesn't sound like she is much of a friend.

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@freelancermariagrace (28884)

• Philippines

28 Sep 23

@moffittjc Yes. She isn't, really. I do not mind losing a "friend" like her

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@freelancermariagrace (28884)

• Philippines

28 Sep 23

Haha. Yes, that is possible. However, she did the same thing to me before the pandemic started. She really does not care about me, she just needs something from me.

I asked her how she was doing a few months ago, but did not reply. I find it rude.

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snowy

@snowy22315 (189118)

• United States

26 Sep 23

I would probably do the same.

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@freelancermariagrace (28884)

• Philippines

27 Sep 23

I know, Snowy.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (473958)

• Switzerland

26 Sep 23

She ignored you and now you are right to ignore her, particularly if you do not need to buy what she wants to sell.

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@freelancermariagrace (28884)

• Philippines

27 Sep 23

Yes. I do not need the things she is selling. In addition, they are expensive. And I do not like her attitude. Period.

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Anna

@LadyDuck (473958)

• Switzerland

27 Sep 23

@freelancermariagrace

Ignore that person.

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Jessica

@JESSY3236 (20482)

• United States

26 Sep 23

You did the right thing.

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@freelancermariagrace (28884)

• Philippines

27 Sep 23

Yes, Jessica. I'd rather lose a few fake friends.

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Judy Evans

@JudyEv (352854)

• Rockingham, Australia

27 Sep 23

I would be annoyed about these things too.

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@freelancermariagrace (28884)

• Philippines

27 Sep 23

Yes. A "convenience friend"

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rsa101

@rsa101 (38483)

• Philippines

28 Sep 23

If you suspect that the person is not truly worried about your well-being, you should avoid them immediately. I believe that many people are so concentrated on their earnings that they no longer care to find out how their targeted clients are doing.